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Adoption Healing...a Path to Recovery

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Joe Soll draws heavily from John Bradshaw's works about "inner child" healing. The reader is encouraged to heal through self-affirmations. I also recommend that triad members read Sherrie Eldridge's books.

I agree with others that not all adoptees are in pain. But for the ones who are, this book offers step-by-step guidelines on how to move past the pain in the realm of forgiveness and contentment. As an author and psychologist myself, I believe 100% that the only way out of the pain is through the pain. Add this book to your adoption bookshelf, you won't be sorry.

Kasey Hamner, M.S., author of "Whose Child?" and "Adoption Forum"

I am not an adoptee but I feel that much of what Joe Soll describes in his book has got to be true. I cannot imagine an adoptee not feeling the pain, sadness and anger of having been relinquished by the mother. Yet, our own daughter, adopted at four days of age, insists that she has never had an identity crisis and has not suffered. Several of her classmates were adopted and are also not preoccupied by their past, nor have they initiated a search for their birthmother. We are now happily reunited with our birthmother (who found us) and our daughter still says she is not any happier now than she was before meeting her mother.I still want to agree with Joe Soll that repression may be at work here. I want her to read this book.

Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald, author of ADOPTION: An Open, Semi-Open or Closed Practice?

I highly recommend this book for anyone that wants to understand the heart, soul and mind of an adoptee and/or birthparent. He shows adoptees and birthmothers their path to healing. You might say - what healing. The truth is adoption = loss and loss = need for healing. Read this book and your life will change.

He wrote about me! It is like the author got inside my head. The author xplained me to me. This book is fantastic. I highly recommend it to everyone. I heard good things about it from my therapist, but the book is better than it's billing. Buy it!

Adoption Healing got me in touch with hidden feelings that I didn't even know I had. I now understand myself in a new way, a way that will help me heal from the separation of my mother at birth. Soll's book is a wonderful follow-up to Nancy Verrier's Primal Wound. All those who have been touched by adoption should make this wonderful book a bible.

This book is best for those who perceive themselves to be tragic victims of adoption, inherently wounded and in need of coddling. Don't get me wrong - there are valid psychological issues that come with being an adoptee (I am one), but if you want a book that addresses these issues in a much less cloying and more informative way, read _The Primal Wound_ by Nancy Verrier. This book features a segment at the end of each chapter to help you get in touch with your "inner child." It features sentences along the lines of "by now, your inner child is probably feeling scared and alone. Talk to your child and tell him/her that it's OK....etc...blah blah blah." VERY short on useful data and LONG on feel-good but ultimately useless psychobabble. Save your money and your time and head for Verrier's more lucid book along the same lines.

I highly recommend this book as an adoptee in reunion. Adoption is often misunderstood. Reading some of the bad reviews of this book I can see that. Adoptees are often in denial about their true feelings. Once out of this denial, we have quite a bit of healing work to do. This book will show you how. Those brave enough to do it will be a new person.

A must reading for anyone in the triad that is in search of an honest adoption book and the steps needed to heal from the losses of adoption.I am a reunited Mom and I only wish I had read this book before reunion ,although it has been very helpful since. Joe brings with him the knowledge of living the life as an adoptee and his therapeutic expertise as a therapist working in the adoption field.I will not be reselling my copy because I still need to refer to it for valuble insight and comfort. Thank you Joe for your contribution toward the healing of all those that need "ADOPTION HEALING"

Adoption Healing is the "Courage to Heal" of adoption. Soll has written an excellent guide to healing the loss of the sacred mother/child relationship thru adoption. No more need be said. If you lost your mother thru adoption, or are affected in some other way by the losses of adoption, this book is for you.