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Love Must Be Tough

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Thank you Dr. Dobson for writing the perfect book for marriages in crisis! While my husband wasn't having an affair with another woman, he WAS having an affair with drugs and irresponsibility. Your book helped me kick him out and he was forced to hit bottom. I am proud to say that he quickly learned what he was going to lose and has changed his life for the better. As a Christian, it was very hard to swallow the act of separation (and possibly divorce). Through prayer, God does change things! Read this book if you have a spouse who is being disrespectful! It will change your life for the better.

Dr. Dobson deals with another everyday issue that many of us don't know how to deal with. How to say no to the ones we love.

I read this book when I was dealing with an unfaithful wife. Everything I had said hold on to her and "force" her to come back. Dr. Dobson recommended giving freedom since in the end no one can force another into staying in a relationship. He also deals with rebellious children which is basically the same thing as a wayward spouse. Sometimes NO is the answer. Yes you have the freedom to act that way but NO I will not tolerate you acting that way toward me. Yes you have the freedom to leave, but, NO I will not be here when you get back. Yes you have the freedom to commit adultery, but, NO I will not stay married to you if you choose that route. Yes you have the freedom to stay out all night, but, NO you cannot live here and continue to practice that behavior.

A lot of the advice Dobson gives is common sense, that some of us can't see! ! when we are in the middle of those emotional situations that require us to think logically.

I highly recommend this book.

Love Must Be Tough is a must read for one in a marital relationship who feels devastated by an unfaithful spouse. You thought it would never happen to you but it has and now you don't know which way to turn. Is this the end of the road or is there the slightest chance that your marriage might be saved? Where do you go to find strength for what lies ahead? I would heartily recommend Dr. James Dobson's "Love Must Be Tough" for your consideration. I have read this book more than once and I have used its suggestions in my ministry of counselling people who have marital problems. I highly recommend it to you.
doulos (Presbyterian Minister).

I bought this book because the subject matter intrigued me. Even though I knew going in that the book was written from a fundamentalist Christian perspective (which did not appeal to me, being an atheist), I thought I'd give it a try anyway. I'm glad I did. Once you strip away all the religious mumbo-jumbo, what remains is very solid advice that is useful for everyone, single or married, in a stable or rocky relationship, Christian or not. Basically, what Dobson is saying is that relationships are founded on respect, and when that respect starts to erode, the relationship starts to disintegrate. If this disintegration hasn't progressed too far, the relationship can often be saved if the disrespected party starts standing up for his or her rights. I came to the very same conclusions myself after several bad experiences -- it's amazing how quickly someone's respect for you will skyrocket once you stop letting them abuse you. This should be common knowledge for everyone, but it isn't, and thus Dobson's book fills a valuable niche. It's too bad that there isn't a similar book without the heavy religious sermonizing; I think that a lot of people who could benefit from reading this book will be so turned off by this that they won't give it a chance. My suggestion: hold your nose and keep reading -- there's lots of good advice in here if you persevere.

hi.. a month ago my boyfriend broke up with me.. to cut this story short, i tried to get him back by looking like a wet dog... but when my friend told me about this book.. i followed every word it said and applied it with prayer of course... in 4 days,the table was turned and he came back in tears wanting to have me back.. on the 5th day, we were happily together...all his reactions during the time of my silence was exactly how the stories came about in the book...
however, i want to know if this will still work the second time around?.. he broke up with me again and i am very miserable.. please please help me...

Having wanted to avoid the situation that my mother went through, I have searched books, magazines, and basically analyzed every bit of information I could about inter-personal relationships. Here, I believe I have found a gold nugget in the midst of a lot of psycho-babble and bad advice, considering the fact that it actually WORKS.
Please read The Rules to better understand my point.

I read this book when it was first released and I am still recommending it to people today! This book allows you to take a long hard look at your relationships and how YOU respond to them. Dr. Dobson offers some sage advice that can be used is a variety of situations.

Well worth reading! Best wishes and good luck in all your relationships!

James Dobson is a genious when it comes to understanding relationships and bucking polically correct conventional wisdom. This book is full of suggestions and points that most people will probably not want to hear but need to hear. That is why love must be tough.

The examples used in this book cover a wide variety of situations. Dr. Dobson give the perfect suggestion for each.

I think that this book and philosophy would work for some people, but not for me. I especially did not like what he said at the end of the book. He encouraged people to take back their cheating spouses, even if they can't trust them again. And forgive me if I am wrong, but isn't taking back someone who is mistreating you, even if that person changes, showing that you don't have self-respect?

I bought this book to figure out a way to straighten out a relationship with a very difficult person that I knew. Dr Dobson gives good advice on maintaining your self-respect through difficult times.

Being a good Christian doesn't mean becoming a doormat for manipulative people.

Although many examples in the book deal with adulterous spouses (not what I was dealing with), the principles can be applied to any aspect of our life and relationships.

This book is pure Gold.