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Female Domination

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I had my reservations before buying this book. But now I can truly say that all my fears were unfounded. This is not a 'man-hating' manual; in fact quite the opposite: it challenges gender role stereotypes. In a strange way, this book may even be liberating for many men; men have submissive tendencies just as they have female traits (they wouldn't be able to get along with women without them), and it points out that not all men are intended by nature to be 'dominant.' And that's okay. In general, I think that embracing some more of these ideas would make for a healthier society.

Also recommended: 'THE LOSERS' CLUB: Complete Restored Edition' by Richard Perez

How I've waited for someone to write an intelligent book about FemDom which would explain the submissive sexual desires of a man to the novice female, without freaking her out. This is the book I've been waiting for my entire adult life.

My only complaint is that the cover placed my wife in a defensive posture but once she began to thumb through the pages, she was hooked. She was fascinated by this book and it opened the door for us to have a wonderful conversation about my formerly hidden longing to be dominated by a woman.

The subtitle says it all. This book is an exploration into the male desire for loving female authority and that is what I've been seeking my whole life. Thanks to this book, my wife and I are beginning our journey together.

This is an important book that delves into the fascinating and misunderstood world of Female Domination. Written by a practising psychologist, this work provides crucial insights into the mentality and attitudes that drive this alternative lifestyle. The author arrives at several key conclusions of the origins, development and long-term practice of why and how significant numbers of men yearn then continue to worship a dominant woman, as well as what goes on within these special women themselves. She cites little known truths of Christianity whereby Female Domination is quite compatible with scripture, as well as identifying contemporary trigger points for men who wake up to their own deep stirrings of wanting to submit to a woman.

Her literary references to back up her opinion of women as the superior sex are ample and solid. But this is not a feminist diatribe. Elise Sutton is clearly influenced by a deep love for men and a desire to see them at their best. Indeed the sub-title of the book is `An exploration of the male desire for Loving Female Authority'. She makes it clear that a submissive male must not see himself as a wimp. The male has every right, duty even, to be strong in his affairs and strong for his Lady. The author eloquently and, yes, romantically states: `The man should be his Queen's friend, partner, lover, servant and slave. A woman needs all of this in a man'.

The author uses some 40 case studies to back up her work. Every major strand of the lifestyle is examined including role reversal, leather sex, cuckcolding, feminization, disciplining versus punishment, strap-on play, humiliation play, age regression, male chastity, and fetishes. The author emphasizes that Female Domination is a big tent: There are many practices that find a home here but there is no obligation to undertake all of them. This is a well thought out piece of work that will offer reassurance and direction to those who need help to work out their inner most thoughts and feelings. It will hopefully go on to be a gound breaking philosophy for revitalizing relationships between men and women, and offer a sound foundation for the rejuvenation of family life.

The author educates the reader about a rising alternative lifestyle. She explains that the term "female domination" originated within the consciousness of the male gender. It is a sexual categorization rather than a social classification. Consequently, the appeal of this alternative lifestyle to the male reader is predictable.

Be that as it may, as a female reader who is a complete novice to this subject, I found this book to be most illuminating and absolutely stimulating. It is an education into an alternative lifestyle which may possibly be of interest to the woman of the twenty-first century. A female dominated relationship makes perfect sense and the author does a wonderful job in explaining how such a lifestyle best utilizes the strengths and weaknesses of both genders.

I was a little hesitant to read this book because I thought it might be another book written to appeal to male sexual fantasies. I was wonderfully surprised. This book communicated romance, love and devotion between committed people. Yes, it is intense in spots and shocking at times. Nevertheless, it is tastefully written. It is spicy but not salacious. Both men and women will enjoy this book.

As a regular reader of Elise Sutton's articles and website, I was familiar with her philosophy before I read this book. I do not necessarily agree with her beliefs on the superiority of women but I do respect her for her intelligence and obvious passion for this subject.

I've been involved in the BDSM scene even longer than she has and I've read everything from "The Story of O" to "Different Loving". This book is kind of a merger of those two styles. It is educational and informative like "Different Loving" (although not nearly as clinical or intellectual, which I believe was a wise choice by Ms Sutton) and at the same time it is erotic like "Venus in Furs" and "The Story of O" (I actually found Ms Sutton's book to be more erotic because her stories are factual and not fiction).

People who believe in Female Domination and who long for a 24/7 FemDom relationship will appraise this book as being vitally important and perhaps even capable of changing society. I do not share that assessment because I view D&S as recreational and a temporary escape from the "real world". Nevertheless, I had a wonderful time reading this book because it provided that all important recreation and escapism that I seek.

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For me, I found it to be a heck of a good time and I highly recommend this book.

I made the mistake of opening this book late at night. Many hours later, I was still reading and although I was tired, I didn't put it down until I was finished. If you are interested in this subject, this is the kind of book that stays with you long after you finish reading it. It stimulated me mentally and definitely sexually. I became very aroused while I was reading this book. I can't recall another book being this erotic.

But this book is so much more than just sexual. It made me think outside the box about society, religion and everything I was taught about the role of the sexes. I am in the process of reading it again but this time with a highlighter in hand. Ms Sutton has many nuggets of wisdom that are worthy to be remembered and meditated upon. She has a gift of being able to translate her intelligence into words that are profound, yet easy to understand.

I am in total agreement with all the other reviewers who have pointed out that this is an important book. We all owe Ms Sutton a debt of gratitude for writing it.

as a submissive male, i'd like to be able to recommend this book without reservation or qualification - partly just because it was written by a dominant Woman; unfortunately that's not possible due to the quality of the writing. this book presents what is nothing less than a much-needed and very workable blueprint for the future mired in such atrocious writing that i find it embarrassing to read. now don't get me wrong: i think that if you have even a mild curiosity about the subject of Female domination, you should indeed read this book; just be aware going in that the thing could have been edited by George W. Bush. it actually contains several Bushisms of the verb-disagreeing-with-the-subject variety ("...people believe stories from their childhood and accepts them by faith throughout their adult lives" (p. 55)), as well as repeatedly employing such wince-producing phrases as, "it is only a matter of time when" and "i was use to". the word "outgoing" is often (but not consistently) hyphenated or presented as two words, as is "subconscious", and i suspect that if all the clumsy repetition ("I was able to get Henry to see that his desires were very common within males and I was able to get Henry to be at peace...", (p. 68)) were routed out of this book it would have been about fifty pages shorter.

more on the matter of content, the lengths to which Ms. Sutton goes to defend Her adherence to the Christian faith despite its patriarchal bent at times approach the comical; i think it would have been much easier and taken much less time (as well as constituting a better and more complete investment in the Female-formed future) to simply switch to a more Woman-friendly theology than to execute the logistical cartwheels and backflips to which Ms. Sutton resorts in Her defense of Christianity.

these flaws aside (and i haven't even read the whole thing yet), there are many wonderful points made ("A lot of women have come to realize that there is no such thing as a 50/50 relationship. Anything with two heads is a monster." (p. 51)), and the subject matter, of course, could not be more important or relevant to the future of society as a whole. i give the book four stars because it is, at its heart, an outline of what amounts to an essential philosophy, without which our society could probably not move forward in any meaningful way. but i think - and hope - that the fourth or fifth edition will speak far more eloquently in favor of that philosophy than this first one does.

Elise Sutton is the MISTRESS of all MISTRESSES when it comes to the topics of Female supremacy, the submissive status of men, and of Loving Female Authority. She is excellent at educating those who desire to know more, forces one to consider that this "alternative" lifestyle might-not-be and should-not-be so alternative, and provides an excellent manifest for communicating about what can be a touchy topic.

The work of Ms. Sutton, and this book in particular, helped my wife and I communicate efectively about this subject. Ultimately this has lead to increased intimacy and the realization of lifelong dreams. My highest recommendation for those looking to develop this type of relationship.

Bringing her expertise as not only a psychologist, but also a dominant female, Elise Sutton has written what I consider to be the best non-fiction book on female domination. Rather than going into the quality of writing here, as well as Ms. Sutton's insight into the subject matter (the other reviewers have done a terrific job with that), I'd just like to touch on some of the different chapters that delve into the vast area of female domination and how many couples choose to apply this growing trend to their own lifestyles. At the beginning of the book, Ms. Sutton carefully explores her own unique experiences in this field and the psychology behind man's desire to be controlled in the bedroom and outside of the bedroom by a strong, dominant woman. The author examines the history of female domination and the masochistic desires of the male, mostly from the mid-Eighteen Hundreds to the present. She then goes on to show how modern-day couples use female domination within their own marriages, incorporating discipline, English corporal punishment, cross-dressing, orgasm denial, cuckoldry, mental and verbal humiliation, water sports, and leather to add spice and variety to their lives. Ms. Sutton is the first to say that each couple is different and therefore must find what best works for them. The author also stresses that for any of this to work, there must be love, intimacy, communication, and trust between the man and woman. With honesty and open communication, the couple is able to experiment and thus find the things that bring excitement and a stronger sense of love and devotion into the marriage. One thing that certainly stands out is the growing phenomenon of female domination. As time goes by and the female species becomes more powerful in the work place and in less need of a male counterpart, the urge to incorporate female domination into one's marriage increases. During the next hundred years, the balance of power may very well shift to the female and man may find himself on his knees before his lovely Goddess, desiring nothing more than to please her in whatever way she desires.

This book is a MUST-BUY! It's sexy, informative and totally engrossing. Few can match Elise Sutton's instincts concerning Femdom relationships, and this book give many, many tantalizing anecdotes and stories that had me up all night...er, reading. Pick up a copy of this book! Also recommended, The Losers Club by Richard Perez