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Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too

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This book was so good. It was very easy and quick to read. It outlines problems that occur between siblings and gives straightforward suggestions. You couldn't get more helpful or insightful than this book. I definitely feel like I can attend to sibling rivalry in my house with much more confidence and effectiveness as a result of reading this book.

I loved this book. It provides a series on concrete examples and detailed rationales to diffuse (or prevent) sibling rivalry. It's probably most useful for parents raising children, but I have already applied some of the concepts to my own adult sibling relationships.
I loved the other books by these authors and highly recommend them for those looking to enhance their positive parenting skills.

This book is useful not only for dealing with sibling rivalry, but also with diffusing conflicts between any children. It is valuable not only for parents but also for those adults who regularly deal with children avocationally (as in Scouts, or AWANA Clubs) as well as professionally (school teachers). This book refrains from dry theory. To the contrary: It contains many cartoons that depict a common response to childrens' conflicts versus a much better way of handling these conflicts. The conflicts dealt with range from children's feelings of adult favoritism all the way to open fighting.

I love this book... My kids are now 5 & 3 and there is another on the way. I have read this book cover to cover & keep it handy for quick references when I feel I need a "refresher".

What I like about this book is it is easy to read, easy to follow, easy to understand. My copy is dog earred, highlighted and has pencil marks in the margins.

The advice is easy to follow and does not need lots of 'analysis' to get started. It covers basic topics, but once you 'get the gest of what to do' it's easy to apply the theories to just about every situation you may encounter as a parent.

Are you tired of your children fighting over everything big or small? Are your nerves frayed at their ends? Are you spending too much time setteling your childrens' agruments? This excellent book teaches parents all these different techniques to help children help themselves solve their sibling problems without violence and parental intervention.
When investigating the problem of sibling rivalry, the culprit and the root of the problem comes from parents' attitudes toward their children. Are you a parent that has labeled your children? Sometimes parents attach a label to their children without realising it and the consequences are creating excesive pressure on the children to play a certain roll that they have no desire to but continue to act it out in order not to hurt the parent.
Children want to be heard and adults must first learn to listen and acknowledge the childrens' feelings. When children are mad or angry, it is important that we help the describe what they are feeling and let them know that it is alright to be mad, sad, angry or disappointed, however it is not acceptable to hurt the person with whom they are having conflict. The whole idea of this solution sounds like it was concieved in some fairy tale but it works about 90 percent of the time to reduce the tension between the fighting children in our family. After the tensions have subsided between the siblings, the parents suggest the children find a solution to their problem and they actually come up with some creative things.
The authors have integrated numerous real live scenarios they have encountered from parents who have participated in their seminars over several years.
Two years ago I purchased a book from the same authors, "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and How to Listen so Kids Will Talk" which brought a lot of peace and sanity between parents and children. As our family expanded, the conflicts and bickingering between siblings started to increase and with the help of this book they are now on the decline.
An excellent book that all parents should read.

This is a very simple book that gives good tips on what to do to stop your kids from fighting so much. It's weakness is that it assumes kids fight over the same simple things, such as sharing toys. You can use the ideas and modify them to suit other situations. I'd also suggest How to Talk and a book titled Perfect Parenting to expand the situations and apply the concepts to all different aspects of raising your children.

I have three children - the oldest are girls ages 8 and 6 and boy age 3. This book was wonderful. My two girls constantly battle and my boy is extrememly agressive towards everyone in the family. This book helped me learn not only how to work through these problems, but how to avoid them altogether.

This book is well written and presented in a manner that provides simple, common sense approaches to the anarchy in your home. Many of the scenarios described in the "sessions" could be happening in your very own homes, and instead of pulling your hair out in frustration you could be making an effort to learn alternate means of conflict resolution. I read this book and saw myself or my mother (mostly my mother, of course! :)) in most of the situations where an action or phrase would only serve to exacerbate conflict. Especially useful for those parents who are afraid of showing favoritism or trying "too hard" not to.

I bought this book because my toddler (2) was being very aggressive toward my newborn. While, I think the theories in this book require at least one child to be emotionally and verbally developed enough to express their emotions and thoughts, it has helped me look at her aggression in a new light. And treat her in a more positive manner even when I don't like her behavior. There are also some very valuable lessons to foster good relations between siblings - that's the best lesson I learned. My children may have personality differences that keep them from being best friends but there are things that I can and MUST to to foster an respectful and caring relationship. EVERYONE with more than one child needs to read this book.

I count myself blessed that my two kids get along swimmingly for about 90% of the time, but my husband and I bought this book when our second child arrived, wanting to be prepared for the worst. Think of the book as a tool kit. Faber and Mazlish equip parents with the most effective tools around to help cope with and diffuse sibling rivalry and the havoc it can wreak on a family. The techniques described herein are useful, pragmatic, and based upon long experience. I can't recommend the book too highly.