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What to Say When You Talk to Your Self [Mass Market Paperback]

Shad Helmstetter
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Jan. 15 1990
From acclaimed psychologist Dr. Shad Helmstetter comes a life‑changing guide to helping you help yourself through motivational self‑talk and positive thinking.

Imagine relying on yourself to optimize your outlook, focus your plans, and keep you on top, in touch, and going for it! You can do it, by adopting the simple techniques of self‑talk, and understanding the power of key phrases like these:

I choose my thoughts. No thought, at any time, can dwell in my mind without my permission.
I have talents, skills and abilities—and I’m discovering new talents all the time.
I take time to listen and communicate. I’m patient and understanding. It’s worth working at, and I do.
I focus my attention on the things I can control. If l can’t affect it or direct it—I accept it.
I know that what I believe about myself is what l will become—so I believe in the best for myself.

Acclaimed psychologist Dr. Shad Helmstetter shows you how to make positive self‑talk a permanent habit. Give yourself the kind, loving, determined support you would give to your best friend. Harness the power of the ultimate motivator—you!

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Shad Helmstetter, PhD, (ShadHelmstetter.com) is the bestselling author of What To Say When You Talk to Your Self, Who Are You Really and What Do You Want, and ten other life-changing books. His books are published in many languages in more than sixty-four countries worldwide. Dr. Helmstetter is one of the most respected behavioral researchers of our time and has appeared on more than 1,200 radio and television programs, including repeat appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show, ABC, NBC, CBS, and CNN News.

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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
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I did actually read this book from cover to cover despite some reservations in the first couple of chapters. The basic premise of the book is that you can change your life\attitude by simply talking\writing\thinking positive thoughts on a regular basis. I'm sure that this is true and it is certainly a useful tool to use.
The writing style is a little repetitious - mind you so is self-talk ;)
My reservations, as with all 'motivational' ideas is that it is so close to indoctrination that it makes me somewhat uncomfortable. i.e. If I hate my job, the idea is that I think\say to myself "I Love my job and do it well" several times per day and all will be well.... so what if I hate my job?? should I not hate my job? could I not use this feeling to change my job, instead of brainwashing myself that I love my job...
As I say, very useful but I don't know that I can deal with the idea that this is something for all problems and\or all people - how boring would life be if we were all positive, happy little robots ...
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Finally: Details March 18 2004
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There are lots of books that cover the topic of self-talk. Motivational speakers talk about positive affirmations -- including the classic "Think and Grow Rich." Helmstetter's book is the first one that I've seen that covers the process, including how to create the scripts. Yes, scripts!
In other words, before you start talking to your self, THINK about what it is that you want to accomplish, examine the details and then write the script. If that concept is a bit scary, there are excellent examples in the text.
Well worth reading!
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Good Stuff March 7 2004
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I purchased this book about a year ago. Upon receiving it, I quickly read its contents and set about implimenting its recommendations and suggestions. In the manner prescribed, I recorded my very own self talk tape to help improve my confidence. I diligently listened to said tape past the recommended 30 day period of grace. I attempted this during not one, but two discrete monthly stretches. It worked neither time. I was still very much my old self.
But then I reread the book, combing every inch for details that, in my haste, I might have overlooked the first two times around. I noticed that many of the affirmations I had initially written out prior to recording retained much of the negative tone present in my routine self talk. That is, I would make liberal use of words like "always" and "never" that put a very taxing burden on my psyche to change or else... It was almost as though I were threatening myself.
All this to say that once I got rid of the foregoing and wrote my affirmations in the most positive and/or neutral language I could muster did I begin to see improvements. It has been a little over two weeks since that second watershed reading, and I'm happy to report that it's working! The self talk is actually working! For a person like me that has already gone the psychiatric/pharmocological route and to no avail, it's good to know that there is something else out there that does help. This book, although imperfect in its execution and contradictory in spots, was my introduction to that something. For that I am most grateful. A book worthy of your shelf.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars the previous totally negative review Oct. 11 2001
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The previous review does nothing but pick apart things the author says in the book. He says nothing about acutally TRYING the techniques in the book, which I'm sure he didn't because I seriously doubt he would be so negative if he had. Picking apart the book, word for word, is not really helpful to anyone. Trying what the book suggests and telling us whether it worked for you or not would be helpful. Thusfar, I do not know anyone who tried the techniques who has not been helped by this book. Also, I do believe that self-hypnosis can be equally as effective but it does take time which some very busy people don't have to spare. Making a self-talk tape and playing it while doing other things takes no extra time out of your day.
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5.0 out of 5 stars The best book self- help book ever! April 2 2004
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I have read hundreds of self-help books, but "what to say when you talk to yourself" is the best book I have read so far. Without any doubt.
In this book Dr. Helmstetter shows you how to change your way of thinking by giving your brain positive affirmations.
The basic principle behind the book is that you "are what you think". Due to that fact, you can quit smoking, loose weight, increase confidence or kill worries, by just give you the right self-talk. It`s a kind of self-hypnosis.
If you, for instance, suffer from insomia, you should say to yourself: "I sleep good every night, and I wake up full of energy". By saying a such sentence over and over, you will after while change your way of thinking and thus sleep better.
Of course, the circumstances around us will always affects us. But, by giving ourself the right self-talk, you can handle any situation in a better way. The book is all about being better.
The book is very easy to read, and the techniques that are described are highly effective and easy to apply.
This is, perhaps, the only self-help book that you need.
All in all, just buy the book, use the techniques and see the results. You will be amazed.
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5.0 out of 5 stars the missing link Jan. 29 2004
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Have you ever read an inspiring 'self-help' book or heard a tremendous motivational speaker that made you want to make significant positive changes in your life? When you tried to implement those changes, did you notice that they were temporary at best, and that you eventually fell back into the same self-defeating patterns that held you prisoner in the first place?
Helmstetter rightly points out that the majority of information that our subconscious mind receives, from both external and internal sources, is negative. At any given time within our subconscious, as many as three negative thoughts are duking it out with one positive. Not knowing right from wrong, our subconscious chooses to believe the most dominant thought pattern. Unless we feed more positive messages to our subconscious, we become a prisoner to negative thought patterns.
What to Say reveals a simple way to overcome the onslaught of negative thought by literally feeding positive thoughts into our subconscious through Self-Talk. More than just affirmation statements, Helmstetter shows how to get specific and attack problems at their source.
This book will serve you well on its own, and will be even more effective as a catalyst to help you apply success principles from other books and speakers. This simple concept of Self-Talk will allow you to take success principles that are common knowledge, and convert them to common practice.
Larry Hehn, author of Get the Prize: Nine Keys for a Life of Victory
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4.0 out of 5 stars Helpful
I have read several similar books on negative self talk, I considered this one to be the most helpful and practical.
Published 5 months ago by Bluewater guy
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book
It s a great book i would recommend this book for anybody who want to change their life for the better.
Published 14 months ago by Daniel
2.0 out of 5 stars Not much new if you've read a lot about self-help
This book was a disappointment. What the author means by talking to yourself, it is essentially "affirmations", sentences you use when you interact with yourself. Read more
Published on Dec 30 2011 by Samuel Moisan-Domm
1.0 out of 5 stars 90 percent is just redundant
This book is well over 200 pages long, but could have been written in under 20 pages without any loss of meaningful content. Read more
Published on Dec 17 2010 by Dario
5.0 out of 5 stars MOTIVATIONALLY FRESH "Self-Talk" Mind Pumps!
"It's one of those books which makes you wonder if any other motivational book will ever be necessary. This book is a CLASSIC which I feel I will refer to regularly... Read more
Published on Dec 5 2010 by Michael Pastien
5.0 out of 5 stars Time for Revalation!
This is a book that everyone should read - and as early in years as possible.
Statistics show that we have hundreds of NEGATIVE thoughts before the lunch hour - daily! Read more
Published on April 17 2010 by R. Breitner
4.0 out of 5 stars Insightful and a must read
This book is very informative and insightful. It really explains how the brain programs and processes outside information. Read more
Published on Feb. 7 2010 by Sanaa James
5.0 out of 5 stars what to say when you talk to yourself
I had met Mr. Helmstetter about 25 years ago when he was in Los Angeles, lecturing and promoting this book. Read more
Published on Sept. 24 2009 by H. Austin
5.0 out of 5 stars Don't pass this one up.
I have read man self help books, but few have hit the nail on the head as this one. It's about how your negative messages control what happens not only in your head but in your... Read more
Published on July 15 2009 by Hayden Kirkland
5.0 out of 5 stars Did I Say That?
We are sometimes our own worst enemy because we limit ourselves with our own thoughts. This book teaches you how to think better of yourself and by doing that you achieve more... Read more
Published on June 18 2004
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