le 19 juillet 2001
In December of 1999, I was planning my wedding. In February 2000, my then-fiance broke our engagement (and went on to marry someone else). I was quite devastated by the breakup and went through many levels of anguish. There were also lots of things for me to work on -- like, what I might have done to contribute to the breakup. Fisher's "Rebuilding" theory was extremely useful. Fisher uses the principle of building blocks to help work through each issue, or "stumbling block." One example that stuck with me was the "stumbling block" of "I didn't do enough, or didn't try hard enough." The "rebuilding" block was "I did the best I could" While this may seem simplistic, the "rebuilding blocks" served as excellent reminders of the good things in life. If you have suffered a relationship loss, please check out this book. You will find many useful ideas, and will assuredly feel better as a result.