What Matters Most: The Power of Living Your Values [Paperback]

"Be yourself, but be that perfectly" is the theme of this book. The problem is that " . . . too many have lost contact with the deeply held values that matter." As a result, being yourself perfectly " . . . won't necessarily be easy." This argument is based on the observation of the sense of peace and comfort we feel when we act in alignment with our values, and the unease that follows acting out of alignment with those values. Many anecdotes are shared that will ring true in almost everyone's experience to make that point.

The bulk of the book focuses on helping you uncover what those values are and how to act more in alignment with them by using the benefits of more planning, action, and discovery in coordinating your roles with your life's mission and values. Mr. Smith is part of the Franklin Covey Company (for which he helped create the Franklin planner), and much of his thinking on mission and values will seem familiar from reading Dr. Stephen Covey's many books, such as Principle-Centered Leadership. Mr. Smith's treatment here is more practical than Dr. Covey's is in his books, and Mr. Smith provides many more examples. Dr. Covey's writing style is more lyrical, but Mr. Smith information is easier to work with.

One of the great strengths of this book is its discussion of hero qualities. These include self-awareness, confidence, self-worth, a sense of urgency, a personal mission, personal magnetism, awareness of and respect for one's own uniqueness, having consistency in one's life, and having a sense of calmness and serenity. The book is worth buying just for this section, which is chapter one.

One of the book's strengths is that it taps into our emotions very effectively. One of my favorite ways this was done is in describing the common lament "someday I'm going to . . ." and pointing out that today is a good time to get started with all of those important tasks. This is explored in chapter two.

Part one focuses on explaining the clarity and power you can get from knowing who you are. Part two is the heart of the book -- discovering what matters most to you. Part three is a practical exercise in working on something that matters greatly to you. Part four expands your perspective on this process by looking at how it applies to organizations, over a lifetime, and to wider groups (there's a nice discussion of Nelson Mandela and Gary Player here). You are also encouraged to adopt an abundance mentality. This last material is very much like the Tony Robbins work on this same point. In part five, there is additional emotional reinforcement for starting to make the necessary changes.

After you have finished reading and doing the exercises in the three books I have recommended to you, I suggest that you find someone who is in dispair about their own life and offer to help them learn these lessons, too. This will be a good way for you to both reinforce your new learning and to live a life of broader meaning and caring.

Be part of the ever-expanding network of caring heroines and heroes who help others improve!