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I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" Paperback – Dec 25 2007


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 336 pages
  • Publisher: Gotham (Dec 25 2007)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1592403352
  • ISBN-13: 978-1592403356
  • Product Dimensions: 13.7 x 2 x 20.4 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 272 g
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #1,263 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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University of Houston researcher and social worker Brown believes shame underlies the spread of depression, anxiety, eating disorders and much more, and drawing on a study of hundreds of women, she constructs a method for overcoming it. Brown defines shame as "the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging" and believes its spread has been created by conflicting and competing expectations about who women should be. Women feel shame about their appearance, about motherhood, family, money/work, health, stereotypes and trauma. Brown quotes liberally from the women she has studied and, most enlighteningly, gives examples from her own experiences juggling motherhood, career and her social life. These revelations underscore her belief in the importance of exposing shame and, through empathy, helping oneself and others move past it. She underscores the need to practice critical awareness, i.e., understanding the social forces that create shame in us can help us fight the sense of shame. Thus, Brown presents a spirited attack on the media and the beauty industry for presenting unrealistic images of women. Directing readers to focus on personal growth as opposed to unattainable perfection, Brown urges them to practice shame-resilience skills and teach them to their children. (Feb.)
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Interviewing hundreds of women over six years, Brown was constantly faced with the shame just talking about shame induced. She explores how and why this universal human emotion is particularly present in women and how it affects behavior and relationships. She relates women's stories of shame about everything from obsession over appearance to sexual abuse, abuse of alcohol and drugs, and inadequacies as mothers, wives, and lovers. Brown offers insights and strategies for understanding shame and overcoming its power over women. She begins by defining shame and differentiating it from other emotions, and explores how shame is used and induced in the broader culture. She then identifies four elements of resilience: recognizing shame triggers, critical awareness, reaching out for help and connection with others, and speaking out about shame. She advises women on practicing courage, compassion, and connection to overcome cultures of fear, blame, and disconnection. An interesting look at a debilitating emotion that stunts the potential of too many women. Vanessa Bush
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30 of 31 people found the following review helpful By Tami Brady HALL OF FAMETOP 50 REVIEWER on Oct. 7 2007
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It seems like the epidemic that no one wants to talk about. We all try to put this perfect face out to the world. Really, I am the perfect mother, my house is completely clean, I am fulfilled in my job, I am financially successful, I am a perfect size two, I have plenty of time to connect on a deeper level with my loving husband, and I have tons of friends who I share my every thought. Well, that's what we think we should be. The truth just doesn't always match our expectations.

The problem is that somewhere along the line we lost sight of the fact that humans are perfect and our lives are often filled with reality. Try as we might, we are going to eat that cookie (or the whole bag) and gain three pounds. Our chaotic schedule is going to get the better of us and we are going to forget to bake cupcakes for the school bake sale.

I Thought It Was Just Me looks at the topic of shame. For many of us, during those moments when reality doesn't match our fantasy image of ourselves, we feel shame. Shame goes beyond simple embarrassment or irritation. Shame is a form of self abuse where we berate ourselves for not being perfect.

I Thought It Was Just Me is an important book that reminds us all that to be human is to err. Maybe it's time we all stopped trying to be everything to everyone and just tried to be ourselves. Maybe it's time we all tried being kind, compassionate, and loving (to others and to ourselves).
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By vicki leclerc on April 30 2013
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I used my highlighter on so many pages of this book. Seriously makes you take a deeper look at what makes people tick and click. I love the personal anecdotes and the orderly way she presents her material from the research. I'm now reading the next book she wrote which is just as juicy. I saw her in an interview with Oprah as well as her presentation on the net and I just had to get her books.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By DWAL on July 5 2014
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a great read for those who are in search of their "self". If you would like to know about Brene's information go to TED talks and you can listen to her. She is a great speaker and really makes sense-puts herself in situations and adds comedy to her sessions.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By David Whitney on May 21 2013
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This is a life-changing book. I love what Brene Brown has given to us. Thank you for doing this work Brene; it has moved me to a better way of living.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Heather Mackay on April 4 2013
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This is the my least favorite Brene Brown book, but it is jammed packed with information in understanding shame, triggers and resilience to shame.
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This was a disappointing purchase. I think the write-up explaining the contents could have a been more clear.

For example, it should have said 'This is a book only for women who are experiencing shame'.

Dave
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By Chantelle on March 26 2014
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Inspiring. Reminded me that I was human and we all have similar experiences. Being able to relate to others in those moments helps you heal.
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By Donna J. Bruce on March 25 2014
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I found the book informative and well written. Brene covers difficult subject matter in an easily understood manner and with humour. I enjoyed the book so much that I have purchased others that she has written and recommended it to several of my friends
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