This is a perfectly wonderful little book, not just for victims of childhood sexual abuse and those who love them but also for service providers. It is simply and clearly written, but the ideas and insights set forth in these pages are the very essence of good psychotherapeutic practice. A few of the topics Daugherty covers in remarkably few pages: how information can help you take charge of a problem; the importance of accepting and acknowledging your ambivalent feelings about other people; why anger is valuable and how it can be used constructively; how to manage fear and anxiety; how to build a capacity for trust; how identifying the options among which you can choose will make you feel better; and how to build your self-esteem and increase your enjoyment of life. Daugherty's recommendations stress the importance of honoring and being guided by your feelings. Her wisdom and compassion will come as a boon to anyone seeking greater understanding of him- or herself as well as others. -- Amazon.com, August 19, 2008
"A good beginning book" By nm201 (New Mexico) - Amazon Verified Purchase. 5.0 out of 5 stars.
As the blurb says, this is a "good beginning book." In clear, simple English--not psychobabble--it explains the experience of child sexual abuse, its effects on victims, and ways that former victims can change their lives for the better. It also contains stories told by victims about their abuse, and a guide to further information and help. The section on how to select a therapist is especially helpful, for people going that route.
The book is easy to read. Its everyday language and basic explanations may seem overly simplified to some readers, but this is not really a problem if a "beginning book" is what you want. People who have already done a lot of reading in the field will find no "sophisticated" approaches here--just good, practical suggestions for ways to feel better.
The book addresses male as well as female victims and both "conservatives" and "liberals" should find it useful. The informal writing style helps readers connect with the author. She is clearly knowledgeable about child sexual abuse and inspires confidence not only in her guidance but in the reader's ability to heal.
I recommend this book to anyone who wants to start learning about recovery from child sexual abuse. -- Amazon.com, May 11, 2008
"It really helped me," By dee-dee-cc (Florida). 5.0 out of 5 stars. This is a great book. It really helped me. The stories from other people who were molested when they were kids helped me see that it happens to lots of people in lots of different ways. There were stories from boys too so it is not just something that happens to girls.
The book was easy to read and it was quick. You could just read parts of it at a time. It also made sense and sounded like the author really understood. I have never talked to a counselor before but I am thinking about doing that now.
At the end of the book it tells you that if the book was helpful you should loan it to a friend who needs it. I have been doing that except I bought some books and gave them to my cousins who were molested by the same uncle as me. They said they liked the book too. -- Amazon.com, May 7, 2008