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No More Mr Nice Guy

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So far, reviewers aren't doing this book justice. I picked it up six months ago and was amazed at how well it described my plight as a "nice guy" (a.k.a. codependent). I've read stacks of self-help books, but this one stands above the rest. I mean it, it stands out, by far. And several guys I know who've read the book feel the same way.

This book fully described what I've been going through, told me how things got to be this way, and gave me concrete steps on how to change things. Since I've read it, my life has improved, I feel better, more powerful, and people are responding to me in a new way. If you're a guy walking through life feeling frustrated that you don't get the love, respect, and sex you deserve, you owe it to yourself to read this book.

Has this guy been reading my mail ? Was he somehow able to put a mirror up to the confusion in my heart, read it, and then clarify it ? Every once in a while, I come across a book that captivates you, and speaks DIRECTLY to your heart in a clear fashion. This is THAT book. As a guy who is so busy he can read an average of only 3 PAGES a day, I was able to read this 192 page book in just one week. (You do the math.) It is so sensible and relevant, I was able to read it that "quick". I've often wondered why the very women who refer to me as a "really nice guy" and a "fabulous catch" are the very same women who won't give me the time of day. You too ? This book will show you why. Having a difficult time deciding what you want in a women ? This book will help you figure that out so when you start looking, you will know what you are looking for. Ever wonder why you can't have a successful relationship with ANY women ? This book will show you why, and exactly what to do about it. (Hint: It will show you why and how women are NOT ALWAYS the problem.) Wonder why you sometimes feel so bad when you experience attractioin to women, even though deep down inside you know that your attraction to them is natural? This book will help you figure out why, and get rid of unfounded "guilt", especially if you were raised RIGIDLY RELIGIOUS, but ininformed, as I was. I could go on and on singing this book's praises but suffice to say it HELPED ME OUT. A LOT!!! I'm even confident enough to ask women out on dates again. Last but not least, this book has been so truthful and helpful to me, that I now think so highly of it that my kids will do something before I fiscally assist them in going to college or university. They'll read this! Thank you, Dr. Glover, for showing me that I am GOOD ENOUGH! Thank you, Dr. Glover. THANK YOU!!!

Unlike Mr Delaney who put up the first review, and missed the point, I found this book very insightful and accurate. This book is about pointing out to certain people the negative aspects of their behavior and showing them how to stop. Ultimately this is to better their lives and is much less about manipulation than about being true to yourself for your own happiness.

This book saved my son's life. I found it on Amazon quite by accident as I was searching for another book he wanted. I just knew it was what he needed. He was the typical Mr. Nice Guy. In the depths of despair from a devastating break-up of a terrible marriage, he seemed to be unable to deal with his resulting life. I sent him the book, along with the other one he wanted, figuring he could send it back if he didn't want it. It was a chance I had to take, and when he finally opened it up and began to read it, it was an epiphany for him.
Today, he is able to recognize when he is slipping backward, and stop it. He is making his own personal rules for himself, and guess what? He's a really nice guy...just not Mr. Nice Guy.

This Book is Brillant! Buy it read it apply it.

No More Mr. Nice Guy was the perfect book for me. As a former Nice Guy who was depressed and suicidal for many years, this book changed (and possibly saved) my life.

A lot of it is not for everyone. The book very specifically it targets males who seek approval from others (mostly women) for all the wrong reasons, and seeks to help them overcome this unhealthy behavior. Part of the book describes common approval-seeking behaviors, part of it goes into the (mostly Freudian) psychology behind why the author thinks that some men behave this way, and part of the book gives exercises with which to help Nice Guys get over their problem and get what they want from life. There are plenty of real-men examples, too, to compare yourself against.

One of the fundamental premises behind being a Nice Guy is that you feel that something is inherently wrong with you and your life and there is something that you must do or find or something out there that will make your life work somehow. If that describes the way you think, by all means buy this book. If not, you can still get some good use out of the common approval-seeking behaviors and psychology stuff. It's interesting to see how many people out there really do things for approval.

The method to get over it works, if you can make yourself do it. It's not an easy thing to deal with. I know.

I have read books like Wild at Heart, but have not seen anything as practical and accurate as this book is. As a male Baby-Boomer born in 1957, I have often felt something was just not right in society. Now I have found another part of that explanation. This book also helped me see why many clergy organizations and local churches seem to be full of Nice Guys, but are not reaching or developing authentic men. For me this was a great book to read and I hope others will read it too.

I have known for some time that many of the paradigms that I have grown up with and that I hold today weren't correct but never before have I found a book that offers such a complete explanation of why my ideas of how the world works are flawed. Dr. Glover offers a professional explanation of what is missing in so many men's lives today.

I have struggled with many, many insecurities my whole life. The most problematic have caused me to never have a fulfilling relationship with a woman. This book has finally given me some insight into exactly what is wrong, where it came from, and most importantly... how to fix it. There are no overnight cures but at least now, I know what I need to do to start getting better. Only a few days after reading it, I can tell that my attitude is starting to change for the better. I have a long way to go and his website includes an online support group that has furthered the healing and will provide continued support. On the website, I have even been able to find a support group in town that I plan to attend.

As a therapist, I have seen guilt ridden male clients open up and claim their change process after reading No More Mr. Nice. Guy. The level of guilt and shame imposed by our culture, which views men as bad and women as good, prevents many men from stepping into their lives, becoming successful, and not being manipulated by women. Therapists with such men as clients can find their work moving much faster once clients have read this book. I have had many who read it several times, with much underlining and high lighting.