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5.0 out of 5 stars a must read for parents or would be parents everywhere.,
This review is from: The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums, and Tears : Foreword by Tim Seldin (Pantley) (Kindle Edition)I got this when my little guy was tiny, before discipline was even an issue, and I'm so glad I did. It changed the way I thought about parenting. My parents were excellent and very loving, but I was brought up in an era where if your child did something wrong, they got a verbal warning (which all too often meant nothing and carried little weight) and then a smack if the problem behavior persisted. I always thought that this was the soundest way to parent - until I had my own child. Then I just couldn't imagine smacking him, ever. You're told over and over again as a new mum to follow your instincts, and every instinct I have screams against hitting my child, or even yelling at him. When I started researching and reading about sleep issues I came across the No Cry Sleep Solution, and that was a total 'Aha!' moment. We're currently working our way through the potty training and discipline books and they're looking pretty dog eared by now! Elizabeth writes from her own experience with her kids and as a parent convinced that there had to be a better way than a reactively based parenting approach. She helps you understand WHY your child is doing what he/she is doing, and what you can do to address that effectively and even avoid these issues wherever possible. She also makes it clear that in many situations, whilst the fix may not be the 'instant' fix of a slap or a yell, it's a longterm, real solution that will better help strengthen the bond between parent and child and lay strong foundations for your child and your family. I love her down-to-earth, warm approach - it's clear that this is a book written by someone who is passionate about loving, proactive parenting and wants to share that information. And the best part is (which Elizabeth will tell you in every book), this isn't a one-size-fits-all 'course' - you just read through and pick out the solutions and approaches that will work for your family. You aren't required to follow the book step by step, or to adhere to a certain mindset in order to benefit from it, so it will work for anyone. This would make a great gift for new parents!
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5.0 out of 5 stars Best book I ever read!!!,
This review is from: The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums, and Tears: Foreword by Tim Seldin (Paperback)Words can’t explain what I have to say about No- Cry Discipline Solution. I will however, try my best to do so. How can one person capture so many aspects of parenting and write them so eloquently in one book? Well, I can say that Elizabeth Pantley does just that. This book is amazing. It has touched me in so many ways. One of the best chapters in this book is the chapter on how to deal with your own anger and frustration. I have suffered through many situations with my three children, as we all do. I would beat myself up about some of the choices that I made in discipline…sometimes even cry about the choices I made. As parents we are constantly facing the dilemma of whether or not we did or are doing the right thing. Elizabeth managed to bring tears to my eyes when I read Staying Calm and Avoiding Anger. Yes, tears…tears of joy, because I finally felt that I wasn’t alone in how I was feeling and that just because we get angry and frustrated it doesn’t mean that we are a bad parent…just means we are humans with breaking points. This is just one of many chapters in the book that is great; each chapter in its own way is special because they truly help you. You are given a problem and then there is the solution. I have tried many of them with my kids and I am proud to say that they are working. Elizabeth Pantley in my eyes is an amazing and extraordinary person with the ability to make you feel like she is right there sitting in your living room walking you through what to do…move over Super Nanny. If anyone is struggling with what to do with any type of behavioral issues with their children, this is the book for you. I have read every one of Elizabeth Pantley’s books and I love them all, but The No- Cry Discipline Solution is her best!!! My advice to all parents, go out as soon as you can and run to your nearest book store or log on to the internet and get a copy of this book. I promise once you get started you are not going to want to put it down.
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Resource,
This review is from: The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums, and Tears: Foreword by Tim Seldin (Paperback)I am a counselor in private practice, as well as the mother of a toddler. This book has offered my husband and I very practical, and even fun ways of approaching discipline. Our 21 month old son enjoys picking up his toys and putting them away, and he even puts his dishes in the sink when he done without being asked. In addition, since reading the book and following the ideas, our son is much more pleasant to interact with. We as parents are much more pleasant as well! I refer to the book often at home, and I frequently recommend it to my clients who are struggling with parenting and discipline. I would highly recommend this book. It is a great resource for all parents.
Kim Rapach, LCSW
4 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Nobody writes it better...,
This review is from: The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums, and Tears: Foreword by Tim Seldin (Paperback)As usual the book is amazing, and Elizabeth Pantley has done it yet again. I especially enjoyed the section/s on anger and anger management. Anger seems to be one of the biggest parenting issues I see both in my practice and in general observations of parents outside of the office. The points made are so simple and practical, yet no one has been able to write them so eloquently. I have researched many sources to address these issues of disciplining without anger and the use of discipline as a teaching method- not as a punishment. None of the sources I have found have been so deeply supportive of parents as this book, which is true of all of Elizabeth Pantley's writings. I loved the feature at the end of the book on situation specific problems. Each section is headlined with the phrase, 'Think about it,' which should be the new catch phrase of the decade. The 'think about it' section makes very difficult situations so simple and easy to understand- the approach is wonderful and practical for confused and frustrated parents. My thanks to Mrs. Pantley for making the world of parenting a more pleasurable and loving experience.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great easy read for tired stressed out parents.,
Many books I have read about child discipline and child rearing focus on making children conform. They also seem to want you believe that children only misbehave to manipulate you. Elizabeth Pantley allows us to see child behavior through the child's eyes. She offers solid and usable tips and solutions for parents to help them deal with a range of discipline issues. The No-Cry Discipline Solution is parent and child-friendly.
This book is an easy read, it is also easy for reference.
I think this is perfect for a parent that is tired and frustrated.
The last thing I need is a thick meaty book where I have to think more.
After spending the day thinking and trying to keep my kids safe, I need someone to work for me a little. This book does that, She lists things that are happening, and how you can change your wording or actions slightly, to get the end result you want, with out some of the tears and frustration
As far as it being no cry- I am not sure, because children being children, still want their way, they can not see logic the same way we can, but it is a nicer way of communicating, and i am sure will cause less tears and frustration on all fronts. This book gave me better tools in my bag of tricks then I have been using, and that is a great thing.
There are some practical suggestions that are very helpful. Like instead of saying "go get in the car right now!", trying something like, "Can you hop to the car?" or "Do you want to walk or skip to the car?"
She clearly indicates in her books that she will provide you with different strategies as there is no "one size fits all" solution to any of the challenges we parents face. One is able to take what fits their family and leave the rest. This book does not make you feel like a bad parent for not having thought of these ideas yourself.
I really like the honesty of this, it is real, and she is not assuming she knows everything, or that her methods are the only things that will work.
I like how there are many suggestions for similar issues, it is a great touch to have so many parents have feedback in the book. It makes it seem so much more real.
5.0 out of 5 stars Respectful, realistic and, most of all, useful,
Most of the suggestions can be adapted to use from 2 year olds to teens.
I highly recommend Pantley's work for parents interested in building respectful, loving relationships with their kids.
5.0 out of 5 stars Even the most gentle parents need a bit of reminding!,
1 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Another helpful resource for parents!,
--Judy Arnall, Parent educator and author of "Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery"
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The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums, and Tears: Foreword by Tim Seldin by Elizabeth Pantley (Paperback - April 25 2007)
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