What Do You Really Want For Your Children? Paperback – Aug 21 2001
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Well-known pop psychologist Dyer ( Your Erroneous Zones ) coaches parents in raising ``no-limit'' (emotionally healthy) children. In an admittedly repetitious but highly readable style, he covers topics like risk-taking, living in the present, self-reliance, and creativity. Each chapter includes strategies, negative child/parent behaviors, and the support systems (``payoffs'') for maintaining desirable behaviors. Dyer's message (directed at kids, but meant for everyone) is sometimes philosophical, often opinionated, and definitely motivational. The catch is that neurotic parents (the majority, according to the author) must first become good role models. Nevertheless, the book has much to offer, especially about reinforcing attitudes of physical ``wellness.'' First serial rights to Ladies Home Journal . Janice Arenofsky, formerly with Arizona State Lib., Phoenix
Copyright 1985 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
"Centers on providing children with good examples of how to grow up sane, self-reliant. physically and emotionally healthy" -- -- publishers weekly --This text refers to the Mass Market Paperback edition.See all Product Description
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"I want my children to value themselves
I want my children to be risk-takers
I want my children to be self-reliant
I want my children to be free from stress and anxiety
I want my children to have peaceful lives
I want my children to celebrate their present moments
I want my children to experience a lifetime of wellness
I want my children to be creative
I want my children to fulfill their higher needs and to feel a sense of purpose"
Don't you want to live this way too? I know I do.
The reviewer states: "That's BULL. The author is negating the importance of his book with that statement. Why are there so many parenting books if there weren't so many adults out there with major problems BECAUSE of how they grew up? Why don't we just parent any way we want to--we can abuse our children--and then turn around and say "Don't blame me for your problems".
I would have to assume that anyone who was attracted to this book, if only because of its title, would not be of the mindset to abuse his/her children. More importantly, we can't coulda shoulda - we can't redo our own childhoods. The point of the book is to help us find more effective ways to raise our OWN children, in spite of our own childhoods, and to help us see very clearly what we TRULY want for our children. Dr. Dyer is marvelously successful in helping us to do just that. In this book, there is no room for blame, retaliation, recriminations, or lingering hostility. The point of Dr. Dyer's statements is that if we hang on to those negative feelings and long ago reactions, we will damage our own kids as well as continue to damage our ourselves. The name of the book is "What Do You Really Want for your Children," not "How Much Were You Abused as a Child? Let Us Count the Ways."
I had these audio tapes about 10 years ago, when my son was just a little fellow, and was truly enlightened by the common sense conveyed by Dr. Dyer's insights. It's time to listen again!
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No matter how old your children are, the approach of this book will have a profond effect on your children and on yourself.Published 6 months ago by A customer
My mom is in the childcare business. She has been using this book as a guide to help her rear happier children, with less conflict and more support. Read morePublished on March 8 2001
This is one of the best books on parenting I've read EXCEPT for the one part (page 136) in which the author states "Accept the fact that you are precisely where you have chosen to... Read morePublished on July 21 1999