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  • Paperback: 352 pages
  • Publisher: Little, Brown and Company (Sept. 3 2003)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0316917303
  • ISBN-13: 978-0316917308
  • Product Dimensions: 14 x 2.2 x 21 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 318 g
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #91,296 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Elman, director of the Summit Center for Learning in Summit, N.J., and Kennedy-Moore, a Westfield, N.J., psychotherapist, offer a detailed examination of the different ways children interact with their peers. Often, otherwise bright and "normal" children behave in ways that cause other children, family members and teachers to label them as disruptive, unhappy or troublesome. There are nine types of children, according to the authors, including the "short-fused," "little adult," "born leader" and "different drummer." Parents will immediately be able to identify their child from the detailed descriptions included. For example, "Short-Fused Children may appear to be strong, but inside they feel vulnerable. These children are extremely sensitive. They often believe that the whole world is against them. Because they feel threatened, they respond angrily, instinctively fighting to protect themselves." As they explain the various types of behaviors, the authors depict a number of scenarios to show the difficulties children can have relating to others. The challenge for the parents is to help their children learn "the Unwritten Rules" so they have fewer problems and form happier, more productive relationships. The authors provide specific sentences that both parents and children can use to change these destructive behavior patterns, but some parents will probably hope for even more specific do's and don'ts. Given that other childrearing tomes rarely cover this topic, this book is a welcome addition to the parenting library.
Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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By A Customer on March 27 2005
Format: Paperback
This book will help many a shy adult as well as people of all ages with Asperger's Syndrome. This book is an excellent navigational tool in decoding the Tacit Social Codes & Rules. Asperger's Syndrome, which is in the autism spectrum includes a lack of intuitive knowledge of these Social Codes & Rules and their accompanying skills. This book reaches people on the spectrum on the cognitive level and helps many to compensate cognitively for what is lacked intuitively.
I like the way it empowers parents and educators to realize that not everybody can just approach a peer and make an instant friend. Relying on tired cliches such as constant reassurance at best or criticism/blame at worst, the book acts as a "how to" in order to improve social skills. No promises are made and encouragement is given instead. Had this book existed when I was a child, much sorrow and shame might have been avoided. Compassion is the tone of the book and I cannot recommend it highly enough.
If I could give this book a higher rating, I would cheerfully do so.
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By A Customer on Sept. 15 2003
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I was relieved to find concrete explanations and helpful strategies in this book. Those of us with kids who just don't seem to form the right relationships, can benefit from the real world application of the authors' knowledge. I have already tried some of the ideas for learning games and subtle suggestions , to good effect. It feels good to take some action to help my child fit in without feeling like I am interfering.
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By A Customer on Sept. 15 2003
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I loved this book! Its so gentle yet practical. I have two boys and the ideas in the book were helpful for both of them. I also recognized some of the issues I struggled with as a child. The advice in the book was even helpful to me!
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86 of 86 people found the following review helpful
A Godsend and Ideal For All Ages March 27 2005
By BeatleBangs1964 - Published on Amazon.com
Format: Paperback
This book will help many a shy adult as well as people of all ages with Asperger's Syndrome. This book is an excellent navigational tool in decoding the Tacit Social Codes & Rules. Asperger's Syndrome, which is in the autism spectrum includes a lack of intuitive knowledge of these Social Codes & Rules and their accompanying skills. This book reaches people on the spectrum on the cognitive level and helps many to compensate cognitively for what is lacked intuitively.

I like the way it empowers parents and educators to realize that not everybody can just approach a peer and make an instant friend. Instead of relying on tired cliches such as constant reassurance at best or criticism/blame at worst, this book acts as a "how to" guide in order to improve social skills. No promises are made and encouragement is given instead. Had this book existed when I was a child, much sorrow and shame might have been avoided. Compassion is the tone of the book and I cannot recommend it highly enough.

If I could give this book a higher rating, I would cheerfully do so.
99 of 100 people found the following review helpful
Wish my parents had this when I was a kid Aug. 9 2005
By Jennifer Merrill - Published on Amazon.com
Format: Paperback
As a shy child who had troubles making friends, this book would have been enormously helpful. I bought it because I realized my daughter was having the same problems I used to have, and I felt helpless to know what to tell her to help her. I didn't want her to suffer as I had, but I wasn't exactly qualified to tell another person how to make friends! I am so glad I got this book. It is full of practical, detailed advice on what you can do to teach your child social skills. I'm finding it useful too! I would recommend it whole-heartedly to anyone who is in the same situation I was in.
35 of 37 people found the following review helpful
required reading July 30 2005
By Pen - Published on Amazon.com
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This book has an eye-catching title, but really the title suggests just a small portion of what this book provides. A real look at how to really raise children with different emotional needs, treating them like individuals and people - and offering concrete and specific suggestions and techniques, not the usual cliche drivel. Every parent or future parent should receive a copy of this book. Not a bad resource for non-parents too.
40 of 43 people found the following review helpful
A Grateful Mental Health Counselor... Nov. 6 2003
By A Customer - Published on Amazon.com
Format: Paperback
This book is an absolute must for parents AND teachers who want to guide children through the mastering of essential social skills for building friendships. The all inclusive presentation of means and methods for knowing and implementing The Unwritten Rules will spare many children from the pain of unknowingly inviting social rejection. It's all within The Unwritten Rules...clearly visible to the mind and heart. The authors admirably and impressively answer many children's calls for help.
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I know some of these kids. Oct. 11 2003
By A Customer - Published on Amazon.com
Format: Paperback
Well-organized with chapters on different types of children --the shy child, the different drummer, etc. States unwritten rules which elude many children in dealing with peers and others. Lots of examples and practical how-to professional advice. Gives parents tools to help their child overcome problems in making friends.


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