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I Can't Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors

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This is the best self-help book on the topic of trauma recovery. I have used this book with literally hundreds of patients who have experienced severe trauma -- and have yet to find a better single reference. The author guides you (and your therapist, if you have one) step by step through the entire process of recovery. She takes a psychoeducational approach through out. This approach helps to create necessary cognitive frameworks that trauma survivors desperately need in order to begin to make sense of the strange experiences they are often frightened to share with others. The careful building of these frameworks buffer the survivor against overwhelming emotions and feelings of helplessness. The author includes exercises for each phase of recovery, helps you with pacing and timing, and most of all, normalizes the subjective experience of the survivor. One of the most important things she articulates is the phenomenon of "secondary victimization." In brief, secondary victimization results from the well-meaning but damaging responses of your friends and loved ones to your trauma. Often, these ignorant reactions amplify the original trauma and complicate, or completely prohibit, healing. Her description of the biological reaction to traumatic incidents is priceless. Many fail to connect the many possible negative physical reactions to trauma with the traumatic experience itself. Because the physical symptoms sometimes occur weeks or even months after the event, people fail to see them as connected to the trauma. They often see them as isolated entities, adding to the feelings of craziness and being out of control. Just understanding how trauma can affect us biologically (sometimes permanently) lessens the pain and confusion of those reactions and can help the survivor reduce feelings of weakness and self-blame. This enables a person to begin to design effective strategies to address these symptoms. One of the other strengths of this book the inclusion of various kinds of trauma -- from childhood sexual abuse to military terror to auto accidents. This normalization of the survior's reaction across domains of trauma helps to de-emphasize the event and to refocus the indiviudal on moving through the sequale to complete healing. Healing is truly possible. This book is a wonderful tool.

Written for survivors of crime, rape, family dysfunction, and everything else, this usefull book centers itself on Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. The thing is, most who have PTSD aren't even aware of it. Guilt, depression, suicide, and "acting out" are some of the symptoms. God, practically the entire world falls into this category. This is a very valuable book for everyone, regardless of whether or not you "think" you have it. Would also recommend two other great books on the subject, though they are fiction: "Good Grief" and "The Bark of the Dogwood." Both are excellent and great character studies.

I was interested in getting over trauma that I had due to a sexual assault. I realized in the course of reading this book that I had experienced PTSD as a result of my trauma. It was nice to be able to put a label on what I was feeling and know that it was normal and understood. That helped me a great deal.

I am a social worker and want to specialize in treating those who are traumatized. I am glad to have this book as a resource.

This book explains trauma in an easy to understand fashion. It also gives information on different types of trauma and specific issues that survivors will deal with. All along the way, there are exercises for the reader that help him/her learn more about what he/she is experiencing. These were so helpful!

Great book. Dr. Matsakis also wrote a book called "Trust After Trauma: A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them". Another great one to add to your library.

What insight! I also highly recommend reading Peaceful Heart: A Woman's Journey of Healing, by Aimee Jo Martin....a book that is a true testament to the human spirit and takes the reader thru a client's perspective of getting thru PTSD.

I purchased this book initially because I was interested in the subject. Not a medical person or psychiatrist of any sort, I just thought it was something that I would enjoy looking into. For those that know how the subconscious works, you'll appreciate the fact that I discovered that I was a victim of PTSD while delving into the subject. It was as if the universe was trying to tell me something. All I can say is that it opened my eyes and changed my life in ways I never knew possible.

For those interested in fiction dealing with a topic along these lines (and also Dissociative Identity Disorder) I would recommend reading a book called "Bark of the Dogwood" by Jackson McCrae. It's an intricate study of PTSD and packs quite a wallop.

I am so impressed with this book! I have read a lot of books on being a survivor over the years, but this one tops them all. Sensitive and concise, with no agenda but the compassionate healing of the survivor, Aphrodite Matsakis is an impressive and knowledgeable author who will take you wherever you need to go gently, but clearly and firmly. Questions addressed include a clear definition of PTSD, its biochemistry, traumatic events, three levels of victimization, triggers, the healing process, and specific traumas: crimes committed by strangers, rape and sexual assault, domestic violence and sexual abuse, suicide of a loved one, natural catastrophes (like earthquakes, tornadoes, floods, fires), vehicular accidents, and war and combat.

Add to that the extensive list of resources in the appendices, and I can't think of a better place for a survivor to begin, continue or complete a journey through the recovery process.

I'm the webowner of the PTSD Sanctuary. This is the best book I've found on PTSD having PTSD myself.

Assists one in understanding PTSD and has exercises in the book to do if you are able.

Basic theme of the book is to assist the trauma survivor in their own recovery. I highly recommend this book.

This is a terific book for working on recovering from trauma. it involves a *lot* of work, but this is what makes it useful. the author takes you through numerous exercises to find how specifically the trauma affected you. If you have trouble dealing with the effects of trauma, this book and a good therapist will get you well on your way to recovery.

This is the first book I ever worked through when I started my journey of healing from the abuse I'd experienced in my past. It is very helpful, easy to read and to understand. I looked forward to doing the assignments in the book because I felt better afterwards (most of the time) and it made me learn a little more about myself and who I am. Definitely a must-read for survivors of trauma.

My psychologist gave me this book, and I thought he was "crazy", but I started to read the book and I had all the symptoms of PTSD. I took my time and worked through the book over a 9 month period and now I am a new person. I have unloaded almost all the symptoms and am feeling wonderful. I can't thank you enough for putting so much ease in using the book. I actually looked forward to "doing my homework" as I called it, because I knew I'd feel better afterwards.