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The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure

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Just when I thought MALE SEXUALITY could not get better, it did! This revised edition is a must have for both men and women who want to both learn more about their sexuality and enhance it. Bernie writes clearly, factually, compassionately, and without judgement. His book informs, gives permission, and is helpful in understanding what happens when things are not the way you'd like, sexually. He provides excersises that support insight, and information that allows growth. This book is a standard, and should be in anyone's library who is at all curious about their own sexuality and their sexual relationship. I recommend this book for both men and women. It promotes conversation and learning between partners, and provides accurate information.

This book is unmatched in its straightforwardness, casual tone, and careful mix of do-at-home exercises and author's ideas. It is more sociological than most other sex advice books as well, providing the necessary social context for men's sexualities. "It's Two Feet Long and Hard as Steel" is a great chapter.

Finally, a book that speaks with reasonableness and straightforwardness to men and women! This book offers suggestions and tools, in an insightful and respectful manner, for women and men to enhance not just their sexual lives but also their relationships with one another. I had lost faith in men's ability to think beyond the mechanics. Thank you for pursuing quality and not just quantity!

In a phrase, this book is dangerously disingenuous, painfullydisregarding honorable and edifying moral imperatives, venereal diseaseaware-conservatism and prudent common sense. In some places the book is just flat wrong. The fact is, now, in the age of a mutating incurable viruses and pandemic VD, "If-it-feels-good-do-it" and other forms of 60's self-expression are dangerously misplaced. I thought I would be reading a solid, respected treatise based on sound empirical data. I was wrong. Read and believe at your own risk.

This is a great book as long as the author stays in his field and deals with what he knows. It gets shaky when he strays into sociology and history where his knowledge is too superficial and obviously influenced by the spirit of the age. He depicts men as being sad, hollow creatures unable to connect with others in meaningful relationships and striving anxiously to perform up to others' expectations. He then spends most of the rest of the book telling us how to perform so we can live up to women's expectations and thereby enter in meaningful face-to-face as opposed to empty side-by-side relationships. It never seems to occur to him that men (and perhaps many women) may not want the degree of control and lack of privacy inherent in face-to-face relationships. Perhaps men are satisfied with a much lower level of intimacy. Like most psychiatric professionals, the author appears to think that the generally unhappy people he meets in his practice are representative. He seems to have unconsciously adopted the patriarchal and now feminist attitude that everything that goes wrong for men is their own fault. All the problems in male/female relationships are male in origin. Men have to change (perform?). While finding this all-too-familiar litany distressing, I found a great deal of useful information in this book about what the author clearly does know about: male sexuality. He seems to understand how and why we are the way we are sexually. The practical suggestions on how to solve functional problems could be very helpful.

This book is the bird's and bee's talk of the 20th century. The text is written for males, though it discusses females needs and desires quite explicitely. Definitely not a pillow book. If you're having any trouble connecting and/or talking with your wife/partner you should read this book. It will do wonders for your relationship.

The best book on male sexuality. Truthful and very informative. Any man needs this book to fully understand their own body and a woman's. Great book for teenagers. Answers many hard to talk about questions.

The title of this book is misleading. to call it the new male sexuality is quite the statement and one would thinkit encompasses all forms of male sexuality. This is not the case. I totally agree with writing a book concerning straight male sexuality but that should have been a subtitle to the book. The doc chooses to simply ignore bi and gay men as if they didn't exist. This is not the new male sexuality. Male sexuality is much more then five to eight minutes in the missionary position. Straight couples these days are experimenting with new ideas and techniques. The penis is only one component to the overall male sexual make up. there are other areas to be explored as well. If you want the straight nuts and bolts I guess this book will do but if yu are an adventurous male, look elsewhere.

If you are looking for a healthy sexual life within the context of a loving relationship, don't look to this book for advice. This is not The New Male Sexuality, it is the same sexist thinking dressing itself up as something more evolved. Dr. Zilbergeld has no problem stereotyping and objectifying women, he is simply telling men not to let it pressure them. This book is not about mutuality. Excerpts(italics mine):
Pg 121- Women like men who understand that women's orgasms are more problematic than men's. (problematic?)
Pg 79- Even though we're not likely to ever have sex with fourteen Playboy bunnies at the same time, or even sequentially, it can feel very good to imagine doing so.
Pg 47- Too much sensitivity can inhibit passion. Allan, a student in love with his partner Marie was always gentle. On vacation he met a seductive teasing woman who managed to get him to bed. Feeling angry toward her he thrusted hard and vigorously. He expected to be criticized for this and was surprised when she said it was terrific. When Alan returned to school, he decided to try this kind of sex with Marie. Her reaction was to ask why hadn't they always made love like this? (Marie was happy he slept with another woman?)
And believe it or not, it gets worse than this. I feel sorry for the misguided people who have listened to his advice.

it blew a hol