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The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire [Paperback]

David Deida
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March 1 2006

The Ultimate Spiritual Guide for Men

What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good lover? If you're a man reading this, you've undoubtedly asked yourself these questions-but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now.

In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives-from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality and relationships-to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise.

"It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart," writes David Deida. "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine." The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge-and reward-for today's man: to discover the 'unity of heart and spine' through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.



Part One:  A Man's Way
Part Two:  Dealing With Women
Part Three:  Working With Polarity and Energy
Part Four:  What Women Really Want
Part Five:  Your Dark Side
Part Six:  Feminine Attractiveness
Part Seven:  Body Practices
Part Eight:  Men's and Women's Yoga of Intimacy



This book is a guide for a specific kind of newly evolving man.  This man is unabashedly masculine-- he is purposeful, confident, and directed, living his chosen way of life with deep integrity and humor-- and he is sensitive, spontaneous, and spiritually alive, with a heart-commitment to discovering and living his deepest truth.

This newly evolving man is not a scared bully, posturing like some King Kong in charge of the universe.  Nor is he a new age wimp, are spineless, smiley, and starry-eyed.  He has embraced both his inner masculine and feminine, and he no longer holds onto either of them.  He doesn't need to be right all the time, nor does he need to always be safe, cooperative, and sharing, like an androgynous Mr. Nice Guy.  He simply lives from his deepest core, fearlessly living his gifts, feeling through the fleeting moment into the openness of existence, totally committed to magnifying love.

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"I keep giving this book away; I think I've owned 30 different copies already. I tend to pass it out to anybody, man or woman, who has made a commitment to-or even has a passing interest in-the art of loving. David Deida gets it, like no one I've ever read, and he writes about it forcefully, honestly, and downright poetically."
-Michael Tucker, actor and author

"The Way of the Superior Man is quite wonderful. Finally, a guide for the noncastrated male. This book will offend and infuriate some, inspire and test others, but challenge virtually everybody. I found it wise, insightful, occasionally brilliant, and always resourceful. To transcend the body-mind means to transcend and include its sexuality, not transcend and evaporate it. Few are the books that discuss strong sexuality within strong spirituality, instead of tepid sexuality diluted by a mediocre spiritual stance. This book steps straightforwardly into the challenge. Love it or loathe it, it is a shout from the heart of one perspective of the eternal masculine."
-Ken Wilber, author of Sex, Ecology, Spirituality; No Boundary; and Grace and Grit

"At last! A book that explains the heart and soul of a woman to men. As a woman, I've never felt so understood and validated. This book is a key to helping men and women take their relationships one step further. Finally, a clear and brilliant guide to unraveling the mystery of relationships."
-Marci Shimoff, co-author of the New York Times #1 bestseller Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul

"The Way of the Superior Man lays out a challenge before all men to fulfill their true purpose and to be authentically masculine. It will guide you on your journey to a successful and spiritually complete way of life. I invite you to live in the moment, to love openly, and to step up to the plate with this book in your hand."
-Tony Robbins, author of Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power

"David's work speaks to the core of our work as men. He offers a bold view of men, and challenges us to stand up and lay claim to the beauty and power of the masculine. He does not advocate superiority as in 'superiority to women.' He speaks of superiority as the Greeks might. The challenge is strictly internal. The invitation is to rise above our mediocrity, to let go of making excuses for our own laziness, to stop apologizing for who we are, and to stop blaming others or our childhood for how we've become. He asks that we step into the fullness of our being-intense, focused, powerful, clear. And directly connected to our hearts."
-Dennis Mead-Shikaly, Executive Director: The ManKind Project / New Warrior Network

About the Author

David Deida is internationally renowned for his revolutionary insights into mens and womens consciousness and his commitment to deepening genuine spiritual and sexual practice. Acknowledged as one of the most insightful and provocative spiritual teachers of our time, Deida continues to revolutionize the way that men and women grow spiritually and sexually.  Deida is known worldwide as the author of hundreds of essays, audiotapes, videotapes, articles, and books that bring to light an integral approach to spirituality.  His books include the best-selling underground classic, The Way of the Superior Man; several practical texts on authentic sexual spirituality, including Finding God Through Sex and Blue Truth, and the autobiographical novel about highly unconventional spiritual training, Wild Nights.

David Deida's books are published in more than twenty-five languages worldwide and are required reading in university, church, and spiritual center courses, source texts used in men's and women's groups around the world, and are considered important resources for spiritual transformation and sacred sexuality by everyone from achievement coach Tony Robbins to philosopher Ken Wilber to minister and spiritual spokeswoman Marianne Williamson.

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful
By Merlin
This book is not for babies. 4 of the most fantastic women I know recommended I read this book. These are powerful intelligent women who will not suffer fools, or weak men. Brothers, it's time we had both a heart AND a spine. It's time we became authentically masculine. This book speaks to me as a man like no other. It isn't filled with pop psychology or all about learning cute little seduction techniques. Who are you? What's your purpose? Do you have the courage to go and find it, whatever the cost? And find uncommon rewards? Are you strong enough to love with a fully open heart? To let go of Mommy? To become self-reliant and give you true gifts to the world and to your woman? To let go of excuses? To continuously grow? To understand her moods? To understand and properly channel your attractions? To be challenged and stay standing? To be criticized and find the gift in it? And to know a higher, deeper, more blissful kind of love? Or would you just rather not fully wake up and keep with the routine of job, housework, buddies and TV? Your choice. David Deida gives it to you straight. He's even a bit harsh at times. But always on the mark. He's helped me wake up and understand so much about my relationships. But like I said, it's not for babies and it may not be for everybody, unless you're ready for it. Are you?
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3.0 out of 5 stars Think twice May 2 2011
By Kyle
I bought this book for myself. As someone finishing up University and starting a career I was, and am still, seeking some pointers on "manhood" and "adulthood" from a neutral perspective. This book is not it. This book should be called "how to outsmart women", because that is all this book essentially is. It outlines the struggle of the masculine essence against its id counterpart, the female essence or energy. In the scope of a "how-to" for men and women in relationships, it has a few good points but most of it is so esoteric that there is no point. The book is rife with inneundo (not always a bad thing) and is basically a pseudo-pornographic novel for someone who has no clue about women. "When she is angry, pause, think what is really making her angry, and then do something funny like lick her face or press your belly against her". Is this really going to get my anywhere in life? I doubt it. Fun, quick, easy, but please use your brain when you read this and assess the fact from fiction. The facts are not any hidden mystery or mathmatical equation, it's all common sense with this book.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Must reading for men July 29 2008
This is a practical guide that acknowledges and deeply values the differing roles - masculine and feminine - in any relationship. It provides clear insights on the challenges that every man faces, individually and in relationship, and specific advice that can be used immediately. I've been active in the men's movement for 5+ years, and have found this book's insights to be consistently accurate, relevant and helpful.
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5.0 out of 5 stars The very best book on being a man in these times! June 30 2014
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We recommend this book to all the emn we know. In fact we often gift them the book it's so special.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Superior! May 3 2014
I really wish I found this book years ago. After a number of failed relationships, I was really starting to accumulate an unhealthy resentment towards women. David Deida clears up virtually all the questions I had about why women behave the way they do towards men and also emphasizes the responsibility that men must honor and uphold to command their lives with power,.confidence and love. When my younger brother starts high school and starts to experience the turbulence of young love for himself, I'll be sure to hand him this book so he can avoid many much of the heartache and confusion that I endured. I'll be referencing this book for years to come.
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5.0 out of 5 stars All about what makes a man tick and more Jan. 2 2014
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Every woman needs to read this if you expect to get anywhere with men. This is teh bible about women, how they work, think want . Come one women you aren't successful with men because you never change what your doing. read the superior man and teh Blue truth understand yourself and men or women.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Good Stuff :) Oct. 8 2013
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I've only read it once so far, but I've been listening to alot of Davids talks and I think he has much to offer. :) I look forward to reading more of his works. :)
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5.0 out of 5 stars awesome Sept. 22 2013
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A great read. The sort of book you will keep re-reading for years to come! Awesome, thanks David Deida for your insight into what makes men tick!
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