Where You Left Me Hardcover – Aug 30 2011
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“With grim humor and sharp observations, Where You Left Me provides trenchant insights into one woman’s resilience.” —Kirkus Reviews
"In this hard-hitting memoir, a wife and mother stricken by tragedy after losing her husband at the World Trade Center gradually regains her ability to love. A former lawyer married to Douglas Gardner, a financial broker, and living with their two small children on Central Park West in Manhattan, Trulson was shuttling her five-year-old son to his first day of school on the morning of September 11. Her husband was already in his office at Cantor Fitzgerald on the 105th floor of the North Tower, where he died in the attacks. (His voice was identified on a 911 tape later sent to Trulson by the mayor’s office, but she never listened to it.) The brokerage firm lost 658 employees that day, the hardest hit of any single company. The closest friends who supported Trulson in her grief were her husband’s professional colleagues, who dedicated a sports center at Douglas’s alma mater, Haverford College. Trulson’s period of “bottomless fury and despair” was exacerbated by the ensuing media circus as she made the rounds of memorial speeches. Ten months later, Trulson became involved with another man, which jars the reader, but, in the end, her narrative achieves a balance between grief and life-affirming determination." —Publishers Weekly
"Decades from now, when people want to know how life went on after the September 11th attacks, I hope they'll turn to this deeply moving, bluntly honest, elegantly written memoir. In Jennifer Gardner Trulson's grief, and in her account of the love that followed, all of us can see the possibilities in our own lives." —Jeffrey Zaslow, coauthor, The Last Lecture
About the Author
Jennifer Gardner Trulson is the founder of the Douglas B. Gardner Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping at-risk children in
Top Customer Reviews
Not one of them had a designer show up to alter their clothes when they lost weight or a house in the Hamptons. This women gets no sympathy from me. To give your good friend Howard such praise for all he did and then have him review the book was very tasteless. What did you think he was going to say? This women is once again looking for her fifteen minutes of fame just like she did when she agreed to a T.V. interview and then complained how the interview was handled. Get a real life women.!!
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Contrary to the reviewers who talk about the deep, honest emotion present in Ms. Trulson's story, she came across to me as being very shallow, and far more concerned with her status amongst her group of high-society friends than someone whose world had been truly rocked by the loss of her husband. There are constant reminders of how well-off her family was (and is), as well as repeated references to her husband's stunning good looks. I can't say I'm very much impressed with him, either - someone who constantly says to his wife, "I'm the best thing that ever happened to you," comes across to me as being an arrogant jerk.
This man was the love of her life? Her soulmate? Someone whose death changed her life forever? That's lovely, considering that she felt compelled to resume dating a mere 9 months after his death. She makes a variety of excuses for that, but none of them ring true. Seems to me that she could no longer stand not being someone's arm candy.
If you're looking for a glimpse into the lives of the rich and privileged, then this is the book for you. But if you're looking for a real window into what happened on 9/11, something that will tug at your heartstrings (although really, there's a lot that seems voyeuristic about that), this isn't it. I came away from the book feeling that if I were to encounter Ms. Trulson anywhere in real life, she wouldn't be someone I'd want to get to know.
There is one hero in this book besides Doug and that is Howard Lutnick, CEO of Cantor Fitzgerald. He lost over 600 employees on 9/11, that included his brother Gary and his best friend, Doug. Howard, a father himself, was dealing with so much pain and loss, yet he took the time to be with his best friend's children. I hope he will consider writing a book and tell us more about the life of his remarkable friend, Doug Gardner.
1. It was shallow and much of the book epicentered around materialistic motives.
2. The quality of writing could have been more poetic, more mindfully relfective, more heartfelt, less Vera Wang, more SOMETHING other than the ramble-ish, purposeless nature of the choices of what she wrote about and the diologue!
3. It left me feeling like this was the type of book you read if you are into less than intellectual conversations and are the type of person who's into gourmet cheeses cubes and celebrity gossip.
Sorry, just being honest. Forgive me all who disagree, I'm glad you enjoyed the book :)