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The author describes five archetypes of men whom sensible women shouldn't wind up with. Her list seems incomplete, and doesn't include diverse characteristics that many would consider dealbreakers, such as substance addiction, anger management issues, compulsive jealousy, cheapness with money, self-centeredness and inflated ego, condescension toward women, lack of a sense of humor, mobile phone fixation, and many others, none of which merited mention in the book. Then the author takes quite a long time discussing whether to work through a dealbreaker, or call it quits. In fact, for all five archetypes her discussion could be reduced to a single sentence: Is he willing to admit… Read more
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I loved the section on Annoying Habits. Too many people nowadays take the view that "if you love me, you will accept me just as I am". Poppycock, and this book says so. This was useful; all spouses should be willing to adjust their "non-core behaviors" to some degree for the sake of harmony. The author covers many "innocent" habits that nonetheless can destroy marital love if they are annoying to the other, such as picking teeth, using a verbal expression too much, and so forth. The author also covers other "lovebusters", such as Independent Action (doing things or making decisions without regard for the feelings or opinions of the other), Disrespect, Angry Outbursts… Read more
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Though not strictly "scientific", i.e., based on large samples, the book covers each case history in depth, and revisits each person over a time-span of decades. The resulting richness of detail is more convincing than bland statistics. The marketing blurbs say this book should be read by children of divorce and by anyone contemplating divorce. Here's a bigger and more useful market: everyone who is married or plans to get married. Why do I say this? As an engaged or married person, you will be so moved and horrified by what divorce did to the subject children, throughout their lives, that you will go to much greater lengths to ensure that your marriage succeeds,… Read more
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