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on June 8, 2016
Was useful in helping me extend conversations beyond, "Hello, how are you? Fine." It is crucial if you want to explore how different every single person can be.
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on August 31, 2014
Had been casually implementing some as I read the book, wow, immediate results. Now that I'm finished, can't wait to do the workbook exercises in earnest. Highly recommend!
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on April 7, 2013
People STILL don't like me. Bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla
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on August 8, 2009
Take the advice in this book and you'll have much better encounters with everyone. You'll start to get what you want without having to hit that proverbial wall. Nicholas has put all the points into a nice short read. Enjoy!
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on April 5, 2009
This book is very popular for good reason. Under the somewhat flakey cover and title name, there is solid information, that was in my case, recommended to me by a highly qualifed person in the field. Easy to read, well worth the effort. Good Luck!
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on December 1, 2007
I bought myself a copy of this book a few years ago, and then quickly read it from cover to cover. It is one of the most helpful books I have ever read.

I have Asperger's, so I really needed to read a book like this much earlier in life. If I had, I would have gotten an idea of what is appropriate to do and say in what situation much earlier in life! Although this book is not geared specifically to those with Asperger's or those who are anywhere on the autism spectrum, it is as useful for them as it is for anybody else.
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on July 30, 2003
I think it is usefull but is a little boring especially if english is not your first language
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on July 17, 2003
Will this book help make you a more popular person? I suppose the basic flaw of any self-help book is that the reader can readily adopt the program of a book and find the on-ramp to the Highway of Success. The first two sections of this book amount to little more than common sense in dealing with other people. The final section, however, gives some fascinating insight into establishing rapport using Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Boothman writes persuasively enough, but gives almost nothing in the way of solid scientific evidence for his program (At one point, he actually says, "In my opinion, and it has no scientific basis other than my close enough acquaintanceships with more than 35 couples . . ."). He also offers the surprising revelation that couples with successful relationships share not the primary sensory preference but the secondary one, yet gives little in the way of how to determine this secondary preference in others. One might also wonder how to deal with seriously difficult people, skilled manipulators, or more than one individual at a time. Perhaps in a sequel. Still, this is better than most of what passes for self-help advice.
REVISED VIEWPOINT: I've recently read a few books on autism and Asperger's Syndrome which revealed, among other things, that those afflicted do not respond to body language or voice tone, unlike most people, who use those as the primary means of determining a person's intention. I also recently read John Philpin and Patricia Sierra's novel TUNNEL OF NIGHT (Philpin is a forensic psychologist, criminal profiler, and true-crime writer) in which it is stated that sociopaths who are aware of Neuro-Linguistic Programming can subvert it to deceive others. I'm downgrading my rating from 4 stars to 2 stars.
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on February 8, 2003
This is a great book which can help make people like you in a very short time. I found it in a Book Exhibition, and decided to buy it since the title attracted me.
It's really useful when you learn how to attract attention of people which is very important in our daily life.
This book is concise, user-friendly and uses simple language for conveying the auther's message.
Part (1) is an introduction about the importance of the first impression. There is an old saying which is true most of the time (The first impression is the last impression.) All what you need is to adopt a positive attitude, make sure your words, tone, and gestures are in harmony, and use your gift in organizing your speech to maintain an attractive conversation by using open-ended questions to try to discover what the other person likes.
Part (2) focuses on the first 90 seconds for establishing a rapport. As Mr. Boothman said, the key to establish a rapport with people is to learn how to be like them.
Part (3) is talking about the secrets of interactions. I was amazed when I learned that some people rely on visual cues, others on auditory or kinesthetic (touch) input. You just should try to discover what the other person prefers and use it to your best advantage! After doing the exercise to determine my favorite sense, it came out to be (Visual)! The author gives us some exercises for determining the characteristics of the people whose favorable senses are visual, auditory, and kinesthetic.
Keep in you mind that your reward at the end will be the acceptance of the other person for your personality.
However, I agree with some reviewers that there are few points which were not clarified in this book:
1. emphasizing on general appearance.
2. exploring coversational techniques.
3. overcoming shyness for some people.
4. speaking to more than 1 person.
In summary, I recommend this book for anybody who is interested in the "psychology" of how to give a good impression in 90 seconds or less!
Well done Mr. Boothman!
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on December 22, 2002
This is indeed a book that can CHANGE YOUR LIFE!
As someone who always had trouble connecting with people this book showed me very specific methods to use to cause people to like and pay attention to me. To those of us who suffer from social interaction blindness, this is a manual on how to have people listen to you and like you. Simple things like pointing your heart at other peoples hearts, or mimicking their mannerisms really work. (I didn't believe it either, but I tried it and it worked!)
Buy this book and begin living. This may be useful for adults with Asperger's syndrome who may be out of touch with social interaction. The book is very practical, not a bunch of wishy-washy theory.
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