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Authors engage in fantasies that they are experts and can help others - check enneagram type and seek help
on September 24, 2015
I'm a Type 4 and he says 'Fours tend to lose themselves in romantic fantasies'. The earlier descriptions of these 'fantasies' are about people who have a deep spiritual and emotional yearning.
An example from one :case study"
William: "I longed for emotional contact; it is my food. I already knew I was loved by my parents but rarely felt that they could mirror the deepest, most vulnerable parts of me."
What a beautiful statement that is, which says a lot about his need to connect to a love greater than which most people are capable of providing. But if you 'indulge' in such 'fantasies' you need help.
Authors go on: "If Fours persist in this attitude they may cross over into the unhealthy range. If you or someone you know is exhibiting the WARNING SIGNS for an 'extended period of time ... more than TWO OR THREE WEEKS - getting counselling, therapy or other support is highly advisable."
So, if you have genuine reasons for not getting along with the average regressive automaton at work who doesn't read or think - YOU need help. Not only does he dismiss our deep spiritual/emotional needs, but I also like how he puts the onus on the individual to change.
This has been the great flaw of western civilization and psychologists from day one. If there is a problem, never mind societies role in it! It's all the individual, the 'personality' and their types. This is the 'great' advice given by bestselling authors, experts, nay, geniuses, about how to 'deal' with these people. And if they happened to be employers no doubt they would 'allow' such 'types' to be let go so the author and his kind can go back to working away in the office.
After all, not working in unhealthy environments and PRODUCING constantly is a crime! Spending your life in reflection and living in alternate ways is a problem!
The book gives most of its help in the form of your usual vague positive encouragement: 'Healthy Fours engage with Reality through Meaningful Action. By Committing themselves to Principles and Activities beyond the realm of their Subjective Reactions."
Very helpful stuff - sounds like the copywriter who writes all your company manifesto's and mission statements.
And he ends it by calling the book 'The Complete Guide'! to Psychological and Spiritual Growth. I wonder what this says about the authors unhealthy attitudes. You need to have a massive ego and whatnot for it.
P.S. I just experienced a moment of synchronicity. I had decided to send this to the used book shop asap and in the middle of this review a fly hovered by. Giving me a chance to swat it with this very book which I had resting in my lap. I think I have discovered the true potential of this book. Cheers!
P.P.S. Message to Riso and Hudson: Quit