on September 23, 2010
I love the way this book is written. As a good ADDer I have been unable to finish it because I am reading several books at once.
I kind of stop reading it while I try to understand why the author thinks that only people with low grades are the ones that have ADD. I did not think I had ADD until I was tested for it, it made sense to what I was feeling and going through.
I never thought I had it because I always got good marks at school, and some of the symptoms where not there, although I was super hyperactive, impatient and impulsive as a child.
Other authors think that exercise, beeing outdoors, not stressing your self out, etc., will help you with ADD. Well, I guess that is the reason it did not show up as much as a young person. I think the reason I went well in school had to do with either I like the topic very much and I would hyperfocus or I was so afraid of my parents getting mad at me, that was a good motivation.
Now that my lifestyle changed, stopped going outdoors, being a single mom, being responsible of my child, working, and other stressors, all the symptoms arouse. I would get really angry out of nowhere and then I will start crying, or the opposite. I would not be able to keep track of what people would talk, so I would find myself doing something else instead of talking, unless the topic was fascinating. I would purchase things I did not need, as an impulse, and then will return them couple weeks after once I have forgotten why I had got them in the first place.
I was frustrated loosing things and not remembering what I did with them. It took me 2 weeks to find my pencil at work, I do not remember putting it in the drawer, so I did not look there. I would forget my cellphone if my daily routine changed, I would take a shower, grab the phone (I have to see it to remember to take it) and wake up my daughter, if it happened that she would be awake, I would forget to go to my night stand to grab it... I would go to one room just to forget what I was going to do there. I would interrupt people, it was hard to have friends, keep my desk clean, and do routine kind of things... I would give up if things would not go my way and would never finish things, even though 15 minutes it was what I needed to finish.
I do believe that ADD explains very much how I am, and yes, I have a high IQ. It gets me mad thinking that the author thinks I am not an ADDer just because of it... I did hyperfocus and I did find science and nature fascinating... the problems started when I was not interested in the topic...
Anyways, I hope to finish reading the book, and find other techniques to improve. I found I did lots of things bymyself thoughout these years trying to be normal and all them helped me, but they were also hard to do, adapt and to keep doing them.