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"How To" for a great marriage
on May 25, 2004
I agree with the reader from Nashville on almost all points, except to say that there aren't many *godly* women. I know many *godly* women, but not *submissive* women (in the Biblical sense of submissive). Likewise, it's fair for me to say that the reason these women aren't submissive is because of the lack of leadership of their husbands--they refuse to lead, so their wives must, and then their husbands get resentful (yes, I believe the feminist movement has done much to errode traditional male/female marital roles, and I blame lack of leadership in husbands, and lack of submission in wives--as well as the lack of any spiritual life--as the reason for the high divorce rate in many cases). It's a vicious circle that God never intended. Bunny Wilson addresses not just the woman's role in Biblical submission, but also the man's roles in a marriage, and the kind of submission a single person should be executing--IT CERTAINLY ISN'T A BOOK JUST FOR MARRIED WOMEN--it's great for Christians in all walks of life! If you are a Christian struggling daily to actively practice your faith, this is a great book. If you are not a Christian or you are a minimal Christian, your interpretation of this book will probably be one of a "how to" to become a doormat. This is certainly not the case--it takes some Biblical understanding about submission to understand it doesn't mean that you allow yourself to be walked all over, and I think Mrs. Wilson has illustrated this quite well. When we women hear the word "submission", we usually take it to mean "bossed around", and that's not what the author is talking about. What the author is saying that as a Christian wife, your husband should be leading just as Christ leads, and if this is happening, it becomes easy (and even joyful!) to submit, and the wife will never feel like a "doormat" or like she's being bossed around, or that she's losing her identity. God intended us to have these roles from the beginning as described in the book of Genesis, so it only makes sense that by submitting to God (because He knows what's best for us, being our Creator and all) and obeying His plan for us, this makes for a most harmonious marriage. But as a previous reader mentioned, BOTH spouses must be willing to participate, otherwise it won't work. I would like to recommend St. John Chrysostom's "On Marriage and Family Life", ISBN 0-913836-86-9 in addition to Mrs. Wilson's book as it is an awesome read, and discusses more of the same subject matter, and includes some very practical advice on what to look for in a person if you are marriage-minded.