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by Sherrie Eldridge (Author)
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As both an adoptee and president of Jewel Among Jewels Adoption Network, Eldridge brings an original approach to the topic of adoption. In an attempt to inform adoptive parents of the unique issues adoptees face, she discusses adoptee anger, mourning, and shame and adoption acknowledgment while using case studies to illustrate how parents can better relate to their adopted child. This book is solidly written but not without its flaws; most importantly, it lacks information concerning child development, e.g., whether parents should use the same approach to questions with a three-year-old as with a 14-year-old. Still, this book will go well in any collection dealing with adoption, complementing David M. Brodzinsky's Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self (Anchor, 1993) and Joyce Maguire Pavao's The Family of Adoption (Beacon, 1998).AMee-Len Hom, Hunter Coll. Lib., New York
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc.


Foster W. Cline, M.D., internationally acclaimed child and adult psychiatrist and co-author of PARENTING WITH LOVE AND LOGIC

As a psychiatrist who has worked with dozens of adoptive families, and as an adoptive father myself, I can appreciate the sensitivity, understanding, common sense, and helpful suggestions given in this book. Sherrie has thrown the light of appreciation and understanding on the unique issues that often lie buried in the corners of adoptees' lives.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars A bit one-sided, Jun 24 2004
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As a 35-yr.-old adoptee who was adopted as a toddler, I could relate to practically everything in this book. I found myself saying yes, yes, yes---somebody understands, finally.

But adoption is not a one-size-fits-all subject, and this book implies that everyone who is adopted experiences the same feelings of rejection and loss. And that is simply not true.

If you're adopting a newborn, this book is probably not for you, but I believe that it is a must-read for all other adoptive parents. And if you are an adolescent or adult adoptee who is struggling to come to terms with your adoption, as this author obviously did, this book might help you to understand why you feel the way you do.

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars Not a helpful book, Feb 11 2004
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The author starts off by comparing the feelings an infant has on adoption day to the way an older child would feel if his parents were killed in a car wreck. She goes on to state that adoption causes a wound in the womb that ruins the child emotionally for life. Throughout the book the author refers to her own experience as an adoptee and her life long dependence on therapists to overcome the life altering loss she suffered at 4 days of age. She goes so far as to state a 3 year old told her he was afraid on his adoption day (at age 9 DAYS) because the adoptive parents were strangers. Most of the research is based on adult adoptees found in various therapy groups. Not a single positive adoption story is portrayed..possibly because the healthy and happy adoptees are not seeking therapy.

If you are considering adoption please DO NOT waste your energy on this book. It is not helpful or constructive, but serves only to offer negativity and defeat before you even begin.

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars CAUTION!!!, Jan 13 2004
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This was a book I looked forward to with high expectation...what a huge let down. Sherri's approach in her book makes a blanket assumption that all adoptees are broken & will never find true joy or completeness-simply because they are adopted. This book was promoted as a Christian book & contained no scriptures to back up the basis for her thinking. Between the pop psychology world view (for example- rebirthing was spoken about)& the obviously wounded overflow of her heart, I found it most difficult to glean from this book any really valuable advice. Skip this book!!
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1.0 out of 5 stars Do NOT make this your first or only adoption read
Frankly, after reading this book I nearly pulled the plug on our adoption process. It certainly gave me food for thought, but her notions of the Primal Wound left me reeling, and... Read more
Published on Jul 7 2004

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read for All within the Triangle
I am neither adoptee,adoptive parent or birth parent.I am outside of the triangle. However I have a huge awareness of adoption issues as a result of personal experience. Read more
Published on Jul 4 2004 by Jim Jackman

5.0 out of 5 stars A book with great tools and ideas!
This book is a must read for prospective adoptive parents, adoptive parents and professionals working in adoption. Read more
Published on Jun 8 2004 by Domenica Labasi

5.0 out of 5 stars Required Reading for Adoptive Parents
As an adoptive parent of three children adopted from state foster care, I found this book to be honest and helpful. Read more
Published on May 28 2004

5.0 out of 5 stars Learning the answers!
Your book has brought a great deal of understanding into our lives. Our son, is adopted and many of the experiences you wrote about are relative to him. Read more
Published on May 26 2004

2.0 out of 5 stars Much too one-sided
I was excited to read this book, and bought it right away when we started adoption preparation. I wish I'd read these reviews first! Read more
Published on May 21 2004

3.0 out of 5 stars Good book but to religious for my taste.
I am all for having people believe what they want but sometimes I think they go a little to far. For a great healing book on adoption I recommened Whose Child? by Kasey Hamner.
Published on May 19 2004 by Martin Kuber

1.0 out of 5 stars This book was awful!!!
DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME ON THIS BOOK. I read this book hoping to gain some insight on what it will feel like for my child growing up adopted. Read more
Published on April 27 2004

5.0 out of 5 stars The best book on adoption I have ever read!!!
Excellent! I am so thankful I finally came across your book. This has finally provided some answers as to why my adoptee has the issues she has. Read more
Published on April 24 2004

2.0 out of 5 stars Too Angst Oriented
As an adopted person and a full-time stepmom, I found this book to focus way too much on the negative and on angst. Read more
Published on April 7 2004

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