- Paperback: 336 pages
- Publisher: Avon; 1 edition (Sep 2 1998)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 068814960X
- ISBN-13: 978-0688149604
- Product Dimensions: 22.8 x 15.6 x 2.2 cm
- Shipping Weight: 381 g
- Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #789,232 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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"Nobody plays with me." "All the other kids pick on me." If these are complaints your child often voices, by all means, don't just ignore it. Author Hara Estroff Marano asserts that popularity--how well your child is liked by his or her peers--is the single greatest determinant of a child's happiness and success at school. Yet wanting a child to be popular is nearly taboo in our society, with most parents stressing academic rather than social achievement as a goal.
Marano, an editor for Psychology Today, closely examines and interprets the research on children's interactions and their ability to get along with peers. She finds that kids are becoming less socially competent, and rejection--while always a powerful interpersonal force--has recently become more lethal. Socially rejected kids who have absorbed a message that violence solves problems may even avail themselves of deadly weapons. Marano stresses the importance of play in developing social skills, and decries the phenomenon of the over-scheduled child. A full third of Why Doesn't Anybody Like Me? focuses on what parents can do to help their kids improve their social interactions, and includes suggestions for dealing with bullies and assisting the aggressive child. This book will have parents eagerly turning pages, making mental notes, watching their children's interactions, and working with them to improve their social competence. --Ericka Lutz
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A parent's love is absolutely essential, but there comes a point when it alone is not sufficient -- when the epiccenter of acceptance shifts from home to school, from family to peer.This practical, persuasive guide shows parents how to raise their children so that they will be popular -- well liked by their peers. Social competence in children of all ages, Marano says, is not a luxury. Rather, it has an essential impact on a child's later life -- on his or her health, happiness, intellectual capacity, and above all, success.But how can parents foster the qualities and skills shared by every popular child? And what can mothers and fathers do when their youngsters stumble, struggle, or suffer? This friendly, impressively researched, and enormously informative guide explores a wide range of issues and concerns including:The perils of overprotective -- how to safeguard children without smothering them, and how to turn a shy boy or girl into a confident kid
Good kids, bad kids, and outsiders -- who gets picked on, why schoolyard cruelty hurts everyone, and what a parent can do when a child is having trouble
Peer pressure and interpersonal solutions -- how children learn to interact, from the playpen to the playground and beyond, and how parents can foster crucial social skills at every age
Temperamanent and tantrums -- why youngster act up, from the Terrible Twos to teenage rebellion, what such behavior means in different situations, and how parents can turn conflict into cooperation Prescriptive and practical, "Why Doesn't Anybody Like Me?" offers parents down-to-earth advice on everything from helping their children make new friends to managing schoolyard bullies. Marano's perceptive insights are powerful psychological strategies parents can use help their children build the interpersonal skills that will carry them through life that form the core of every strong friendship, every satifying marriage, and every successful business partnership.
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5.0 out of 5 stars
Excellent - For Parents of Kids Having A Hard Time,
By Crystlhrt (USA) - See all my reviews
This review is from: Why Doesnt Anybody (Paperback)
This is a good base for parents whose kids are having a hard time in school. I found it to be very Cause & Effect which was just what my son (and I) needed. I read it three or four years ago when my son was having a dreadfully hard time. I put the concepts from the book to practice in my own way (i.e., "movie dates" with him where we watched movies and discussed emotions and 'reading' people's body language). No my son is 12 and in 7th grade and he has friends, not tons, but a few, but he is happy and content. Kids like him, he doesn't feel desperate to fit in. This book is very practical and well worth the time to read and money spent to have it be part of your library... along with Brazelton and Sears.
3.0 out of 5 stars
Not really a Guide.,
By "sallymonkhicks" (Cupertino, Ca USA) - See all my reviews
This review is from: Why Doesnt Anybody (Paperback)
This book is more of a research summary than a guide to helping your child. It is interesting and enlightening on the subject of research that has been done on kids social interaction, but its limited material on how to help your child is vague and not very convincing. It left me feeling that: yes, I recognized my daughter as a socially unsuccessful child, but I didn't know what to do about it. If you want an excellent how-to guide, try "Good Friends are Hard to Find" by Fred Frankel.
3.0 out of 5 stars
I Became Very Discouraged!,
By Carla Butts (Cherry Hill, New Jersey United States) - See all my reviews
This review is from: Why Doesnt Anybody (Paperback)
I agree with previous comments about the amount of research that went into writing this book, however after reading through all of the research, I had a feeling of doom. I have two sons aged 7 and 4, and my oldest is having difficulty making friends at his new school after our family relocated from the midwest to the east coast. I was looking for fun, practical solutions to helping him make new friends. What I found was a book that explained extensive research on the subject of popularity,but many of the comments made by the author left me feeling that my son had little hope in improving his social situation. I especially felt disheartend to find that according to the author, a child's social standing is pretty much determined by the first grade! My son's in first grade now. I was a psychology major in college, and could appreciate much of the research, but the book read more like a textbook to me than a book for parents looking for practical solutions to helping their kids form friendships.
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