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The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance

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Truly an affirming guide for any woman who wants to learn more about being a Domme, whether they're a novice or experienced Mistress. The book has three main parts: Becoming a Mistress, The Mistress In Action, and "The Five Archetypical Fantasies."

Mistress Lorelei's "instructions" are intelligent, well-thought out and easy to follow. This is a woman who is 'wicked' in a delightful way. In the first chapter, she explains the 'benefits' of becoming a Mistress, and in the next chapter explains some pitfalls you may encounter and how to avoid them. She also explains how to find a male submissive and maintaining your fantasy and reality in subsequent chapters.

Part two of the book explains how to establish and assert your dominance and also the "tools" you can use. The use of spanking, flogging, paddling and other techniques are covered here.

Part three covers the main Fem Domme fantasy types and covers them well and explains that you can take something from each fantasy type in the "scenes" you do. Even though I'm a male Dominant, I found some of her ideas useful for my own play.

I also recommend SM101 by Jay Wiseman and Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller & Molly Devon as good introductory books, along with this book if your interest lies in female domination.

Without getting too personal, I was drawn to buying this book because of some personal growth and realizations about myself and my sexuality. The fantasies and thoughts in this book, some of them already existed somewhere within my subconscious, but reading this book gave them some release. This book is well-written and very detailed. The first chapters deal with the psychological/emotional aspects of wanting to be a dominant woman or having feelings of domaninance as a woman in society. (Nice girls don't want to hit men, right?) The book details the five archetypes of dominating women (Nurse, Teacher, Queen, Amazon, and Goddess) and how each has different fantasies and scenes. The scenes in this book are excellent, and I would recommend that you take a little bit from each and tailor them to suit your (and your partner's) needs. I would definitely recommend this book to any woman who is drawn to the BDSM lifestyle and wants to learn how to top effectively.

I am so pleased to have found this book! I'm just beginning to explore the idea of taking control in our sex life, and this is so practical and reassuring, and still (ahem) very inspirational, too! Lorelei talks about why anyone might want to try female dominance, and why a man might like it too - she takes away the sense of being "wrong" or weird or sick and lets you see how it can be good for both of you. She's also got very practical information on how to use various toys so you give the most interesting sensations without going too far. And she includes safety information, plus a section on how to deal with problems, which also made me feel safer trying this.

The most useful thing to me, as a beginner, is her information on how to design a scene so that you know what you want to do when, and how, and what effect you're looking for. There's a lot of information on the psychology of dominance, and on the various types of dominance that you might try - you may find that only some of them appeal to you, but there should be something there for everyone! I'm really enjoying learning to practice female domination - and this book is a great introduction!

PS--My husband loves it too. That's the amazing thing. It *really* works!

if you ladies want to learn get some advice from Jim listed here. He has taught me so much about giving me and my man pleasure .We are closer than ever .he can be reached at redford444@2die4.com .He loves to give free advice from a real sub

This was a gentle, well-written guide to female dominance, but I think it's a great book for anyone interested in BDSM. Some books on the topic are hard-edged, but this author clearly has a deep respect for both the dom and the sub. If you have questions or curiosity about D/s at all, this is a great place to start.

great stuff .It is such an accurate desscription, of a sub and me ,that I cannot believe a woman wrote it .To the women who want control this is a must buy. My wife has complete control over me by doing most things mentioned in this book .Ladies start slow and you will eventually have a docile man .It took my wife 14 yrs to have her way completely with me
Jim email me if you need help ladies or men redford444@2die4.com

I bought this book and "The Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women" but "the Mistress Manual" is a much better book.
It is concisely written, intelligently crafted and directly to the point. The other book "Art of Sensual Female Dominance" is at times overly wordy, vulgar and clumsily written.
When reading about a topic like this, where your imagination fuels what the author writes, Mistress Manual is only 170 pages but tells you all you need to know to get started.

Consulting with your mistress you can both figure out the rest. I bought this book for my girlfriend who is now my loving mistress whom I serve happily. The book is well enough written for beginners to get some ideas to get started. Have fun!

In a lot of ways, this is simply a reprinting of an earlier guide self-published back in 1994. Its sad how few things have changed. The target audience of the book are monogamous and het couples who practice role-playing where the woman is the "top" and the man is the "bottom". Role-playing is the key here; the book will not tell you how to do 24/7 or switch or even just be yourself. The book contains two apparent contradictions: the fantasies discussed are "male" but women are told to do only what makes them feel good. Frankly, I don't think the five main fantasies (nursemaid, governess, queen, Amazon, and goddess) are necessarily "male" and realisticly if the focus is time and again on figuring out what the man wants, how can a woman figure out what she wants. The fact is that Lorelei is correct: relationships take compromise but that doesn't equal sacrifice from either party.

If anyone has any questions, doubts of how to do femdom, or where to start a scene, this book tells how. This work by Lorelei is the best how-to that I've read. I recommend it for any of the ladies out there who are uncertain about "femdom". This book will show you how to have fun with female dominance

If anyone has any questions, doubts of how to do femdom, or where to start a scene, this book tells how. This work by Lorelei is the best how-to that I've read. I recommend it for any of the ladies out there who are uncertain about "femdom". This book will show you how to have fun with female dominance