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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 170 pages
  • Publisher: Namelos (Sept. 1 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1608981142
  • ISBN-13: 978-1608981144
  • Product Dimensions: 14 x 1.4 x 21.6 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 386 g
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars 1 customer review
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By Louise Jolly TOP 100 REVIEWER on Oct. 27 2011
Format: Hardcover
Story Description:

T.J. has always looked out for his little sister, Angela. When Momma used to go out and leave them home alone, he'd lock the door so they'd be safe, keep Angela entertained, and get out the cereal and milk for her. When Momma's boyfriend got angry at them, he'd try to protect Angela. Later, at their foster homes, T.J. was the only one who knew how to coax his little sister out of her bad moods. The only one who understood why she made origami paper cranes and threw them out the window. But now T.J. is sitting in the waiting room at the hospital, wondering if Angela, unconscious after a fall, will ever wake up. Wondering, too, if he will ever feel at home with his and Angela's new parents--Marlene, who insists on calling him Timothy, and Dan, who seems to want a different son. Going back and forth between Now and Then, weaving the uncertain present with the painful past, T.J.'s story unfolds, and with the unfolding comes a new understanding of how to move forward.

My Review:

T.J. is sitting in the hospital emergency room waiting. His little sister Angela had already been brought in by ambulance ahead of them. Marlene and Dan were in with her now, but he was told to wait and that's just what he's doing.

Angela had fallen twelve feet. Marlene and Dan Westel had become T.J. and Angela's `adoptive parents' a year ago. T.J. was 12 and Angela was 8.

When T.J. was quite young, his mother Celia left him and Angela with her friend Tanya, he had just begun kindergarten and little Angela was still stumbling around in smelly diapers. Celia told Tanya that she was just going to get her hair done but T.J. knew that was a lie. He'd heard his Mom on the phone talking to a man making arrangements to meet at a bar.
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HASH(0xa5ceeba0) out of 5 stars Review from Blkosiner's Book Blog Nov. 1 2011
By Brandi Leigh Kosiner - Published on
Format: Paperback
Ms. Welch spins an intriguing story in Waiting to Forget. It is like a train wreck reading about these children and all they went through, but I know that I for one could not look away. TJ and Angela evoke sympathy, and I couldn't help but be invested in their stories.
Sometimes the jumps in narrative from one time in the story to another can be jarring and confusing, but it was done very well in Waiting to Forget. The use of TJ's life book-pictures and drawings to help him remember his life before adoption assist in bringing back memories, and then it ties well back into the plot when he comes to the present.
TJ and Angela are so strong and resilient, it makes me love them even more. I can see how they grow, how they were hurt, and ultimately how they heal and accept a new and better life, and it blossoms out in the story.
Ms. Welch seems to make everything very realistic, from their emotions to the details of how the world around them might see them--from teachers, social workers, momma, the boyfriends, and the world outside. But I didn't feel like I was in the outside world, I felt like I was given a front seat to their life.
If you like realistic, contemporary, or tough issues (or even if you don't but the description intrigues you) I recommend you pick up Waiting to Forget and give it a try.
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0xa5ceefa8) out of 5 stars A Wonderful Read Sept. 13 2011
By Robert Kent - Published on
Format: Paperback
Meet T.J., also known as Timothy, also known as Terry Jerry, and "it's not unusual" for him to be referred to as Tom Jones (cracking myself up this week). But he prefers T.J. (for most of the story) and he's an eleven-year-old kid with an adult's problems because there is no adult to handle his problems for him. When we first encounter T.J., he's sitting in a hospital waiting room, which is an appropriate place for him to be given the title of the book. T.J. is waiting to find out whether or not his little sister Angela is going to die or not.

It's a good hook, one we've seen before and one we'll see again because some things just work and always will. Even before we know anything about the characters, we are at least somewhat curious about what's going to happen. Just knowing a little girl might die and her big brother will have to be told about it is inherently suspenseful.

Welch can't leave it here, of course. She still has to tell us what happened and who this little boy and little girl are to really draw us in, and she does, but it takes some pages and this premise will catch us on page one. Better yet, Welch doesn't tell us the fate of the little girl until the very end, so to have your natural curiosity satisfied, you'll have to read the whole book. And as we learn more about these children and come to love them as characters, the question of Angela's fate becomes all the more compelling and pulls us right through the story. That's why they call it a hook.

Another thing in Welch's favor is that the tone of Waiting to Forget allows us to believe in the possibility that Angela could die, and that's very important. Imagine, if you will, a television special in which one of those stupid care bears is critically injured (I would actually tune in if this ever happened) and the other care bears waited in the hospital to find out if Fuzzy Fluffington (I don't know what their actual names are) is going to bite it. There's no real suspense here because we all know by the end of the episode they're going to gather together and do their deus-ex-machina care-bear stare that makes everything better like they always do and Fuzzy Fluffington will come back to life (please, please let him have acquired an unnatural appetite for the flesh of other care bears).

What I'm getting at is in order for the old will-one-of-the-main-characters-die-by-the-end-of-this-story hook to work, we have to believe the writer is willing to shoot her hostage. For this reason (among others), this hook is not appropriate for every story. But Welch has a crazy look in her eye. She'll do it, man. The tone of Waiting to Forget is somber and realistic. A lot of very sad things happen before the end and the death of a little girl would, in some ways, be par for the course.

Esteemed Reader, you know I would never tell you whether the little girl dies or not, so let's move on. Waiting to Forget is broken into two sections called "Now" and "Then." Now is T.J. in the hospital with his new foster parents, but most of the novel is concerned with Then, which is everything that happened prior to Now. T.J.'s mother is, or was... well, I'll let T.J. tell you:

Momma wanted to get out. She wanted to go have some fun. T.J. thought he understood. Momma was like the fragile green bug with transparent wings that had wandered into the living room one night. It had circled the lamp next to the couch where he and Angela were supposed to be sleeping. The little bug tried to get closer and closer to the light, which T.J. finally turned off, despite Angela's squeals of protest, just so he wouldn't hear the incessant ping, ping, ping of the bug hitting the bulb. In the morning, the insect was gone. Nightlife--bars and men and music--were like a lamp to Momma, drawing her away from home when night came.

Momma is a frustrating character. What makes a bad parent? Having been contemplating parenthood, this is a question I find myself asking myself often. Mrs. Ninja and I know a couple who allowed their little brat to run around yelling and making a mess during dinner and who only laughed when the punk kicked me in the face. Never have I been so tempted to spank someone else's kid--he could use it, but Daddy just laughed, and it was his call. Now that's bad parenting, but all things being relative, I wouldn't recommend social services take away junior. Dad's a jerk and he's raising a little jerk, but this is America, and with so many kids homeless and/or abused, the kid's better off than many.

Momma is the sort of mixed-up person your heart goes out to, but who you probably wouldn't want to know. Welch shares enough of Momma's back-story to make her briefly empathetic, but in the end she and her endless string of no-good boyfriends is the problem. Unfortunately, some of the best people in the word aren't able to have children and some of the worst of humanity breeds like the inhabitants of Watership Down. This means the popularity of Larry the Cable Guy and Tyler Perry will only increase in future generations (shakes head sadly).

This story isn't about Momma, or I would have stopped reading it after a few chapters. I have an old friend whose phone calls I dread because she has been on a path to destroy her life for a while and every time I talk to her, she's a little further along. It isn't any fun hearing what she's been up to, I can't live her life for her, and whatever she tells me, I know it's not going to be good, because of the way she's chosen to live. I try to miss her phone calls and I wouldn't read a book about her. But my old friend doesn't have children. She makes me sad, but I don't want to shake her the way I wanted to shake Momma as I read Waiting to Forget.

Thankfully, this story is about T.J. and Angela. T.J. has to become Angela's parent because otherwise she would have none. As much as I hated Momma, I liked her kids. I wanted to find out what happened to them. T.J. is a character who's as relatable as he is because of the conflict that surrounds him. His goal is a happy home for he and his sister--what reader wouldn't relate to that goal? The opposition against him is tremendous. This is a story worth reading and immediately interesting. What greater opposition can an eleven-year-old face than his own mother and her abusive boyfriends?

Waiting to Forget is an exciting read that has some very sad parts, but a few laughs as well, and leaves the reader with a sense of triumph among tragedy. I'm not going to say anything more as I don't want to spoil the whole book, but pick up a copy. You'll be glad you did. And when you do, ask yourself "what is the significance of T.J. telling us that his mother is dead," which sounds like a craft point I probably should have discussed. But I'm not sure how to do it without ruining the novel. So, instead, I'll leave you with some of my favorite passages from Waiting to Forget:

T.J. watched Momma leave, swinging her hips and her purse as she went down the front walk. Her reddish hair looked alive, almost like flames, licking at her shoulders. He knew she wasn't getting her hair done. She'd met a new man.

By the time T.J. got home from school that day, the dog had made a couple of puddles on the rug that were bigger than the dog.

Then he squints down at the sun picture, wishing it gave off heat like the real sun. The waiting room is chilly, the air clammy and stale, and he thinks he can taste disinfectant on his lips.

T.J. wished he were Spider-Man and could climb out a window and up the side of the building to the roof.

The day felt endless and dreary like the dark spring sky.
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0xa5cf203c) out of 5 stars Powerful and Emotionally True Sept. 6 2011
By C. Saller - Published on
Format: Paperback
I loved this book. The situation is heart-wrenching, of a young boy who has had so little stability and love in his life that he's never learned how to let down his guard enough to trust someone. Now his little sister's life is in danger, and his loneliness, fear, and guilt (was he partly responsible?) are finely portrayed.

Alternating between past and present (chapters are simply titled Now and Then), the narrative clues us in on TJ and Angela's abandonment by their unstable mother and their upbringing in a series of foster homes, while keeping us in suspense as to what exactly has put Angela in the hospital.

The writing is quiet and restrained, which makes it all the more powerful. We keep hoping that TJ will open his heart even just a little to his new adoptive parents. I won't spoil the ending, but I found it moving and emotionally true.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0xa5cf23cc) out of 5 stars Exceptional Book!!! Aug. 1 2011
By Dakota Girl - Published on
Format: Paperback
As an adoptive mom of a teenager, I was looking forward to reading this book. Once I started reading it, I was hooked! Its well written and holds your attention. Its written in a now/then format with the entire book essentially taking place in one day, but the reflection pieces cover a number of years. The main character, T.J., and his younger sister have recently been adopted through foster care. The reflection pieces tell how they came into foster care, talking about different painful times of their life with their biological mother. Welch uses T.J.'s life book to help him process his past and tell the story.

I will be blunt. While this is fiction, the things Welch includes as what T.J. (and his sister) experience while living with their biological mother are things that kids who have been placed in foster have (and unfortunately often do) experience. They are painful. They will cause you to be angry. They will bring up tears. They will not be easy to remove from your thoughts. These characters will stay with you. I am still thinking about them--and its been several days since I finished reading it.

So, who should read this book? Well, I don't think that all pre-teens or teens should as some are just way too naive and sensitive to be exposed (yet) to the bad things that are in the world. However, if you have a child who has experienced foster care or a foster care placement, this might be a good book for them to read. If you work with children, it might be a good book for you to read simply for awareness. If you are looking for a book that will move you, it would be a great book to read. The writing/word choice is exceptional. You do not feel like you are reading a "teen" book. Its good. I don't get much time to read, but I was done in about 2 days. Its definitely worth the effort. You won't be disappointed, but you certainly will be changed. THAT I can guarantee. Exceptional book. I highly recommend it!
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0xa5cf2504) out of 5 stars Although this book is quite different from my usual reads I was glad I read it. June 21 2014
By Kathy Habel - Published on
Format: Kindle Edition
I was honestly surprised by how much I ended up liking this book especially considering the subject matter. Waiting to Forget is a well written story about two young children who have been neglected by their selfish, sometimes abusive, mother. It is a touching, heart-breaking read. Written in an alternating Then, Now and Between Then and Now format this book hooked me from the beginning. The author shared just enough details to let you know about their struggles without being too graphic or overdone.

Although this book is quite different from my usual reads I was glad I read it. The ultimate message was one more than just survival, it was about second chances and moving beyond the past to a better future.

Recommended to those who enjoy contemporary, realistic fiction that deals with something other than teen romance.

Rating: 4 Stars – Great Book

Content: a couple swear words

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