4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
on January 10, 2007
I was lucky enough to recieve this book for Christmas this year. As a Work at Home Mother in th 21st century, I feel the pressure as Alyson points out that parenting is a competitve pursuit and that were are obssessed with having our kids perform and if they don't or act up it's a reflection of you as a mother.
I love the chapter on self care and why it is so important to yourself, as a mother, wife, friend and person in general. Just becuase you became a mother, doesn't mean you should stop taking care of yourself. As a person who lost her mother while pregnant with her first child a few years ago, the importance of self care and being healthy rang loud and clear.
The other chapters are all great, with great examples, practical advice for moms and dad, including information on helping your marriage remain a good one and tips of you need help reconnecting with your partner.
A must read book for all parents!
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
on February 26, 2007
Fabulous! Alyson Schafer tackles the problem of perfectionist parenting with wit and wisdom. Her assesment of current parenting trends is insightful and challenging but she does more than just critique the current climate. She offers a clear and practical alternative to each of the problems she highlights. This book is very positive and although it challenges the reader to alter in their parenting, it does so in a non-condemning and very encouraging way. Just as she encorages parents to believe in their children and empower them to solve their life issues themselves, so too she empowers the parent to do likewise. I appreciated the balance she struck between critique and applicable suggestions. There is enough critique for the reader to understand the dilema but enough application to make the book truly worth the read.
on October 17, 2012
This book is an excellent parenting book. It is very easy to read and full of good sense. It shows how the modern mothers are trapped in trying to be perfect and how seeking perfection can lead to a lot of frustrations and mistakes. It gives many good suggestions to bring peace in the family. Two of them were very useful to me: The first one was "Don't do what your kids can do" (example: picking up toys and so on), the second was to have a weekly family meeting to discuss rules and various decisions. These family meetings are a big success for us. My children feel important because they can take part in the decision making and everyone is enjoying it.
on April 4, 2011
I really enjoyed this book. Alyson Schafer does a great job of reminding us that we can do a really great job of raising our children without overdoing it and without losing our own identities in the process. She uses humour and wit to get her message across, and while doing so, she is also able to demonstrate a deep respect for children and their rights. This book inspired me to let go of the chains of modern "perfect parenting" culture and strive to balance my needs with those of my daughter and husband (and everyone else in our lives). I plan to read it again in a few months to give myself another reality check.
In "Breaking the Good Mom Myth," Alyson Schafer reminds parents that we can successfully raise children without either perfection or selflessness. Though the first couple chapters feel "light" and difficult to take seriously, Schafer ultimately uses humour to both express respect for children and offer helpful advice on how to overcome parenting myths including "my marriage can wait." She even includes lists and tables to help manage sibling conflicts and to determine age-appropriate chores. The book inspires readers to balance their own needs with those of their children and partners.
2 of 3 people found the following review helpful
on March 17, 2007
The best gift I have ever given myself!
This book is really easy to read, full of practical information, and has helped me not only loose most of my big worries but also most of my guilt. She preaches the importance of encouragement and practices it in this book. I just finished reading it and I finally know that parenting doesn't have to be a crisis. I have the tools and ideas now to move forward with confidence. Buy this book for yourself and all your friends (be they mom's or dad's).