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  • Publisher: Listen & Live Audio; Abridged edition (June 1 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 159316128X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1593161286
  • Product Dimensions: 16.3 x 13.9 x 2.5 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 159 g
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (149 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #556,449 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Are you now, or have you ever been, in relationships with family, friends, or mates who have been verbally abusive? Is your happiness with someone you love continually threatened by interactions that continually undermine your self-esteem? Do you feel trapped in a relationship that keeps decaying in a downward spiral of overt or passive-aggressive abuse?

If so, this book could be your life raft, either carrying you toward repair of the existing relationship or the effects of past relationships or offering liberation from your current confusion. Its practical approach can help clear your head and possibly change your life. The only criticism that I and other readers have is that the author assumes verbal abuse is almost always directed by males toward females, which, in my experience and that of others I know, is not necessarily the case. Highly Recommended. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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"A great, great book." -- Sonya Friedman, CNN

"A groundbreaking book..." -- Newsweek

"This is a new day in America. The most important thing is to realize that you don't deserve to be treated that way." -- Oprah Winfrey --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful By Becky on June 23 2004
Format: Paperback
This book was instrumental in helping me realize what was going on in my marriage--I recognized my (ex)husband and myself on almost every page!
I became frustrated, however, when I'd try some of the techniques Evans suggests for responding to VA and end up being abused even more. Saying "Stop it!" or "Cut it out!"was tantamount to telling him "Step it up!"
I had to go to other sources of information to find guidance on what to do if I needed to get away (and I did). She does mention that staying could be unwise if the abuser threatens physical harm or if the victim feels "stunned" or "shocked." Perhaps detailed advice about how to summon the strength to get out goes beyond the book's purpose. That's why I feel this book should be supplemented with others about abuse and recovery from it.
I'd also like to see some mention of the importance of balance. What is and isn't *abusive* can be ambiguous. Sometimes it isn't the words themselves that are abusive;rather it's the intent behind them that needs examining.
An example is found in a list of discounting statements on page 92: "You read things into my words". I've said that to my abuser because he DID tend to interpret things I said in negative ways when I knew I meant nothing negative at all. Does my saying that make me abusive? Was I discounting him or was I trying(in vain) to *make* him understand me and what he was doing to me? I found this confusing.
I'd also like to see a revision that includes male victims and their stories. I agree that they deserve to be specifically included.
In summary: this book is great in that it validates the VA victim's experience and helps him/her realize that they aren't going crazy!It gives some responses that may or may not be effective in stopping the abuse, but at least offer better alternatives to becoming hysterical, deeply depressed, and even more intimidated.
Alone, however,it's not enough.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on June 29 2004
Format: Paperback
Pick up this book if dealing with your partner brings up feelings of your ineptness in his/her eyes, invalidation, FEAR, oppression, disenfranchisement to feel your feelings, a sense that you're a nuissance to your partner, or you feel stripped of your confidence and sense of self worth. Verbal abuse is not only overt, but covert which can be most damaging due to its insidious nature. If you're having feelings which you can't name, but are signals that somehow something is destroying your sense of wholeness as a person - pick up this book. It will help you name the feelings whose identities escape you. But, do pick up complementary books as this one serves to "identify" and not so much give explanations.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Gail on April 18 2004
Format: Paperback
Reading this book literally saved my life! I spend years believing that all the rages, anger and blaming were all due to me and my shortcoming. I begin to feel as if everything I did was wrong, how I dressed was wrong, how I thought and felt were wrong. Anything and everything could become a battle and it was always my fault, or so he said!!! I lived in a state of confusion, fear and my main goal in life was to "keep my abuser from getting angry." Living on eggshells in no way to live and you ultimately fail at it anyway...the rages and name calling always returned no matter what. My life felt out of control until a good friend recommended this book to me! This book saved me from years of continuing abuse and confusion as to why this was happening to me. It described the abuse I was receiving and I begin to understand the "whys" of my abusers madness. It was validation to me and it helped me end the craziness, and the daily abuse, I was living with. Leaving an abuser isn't always easy, but it's easier than living with one.
This book brought sanity back to my life and I will always be grateful for Patricia Evans for her insightful and well written words.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on June 23 2004
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This book changed my life. It helped me to identify and analyze my own verbally abusive relationship. If I would have known about the dynamics of an abusive realtionship earlier in my life, I believe I could have avoided the trap or be able to leave at an earlier point of this relationship. It has become the most important book of my life.
It is geared towards male and female verbal abuse but focuses more on the women's point of view since they often suffer far more.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By k_a_od on June 14 2004
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A close friend lent me this book after hearing for a few years details of my relationship with my X-boyfriend....I wish I had had this at the beginning of our relationship and I would have gotten out *so* much earlier!! Finally, someone quantified the insidious behavior I had dealt with from my X, including example quotes that my boyfriend and I had actually said to each other!!! Most people at this point know of overt verbal and physical abuse, but the other verbally abusive stuff included in this book, like witholding, put-downs disguised as jokes, put-downs disguised as trying to be helpful...I've never read that anywhere else. I knew I was miserable and but didn't want to get out since the "resume" read right, his public persona which I initially fell for was completely charming...I wanted to try to "fix" it, figure it out, but couldn't put my finger on what was going on, and a lot of the blame got put on me...I highly recomend this book to those out there dating, or anyone else in a relationship who is miserable but can't put their finger on why exactly.
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