on December 3, 2003
Never before have I read a self-help book where the author starts out by admitting her own failures. Wait, to clarify: Sure, the self-help authors talk about the failures of their PAST-- the ones that they've overcome and are now teaching about. Jennifer, instead, talks frankly about how she quit listening to her own advice and felt hypocritical teaching others how to nurture themselves when she was living a "cavernous" life. This made me believe her, because I knew she wasn't going to blow sunshine up my derriere for the rest of the book.
She speaks my language, too-- this book isn't about guilting yourself into doing more, planning more, organizing more, but about slacking off and taking things at your own pace and listening to yourself. I love her humor, her insight, and her warmth.
This is not a book to read once and put away on your shelf, for each page is packed with wisdom to be digested slowly over time. Take modest steps. Learn to recognize the symptoms that you're getting "out of harmony." Throw away perfection. Learn the difference between pleasure and happiness. Not all brand new concepts, but presented in a new and appealing way that made me feel more confident that I, like this "imperfect" narrator, could actually accomplish these goals. None of it felt like a lecture; it all felt like solid and friendly help from someone who had been in my shoes.
I enjoyed following this author's journey and am optimistic that I will make real life changes as a result of having read this book. An excellent choice for all the women out there who do too much and nurture themselves too little.
--Jenna Glatzer, editor of [...] and author of OUTWITTING WRITER'S BLOCK and Other Problems of the Pen
on December 4, 2003
I loved this book because it is down to earth, and addresses the issues we all have when our lives get out of control and we feel overwhelmed. I enjoyed he style in which the book is written and the wise insights and tips to move forward and create a more fulfilling life. In the same breath, I have to recommend Optimal Thinking: How to Be Your Best Self by Rosalene Glickman, Ph.D. because it gives you insight into the shortcomings of the old positive thinking is good/negative thinking is bad paradigm and shows you how to make the most of feelings, thinking, situations, bring out the best in others and truly live your best life. Buy these two books and you will have everything you need to create the life you want.
on October 16, 2003
I first met Jennifer Louden when we hooked up to lead our Writer's Spa in Taos NM (She has a rockin' site at comfortqueen.com) Anyway -- working with Jennifer was like relaxing by an ever-flowing stream in a sunlit valley -- she just made me feel good. And she made our participants feel great! So then I read the first edition of this book, and was really knocked out. I already knew she was wise and a real source on comfort, but she's a funny, insightful and powerful writer, too. This book really had a new spin on how to fully and totally grasp the life you want, and ride your dream into the sunset. I can't recommend it enough!
on October 18, 2003
I found Jennifer through the first edition of her book. I've worked with her in workshops and coaching for the last 2 years. Her down to earth, practical, honest, and dead on observations and suggestions have helped me turn my life around. I've gone from a high tech industry career that was sucking the life out of me to a related and much less stressful job where I have time, energy, and more of what I want in my life. All this without having to throw away my career, my family, or my sanity. She is a warm, vivacious, miracle worker.