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Beauty Fades Dumb Is Forever

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Even though I didn't totally agree with everything Judy writes, her no-nonsense attitude is a real delight to read, in a funny and interesting book.

Judge Judy tells it like it is. Some people may not agree with her opinions, but she holds her ground firmly. She's seen it all from her days in family court, to her own divorce. In this book she tells women not to be so reliant upon men. Don't bend over backwards to please everyone.. because who's going to be there for you? Judge Judy tries to instill in women the urgency of building a solid foundation from within. Her straight talk tells women to get on with it and never forget that smart is forever.

Judge Judy really shows a tremendous amount of courage for writing this book. She takes a great deal of criticism for her no nonsense style, but the truth is that in this book, she writes candidly about her mistakes, and how she has learned from them.

She is who she is, and makes no apologies. At times, I found myself laughing aloud. Her television style offends many people, but if that is the case don't watch her.

The word respect has long been forgotten! Her writing teaches women that it's okay to develop who you really are. I find her fair. Sometimes the truth hurts, and the only way to get through to the people on the show is to call them on their actions.

She comes clean about herself, and I respect her more for that. She has learned from her personal experiences, and hopes others will do the same.

As a judge in the family court, she saved many children's lives.
In her life, she is defining her own, personal success! She is a great author.

The book tittled 'Beauty Fades, Dumb is Forever - The making of a Happy Woman' is part an entertaining book (I had lots of laughs reading it) but, and it is part a 'How to be your genuine self' guide book for the feminine gender; specifically. For the young girls and for the more mature ladies and from the single to the married to the divorced women.
Drawn from her experience as a Family Court Judge in New York City for over 25 years, Judge Judy says she has seen and heard enough of the thousands of excuses that women (in particular) make in order to get or keep their men, and that it is about time that women take responsibility for themselves, and, by themselves.
In this book she talks about 'why' beauty fades and dumb is forever. She explains 'how' women are the trunk of the tree. She also talks about denial and how it is just a river in Egypt.
I, specifically, like how Judge Judy finishes her book by passing on this message to all women; that 'If you have a healthy spirit, a positive outlook, and a sense of personal accomplishment and importance, you will be a better partner, friend and mother.' In this chapter she had just finished discussing about standing tall, and, not necessarily in the physical sense (Judge Judy stands just over five feet tall).
This book can be read by the male species (such as myself) as well. Why? Because, I believe that a true man can be measured not only by his character and his values, but also by his willingness to learn and discover new (or old) things in life to increase his caring capacity.

Where do I start? This book amazed me with each chapter, and I was surprised at how the book really read itself. Judge Judy offers a realistic view point on women and the struggles we have to conquer through our lifetime. She offers advice and steps to becoming a happier, more independent, and better respected woman in the job force, marriage, and overall aspects of society. She reflects on her past mistakes and is reaching out to women of all ages and urges them to love themselves first and foremost. While she is serious in her message to women, she adds her famous Judge Judy sarcasm and wit to crack you up on almost every page!!! I was laughing, reflecting, and even crying (only when i felt deeply moved) throughout this whole book. This would be a great gift for a sister, mother, daughter...etc..any special woman in your life whether she needs a pick-me-up or not...If you read this book..YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT!!!

Just like on her TV show Judge Judy tells it like it is. In this book, Judge Judy talks about everything from toilet paper rolls, to little girl beauty pageants to the death of a spouse. And all along the way she tells some of the funniest stories. Some of the funniest are the ones that involve her husband Jerry. But even though she's telling funny stories about her husband and others, she is trying and succeeding at getting a point across to women--YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE.

This book is excellent. Judge Judy is quite the author. Beauty Fades... is easy to read and teaches a lesson while being entertaining. Every mother should give this to their young daughters to read. Judge Judy teaches that you must have a sense of humor in life. She also teaches to not let yourself be trampled on in the work force by your male counterparts. Those are just a couple of the lessons given by Judge Judy.

Judge Judy is definitely a positive role model for any age female. She knows what she wants and goes after it. More women need to be this way. Keep up the excellent work on and off TV Judge Judy :)

Judge Judy tells women that they have to take control of their well-being emotionally and financially. It is so easy for women to lose themselves without realizing it. And she indicates to women who have yet to explore life on their own to not sit around waiting for it to happen. Make it happen! Ms. Sheindlin gets criticized for being mean and harsh, but don't underestimate her. She has been there and learned from her mistakes. She wants people in general to handle their business and take responsibility for their actions and stop blaming others for their mistakes. This millenium women need to handle their business and not allow what others think of them and move ahead. Thanks Judy for writing this book!

Though I didn't agree with Judge Judy on everything, I did agree with her on this topic: the importance of women being financially independent. I agree with her that women should be able to take care of themselves financially. I read the part about the woman who threw her unfaithful husband out of the house and how, a few days later, found out that her credit cards had been cancelled and her bank accounts closed by her husband. She didn't have the money to support herself and the kids. I also read about a friend of Judy's who has been married all these years and still gets an allowance from her husband. An allowance? That sounds like something right out of those 1950s sitcoms like "I Love Lucy" where the wife begged for money from her husband. Getting an allowance or asking a husband for money is for little kids who can't take of themselves. It IS important for women to be able to take care of themselves, and that's the message that Judge Judy is trying to get across to us in her book.

Words cannot describe my absolute love of this book. I have all of Judge Judy's books and this one is my absolute favorite. I have read it at least a dozen times and have applied much of this advice to my own daily life. Judge Judy talks about this subject with her usual "I'm not going to take any crap off of anybody" approach that we see all the time on her show, in her courtroom and dispenses it freely and objectively. She readily admits that, as a woman, she has made a few mistakes in her lifetime just like we all do. I admire the fact that she made a success of herself in such a male-dominated workplace as the judicial court system. My favorite story in the book has got to be the one where Judge Judy, as a family court judge, was in the cafeteria talking to a colleague when this old man judge came up to her and informed her that this room was for judges only. She then pretended that she was the cleaning lady! But then secretly took delight in the fact that this guy was embarrassed when he found out that she was actually a judge! Wouldn't we all love to do that? This is a definite must for any woman who is at any situation in life. Growing up, being a wife and mother, juggling a career, being a success, etc. A gem of a read.

TV's Judge Judy holds court in this book, a candid account of her life and the lessons she learned from living. It's a must read for every young woman -- and for her mother, too -- and would make a great gift.

The little lady judge with the big loud mouth pulls no punches. Her commonsense advice comes from experience. She rues the day she agreed to quit a Washington D.C. law school so that she could move back to New York and marry; if she had to do it over, she says she now knows it would have been better to ask her fiance to move for her career. She went from being the top student at a leading law school to being just another ordinary student in a lesser one.

She advises young women not to do like she did, treating their own education and career less seriously than their husband's.

Getting an education that qualifies women for well-paying careers, the judge writes, is "divorce insurance". After all, mothers are the ones who probably will have to support their children should they be divorced.

Not everything in the book is serious. There are laughs along the way. If you think Judge Judy bangs her gavel too loudly in the courtroom, imagine her banging two metal frying pan lids together, like cymbals, in the middle of the night over her sleeping husband. That was to drive home the point that she didn't like his leaving the toilet seat up. (Don't try this at home!)

All in all, the judge gives blunt, no-nonsense, tell-it-like-it-is words of wisdom, delivered with the same force that she uses in her courtroom lectures. "Beauty Fades But Dumb is Forever" wins on appeal.