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  • Paperback: 480 pages
  • Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks (Aug. 21 2001)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0380730472
  • ISBN-13: 978-0380730476
  • Product Dimensions: 13.5 x 2.7 x 20.3 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 204 g
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
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Well-known pop psychologist Dyer ( Your Erroneous Zones ) coaches parents in raising ``no-limit'' (emotionally healthy) children. In an admittedly repetitious but highly readable style, he covers topics like risk-taking, living in the present, self-reliance, and creativity. Each chapter includes strategies, negative child/parent behaviors, and the support systems (``payoffs'') for maintaining desirable behaviors. Dyer's message (directed at kids, but meant for everyone) is sometimes philosophical, often opinionated, and definitely motivational. The catch is that neurotic parents (the majority, according to the author) must first become good role models. Nevertheless, the book has much to offer, especially about reinforcing attitudes of physical ``wellness.'' First serial rights to Ladies Home Journal . Janice Arenofsky, formerly with Arizona State Lib., Phoenix
Copyright 1985 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.


"Centers on providing children with good examples of how to grow up sane, self-reliant. physically and emotionally healthy" -- -- publishers weekly --This text refers to the Mass Market Paperback edition.

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By valhowells on Sept. 12 2001
Format: Paperback
I think this book is really about what we want for OURSELVES. All parents want the BEST for their kids but they rarely apply it to themselves. This book teaches you how to model the most healthy, sane and life-affirming behavior and attitudes so your children will learn these attitudes. The only way to effectively model this behavior is to actually become this kind of person ourselves. It requires an open mind toward one's own behavior, thoughts and beliefs. Here are the chapter headings:
"I want my children to value themselves
I want my children to be risk-takers
I want my children to be self-reliant
I want my children to be free from stress and anxiety
I want my children to have peaceful lives
I want my children to celebrate their present moments
I want my children to experience a lifetime of wellness
I want my children to be creative
I want my children to fulfill their higher needs and to feel a sense of purpose"
Don't you want to live this way too? I know I do.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Shannon C. Miller on Nov. 15 2001
Format: Paperback
If you are looking at this review and care about your children or even about yourself, BUY THIS BOOK! I was at a low point in my life, wondering which direction to take and starting to lose sight of who I am. While browsing through parenting books, I found this amazing book and have been highlighting left and right. I discuss it with everyone I can and have found it to be immensely helpful in re-directing my own way of thinking. Postive thoughts surround me, I no longer feel pity on myself, I take action!I am happy to say that although it will make a difference in how I parent my daughter, it already has changed me and how I think. I realize now that I should not allow situations to control me, and this book is wonderfully adept at helping with this. If you have unbridled anger or frustration...this book is for you. Share this book with everyone you know, it will only affect them postively. Although there were some issues which I do not agree with personally, I did understand and respect all of Dr. Dyer's thoughts. It is a powerful and enriching book, which will enhance your life and that of those around you. We need more like this in such trying times.
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By A Customer on Aug. 26 1999
Format: Paperback
The point of the book is your own life & behavior as it affects YOU and YOUR children, rather than your parents' lives & behavior and how it affected YOU. If that fact was missed by a reviewer with A Bone to Pick, that reviewer did, indeed, totally miss......the point.
The reviewer states: "That's BULL. The author is negating the importance of his book with that statement. Why are there so many parenting books if there weren't so many adults out there with major problems BECAUSE of how they grew up? Why don't we just parent any way we want to--we can abuse our children--and then turn around and say "Don't blame me for your problems".
I would have to assume that anyone who was attracted to this book, if only because of its title, would not be of the mindset to abuse his/her children. More importantly, we can't coulda shoulda - we can't redo our own childhoods. The point of the book is to help us find more effective ways to raise our OWN children, in spite of our own childhoods, and to help us see very clearly what we TRULY want for our children. Dr. Dyer is marvelously successful in helping us to do just that. In this book, there is no room for blame, retaliation, recriminations, or lingering hostility. The point of Dr. Dyer's statements is that if we hang on to those negative feelings and long ago reactions, we will damage our own kids as well as continue to damage our ourselves. The name of the book is "What Do You Really Want for your Children," not "How Much Were You Abused as a Child? Let Us Count the Ways."
I had these audio tapes about 10 years ago, when my son was just a little fellow, and was truly enlightened by the common sense conveyed by Dr. Dyer's insights. It's time to listen again!
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By A Customer on Sept. 3 1999
Format: Paperback
Until I read this book, I was unaware of how much influence I as a parent make on my child and how much influence my parents were on me. I think it is very helpful to understand why we are the way we are and how we can help our children to become the best they can be. There are a lot of things we just aren't aware of in life that influence our children and this book brings a lot of them to your attention. I am doing a lot of things correct in raising my child, but I also have a lot to learn. This book is terrific! I highly suggest it to parents of children of all ages (even those with adult children)!!
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By A Customer on Jan. 29 2004
Format: Paperback
I highly recommend this book as a parenting guide as well as a self improvement guide. Author goes into the depth of human behaviours and not only he explains why some kind of behavior is not acceptable, but he also explains how we express that behaviour and what's our psychological need to behave that way. I found this really helpful because lots of time we are not even aware of when our behaviour is a bad influence on our kids. But the way author explains -why, when and how we do it, it becomes all crystal clear.
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Format: Mass Market Paperback
If you are about to have children, you'll love them and respect them in ways you never thought possible. If you already have children - of ANY age - this book will inspire you to develop new relationships that will make your life richer than ever!! Read the last chapter in the book, the one titled: "I wish my children could someday write this letter"...I guarantee you'll want to start reading the book immediately...and won't be able to stop until done!
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