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The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships

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I read and used this workbook a few years ago... It really helped me to understand assertiveness. I have always been 'too nice' and whenever I stood up for myself I felt bad... this workbook helped me to learn the difference, and gave practical excercises to do in order to learn how to be assertive. I would highly recommend this book...

This book was easy to read, easy to understand and very easy to apply immediately to life circumstances. I particularly found useful the chart of behaviors and the aspects of appearance very well written, vivid and clear. This book was full of accurate user friendly information that anyone would be able to apply in their lives whatever their circumstance or job.

My psychologist recommended that I use this book to help with my interpersonal skills. Although the book is easy to read and has lots of room for writing in your personal thoughts, it does require some professional guidance. I've made it to chapter 3 on my own and have skimmed ahead to glimpse at some of the other chapters, but until my psychologist is able to spend some time on this book with me, I'm at a bit of a standstill.

This is not an easy read like the book:
" How to win friends & influence people"
but is very worthwhile.

The final Chapters 11 to 16 are the best & can be read straight away & still understood.
I found that I had to keep re-reading certain sections just because of the great volume of
important examples it gave.
That is a bonus because it can be used to apply to any situations even if the person
you're speaking to is very vague or unwilling to change their viewpoint.
In other words it allows you to deal with failure.
e.g.
bottom of page 129 :
" Don't try to change their mind. You can't control what others think.
They have the right to their opinions - even if they are mistaken ...............
you can't force them to do so "

Knowing how difficult some people are to deal with is a hard but valuable lesson.
I think anyone - no matter how good their diplomatic skills -
could gain something from this book.

as the other reviewers on amazon.

With the first sentence (stating two types of people read books on assertiveness) the author launches into a very long-winded lecture about one type of person. Or ten. It's very hard to tell which.

He goes on and on and on and, within a few sentences, he's off on so many tangents that I finally skipped ahead a few pages. But then a long, drawn-out diatribe about something else began, and I was back in the middle of this churning sea of blathering nonsense. I call it nonsense because the long, drawn-out, monotonous rants don't make much sense, and the tangents are very distracting.

I'm sure the author has a point, but his Editor and publisher have let him down terribly (and have therefore let down Readers).

I admit I tend to think of psycholgists (as opposed to psychiatrists) as the chiropractors of the physician-world (however, some people love psychologists and chiropractors: to each her/his own) _but_ I know when a person just can't stay on topic and/or rambles on endlessly, no point in sight. Having had to read too many textbooks written by that sort of author during my paleoanthropology studies, I am a hard-core fan of brevity.

The author of this book is neither concise nor interesting, in my opinion, and I feel sure there are better books about assertiveness on Amazon. When I find one, I will read it and rate it accordingly.