I'll keep this simple. The book was very helpful for both my wife and myself. Since it was written by a woman, Lori takes in the concerns of a woman. As far as helping a man guide his way to this experience the book gave direction, wisdom, and good advice. I would recommend this book to anyone in search of this experience or for a woman who is BI curious and needs some good advice and how to have a good first experience. Thanks Lori!