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on April 2, 2004
Although I enjoyed reading this book and found it to be quite humorous, I have mixed feelings about it. I agree with the parts that talked about having self-respect and not bending over backwards for someone that continues to treat you like dirt, valuing yourself as a woman, and not be "needy" desperate, and clingy...but the parts I don't really agree with are her advice on games and trickery to keep a man or get him to long for you. If your interested in someone and he's interested in you (and it's a mutual thing) by all means give him a call or at least act interested! Now if he starts acting "funny" and uninterested, that's when you stop calling him or even trying to show interest (whether you're a man or a woman). I'm just wondering if this book really worked, then why is SHE still single.
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on March 15, 2003
Men are hardwired for the hunt and for battle, and oh yeah have penises too. That means: if you give it to him he loses interest; showing weakness could mean death so he will never show his cards and neither should you; and the constant struggle to be in control is exhausting and he secretly longs for a woman who has the upper hand.
So the only way to succeed with men (get what you want) - is to beat them at their own game, which basically means that for the rest of your life you have to PLAY HARD TO GET
And not just to get a guy but to keep him too! Yes, girls, the rest of your life is one long relentless, 24-hour-a-day PLAYING HARD TO GET maneuver. OK, maybe I'm an NGID (NICE GIRL IN DENIAL) and I just dont want to hear it.
But why is the message to women always some form of: "the better we can fake it and pretend to be something we are not, the better we'll do?" And in practice how do you simultaneously not put up with [anything] and also be "attractive"? smiling and stroking them, then pulling away mysteriously, that's what she keeps recommending. So I should treat my boyfriend like some kind of dog that will do my bidding if I communicate total superiority combined with simple obedience training.
Don't get me wrong, I think Sherry Argov has given us essential and truthful info here, I reccommend it to all females. In the context of humans of both sexes as predators it makes sense but I take issue with the fact that it's not about strategy it's about DIGNITY. I just read the book and may come around to her way of thinking but at first reading I don't find her prescription at all "dignified", and I think her advice needs to be taken with a grain of salt.
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on March 6, 2009
Greetings all,

I started by reading the sequel to this book, Why Men Marry Bitches and I found that book more interesting. Although I liked some parts of this book, I found it to be a bit game-y. The things she says to do if your man gets out of line is the same thing he can do to you if you act out of line. From that perspective, I don't see it as enlightening as it sort of seems like an eye for an eye.

I liked the sequel better and found it more practical.
This book seemed a bit bitter and hostile towards men, although I've read worse.
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on December 23, 2003
This book is good for men to read. I think every guy should buy it for the following reasons:
1. There won't be any copies left for women
2. The content works great on women too. As a man, simply apply the same principles towards females and get the same respect from them towards you. In other words, the book backfires, so be careful, Mrs Argov.
-The one your mother warned you about.
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on November 23, 2004
This book is great! It's funny, witty, and insightful... there are great principles to keep in mind. That being said, the 80+ "principles" can easily be pared down to, say, 5 main principles with several subsets. Also, the book doesn't really work if your boyfriend is the clingy one.
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on April 2, 2013
Agree with the whole women having her own independence thing and to never stop living her life... basically having her own set of friends, activities, etc.; a bit of a life SEPARATE from her man and the whole empowerment thing.

Disagree with the "mind game" playing aspect. As previous customers have said, if you have to do this to hold onto your man, you shouldn't be with him. A bit of honesty and communication works. Also as someone else said: unless you're a 12-13 year old and have some marbles up there at maintaining overall relationships and friendships in your life, then you're fine; you don't need this book. Just live your life the way you always did before hand and go with your gut.

This book also doesn't apply if your man is the clingy type or the overall relationship is a clingy one.
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on June 11, 2015
It's OK. Some slightly weird ideas in here but the general basis is sound, in my opinion.
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on September 6, 2006
I seem to have read a lot of positive comments regarding this book, however I have read it as well as some of my friends and we didn't find it as helpful as we had hoped.

According to the author's tips and advice, there is just way too much work on catching and keeping a man. Sure, us women want to be independent, but there's a limit. I'm not about to do praise a man's ego just to "please" him. But according to the author, that's what you have to do! The author basically contradicts herself in many ways, she emphasizes how women must remain independent, however, it seems we have to change in order to keep satisfying men! How come women have to change for men, why can't the men get over themselves and change for us?

Overall, it's a an "OK" book, I love how the author added humour, however, I don't agree with some of the things she wrote about.
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on May 10, 2014
As someone who has read other "self-development" books...this one rates much more low on my list... I think it you're gonna read it, read it for humor and with a grain of salt.
I dont think what the author says is meant to be taken super seriously....because the goal is not to become a "bitch" but merely an independent, self-loving woman who can be assertive about her wants/needs/desires.

This book won't change your life, but read it for fun
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on August 9, 2010
Received book is brand new, but actual book itself is written for girls probably 12-13 years old! If you're grown up with some marbles in your brain-you don't need it
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