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5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing when the FACTS speak for themselves!
When you listen to what most Womens and/or DV groups or organizations positions', tone and attitude say about Dads these days, and then compare their "politically-correct marketing spin" with the neutral, object facts, as presented in this book through Bravers' work, it is utterly amazing to see what the Agenda these afore mentioned ( Womens groups & DV orgs) have here...
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1.0 out of 5 stars Mythological Bull written to destroy single-parent homes
As a systems integration developer who's worked on several Deadbeat Dads projects for various state's soc. services, I can tell you that it is NOT a 'myth' that it is the DIVORCED DADS who abandon their responsibility to their children! Why do you think they don't call it 'deadbeat MOMS'? This book was written by folks intending to subvert the best interests of the...
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1.0 out of 5 stars Mythological Bull written to destroy single-parent homes, Jan. 8 2000
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Violet Weed "The Truth shall Set Ye Free" (San Francisco - Atlanta - Honolulu - Chicago) - See all my reviews
This review is from: Divorced Dads (Paperback)
As a systems integration developer who's worked on several Deadbeat Dads projects for various state's soc. services, I can tell you that it is NOT a 'myth' that it is the DIVORCED DADS who abandon their responsibility to their children! Why do you think they don't call it 'deadbeat MOMS'? This book was written by folks intending to subvert the best interests of the children of divorce AND to help destroy single-parent families by ridiculing their need for the legislation currently in force to protect their needs. I think it was VERY shameful for John Stossl to give these irresponsible folks air-time on 20/20... disgusting! If Stossl wants to know what's REALLY going on, why doesn't he talk to the Deadbeat Dads social services folks or the police who enforce the child support laws, instead of listening to these nincompoops. Don't waste your money on THIS pile of manure!
Aunty-Violet
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5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing when the FACTS speak for themselves!, Sept. 10 2002
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"cheetahftl" (Massabullchits) - See all my reviews
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When you listen to what most Womens and/or DV groups or organizations positions', tone and attitude say about Dads these days, and then compare their "politically-correct marketing spin" with the neutral, object facts, as presented in this book through Bravers' work, it is utterly amazing to see what the Agenda these afore mentioned ( Womens groups & DV orgs) have here really is. Sanford Braver & Diane O'Connell have done an excellent job and presenting the facts. This material is a MUST READ. It's too bad Public Policy folks in this country who comissioned Braver's work are not hard at work making serious changes in the poor public policies that have been established over the last 30 years or so, fueled by the Fear, Uncertainity, and Doubt factors and the factually incorrect & incomplete statistics used by the anti-father campaigns waged by so many womens groups and the DV indu$try against men/fathers. It is shameful and disgusting.
Children need and want both parents EQUALLY. Mom and Dad. Whether they are together or not. Simple & Basic.
Children's "Best Interest" is not served by sole physical custody being "awarded" to the mother and removing the father from the day to day picture of their children's lives. Time for the Adults to stop exploiting Children as a cash-cow "prize to be won" in a "winner-take-all" battle that drains and strains all involved; emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. In case anyone hasn't noticed - this is a major INDU$TRY in our society these days, (separating fathers from their children and extorting exhorbitant $ from the Dad, providing it tax free to the Mom - who is not held accountable on how it is spent - and oh - BTW - The State gets Federal kickbacks based on how much $ they can extort), that is soley GREED & CONTROL based. It is a poison that needs to be addressed and resolved NOW all across our country. This whole current process is in and of itself ABUSIVE and wrong. Public Policy needs realistic common sense CHANGES to be made quickly & deeply into Public Reality if indeed we want a healthy & happy society moving forward. ABUSE of process and basic common sense for financial gain has got to go!
Parenting ones' children, regardless of your gender, is a basic human fundamental need/right supported by numerous, credible studies and reports, not to mention basic common sense. The Best Parent is BOTH Parents.
If you don't agree, after reading this book, then you must be part of the problem.
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5.0 out of 5 stars An invaluable resource, April 9 2002
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As someone who spent several years working in a Texas courthouse, I had many experiences in dealing with child custody cases and the day-to-day child support procedures. I was so often subjected to face-to-face encounters with mothers desperate to get child support and fathers who felt they were being treated unfairly. There is a multitude of dysfunctional ex-couples and when they end up in court the judges often make the matter worse.
Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths is the most clear-headed, objective work I have seen on the subject.
Sole possessory custody by the mother just does not work as it should. This type of custody should only be used where there is clear evidence that the father was abusive toward the children.
Wherever possible, joint custody, should be the norm and not the exception as it is today.
In so far as "Divorced Dads" spreads the word on the merits of joint custody, it is an invaluable resource. I highly recommend it as a primer on the child custody/child support controversey. It is a must read.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Affirming... and Depressing., Feb. 15 1999
This review is from: Divorced Dads (Paperback)
Braver and O'Connell's Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths, emerges as the first work on the subject to extend it's reach beyond mere hyperbole in either direction. Having put pen to paper expecting to verify current cultural wisdom about the attitudes and actions men who experience divorce have toward their children, the authors instead develop a credible body of research showing that most of what is thought of as true.... simply isn't. In the same vein as works like "Who Stole Feminism" by Christina Hoff Sommers, it dares to question many of the myths that have served to paint men into an anachronistic corner as we move into the twenty-first century.
While we live in a world that increasingly supports women in "nontraditional roles from the corporate boardroom to construction site, there are no such affirmative action programs for men who want to start daycare centers or be stay at home dads. Such is the paradoxical society that Divorced Dads writes about. My only criticism of the book is it's rather brief treatment at looking at the reasons behind the myths and prejudice described within. Without understanding the reasons behind them, they will be difficult to correct.
I found it affirming in its ability to describe the kind of prejudice I have personally experienced as a divorced dad, and depressing in its description of the despair and isolation such men frequently face when trying to stay involved in their children's lives.
Hopefully, this book will help stimulate disenfranchised fathers, open-minded politicians and policy makers into action intended to reverse the laws and attitudes preventing children from having loving relationships with both their parents.
Our children deserve no less.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Exhaustive research and solid logic - a real winner, Feb. 11 1999
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Sanford Braver has contributed a compelling work to the subject of disenfranchised fathers and the impact on children and society. His focus, as stated, is to examine divorced fathers in great detail - as opposed to never-wed or unknown dads. With a wealth of statistics, he systematically overturns the conventional wisdom on key issues ranging from child support and "deadbeat dads" to joint custody. Rather than avoiding them, he admirably tackles the toughest issues - including an analysis of Jeffrey Nichols ("King of the deadbeat dads")and a detailed review of domestic violence. With his academic background, the book reads much like well written treatise that would survive a tough "peer review". However, it is far from dry but rather filled with topical anecdotes and perfect illustrations of the points he makes. I highly recommend this book. I'd also recommend David Popenoe's "Life without Father" for a further description of the impact of fatherlessness on our society through the children of the last generation.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A GREAT BOOK THAT CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!!!, Oct. 21 1998
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This review is from: Divorced Dads (Paperback)
I just finished reading Divorce Dads: Shattering the Myths. It's a great book that can make a difference both in the policy debate as well as to the many individual dads who have had a tough time with their ex-wives and/or the courts. Men need to know that their problems are shared . . . and not necessarily (or entirely)a reflection of their own weaknesses and mistakes.
As a disenfranchised dad myself, it's shocking to read how misconceptions, disinformation, sloppy statistics, and the mythology of gender and divorce in America have contributed insidiously to our own personal and family tragedies . . . and have left many of us feeling powerless in a prejudicial system.
On a more personal and individual level, this book can comfort dads who have been disenfranchised from their fatherhood and estranged from their kids by illustrating so well that we are not alone . . . that our problems are not entirely of our own making and not altogether a reflection of our own mistakes.
Apart from the content, this book is really well written ... it's engaging, interesting, and very easy to read.
I urge all those who care about our nation's children to get a copy, read it, talk about it, and work to get the book read by people who can make a difference -- journalists, judges, legislators, and lawyers.
Moreover, it's an important book for all dads and moms -- especially those contemplating, in the process of, or already divorced.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A must for everyone interested in America's children, Oct. 13 1998
This review is from: Divorced Dads (Paperback)
"Divorced Dads", a new Tarcher/Putnam book written by Sanford L. Braver with Dianne O'Connell, should be read by everyone interested in America's children. It will not be, primarily because it presents unmistakable findings that many of the most central myths Americans want to believe are wrong. Eliminating those myths from our lives, which we must do if we hope to reach rational conclusions, would expose and threaten our profound biases, however, and is thus too painful to tolerate. Better to continue the way we were, ignoring and diminishing what has already happened to children who have had one parent taken away from them by a society protecting the other parent regardless of what may be best for the children.
"Divorced Dads" misses the mark only once when it concludes that "no real remedies" are available to a court to prevent a custodial parent from wrongfully preventing children from obtaining access to their other parent. A right without a remedy is no right at all. Before looking the other way at this kind of unlawful conduct by a custodial parent the courts had better think harder about remedies that can be effective. The U.S. Government for the first time is starting to spend a tiny amount of "seed" money to explore the question, and individuals like Professor Richard Gardner have offered a host of suggestions to this problem, some of which are being tested by courageous judges. There is no shortage of possible solutions - only an absence of will to buck the prevailing political tide.
If the "Jim Crow" mentality of the Deep South could be overcome despite the determination to maintain "segregation forever", surely our children should not continue to be kept from maintaining relationships with decent fathers because of vindictive and hateful mothers. "Divorced Dads" can help lead the way to change that is long overdue.
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5.0 out of 5 stars "I was so flabbergasted, I could think of no response ...", Jan. 9 2000
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Those are the words of Dr. Sandy Braver, recounting his experience at a moderated conference on child support collections, after the moderator stated:
"You know, I've heard about your (Dr. Braver's) findings. Our panel was discussing this very issue, of differences between mother's and father's answers, over lunch. And what we concluded was if the mother tells you one thing and the father tells you something else, then the father is a g--damned liar."
Dr. Braver's book should be in the hands of every legislator who purports to conduct an equitable review of the Divorce Industry.
Gerald L. Rowles, Ph.D.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Logically explodes the myths about divorced dads., Oct. 9 1998
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In a well organized fashion, Braver and O'Connell point out the myths about divorced dads which have been generally accepted as truths by the media, and more importantly, by public policy leaders. They don't just point out the problems inherent with the research "studies", they explain why they are wrong in great detail. This is a must read certainly by any group striving to right the wrongs of today's view of dads, but even more for those who appreciate the needs children of divorce have to both of their parents outside the intact home.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Tremendous insight into the negative stereotyping of dads, April 24 1999
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I am the founder of Fathers for Fair Visitation and I routinely distribute this book at no cost to decision makers in California. The information is very valuable. My only criticism is that Mr. Braver appears to apologize for the truth. Somehow feminists will be angry at him for showing that many of their statments about divorced dads are inaccurate.
Must reading for a divorced dad!
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