I bought Cheryl's tapes and listened to them. For anybody who buys this book, I would highly recommend this approach. Buy the book AND the tapes. Ms. Richardson is a real and sincere lady. You will feel this as you work the program. But it misses the point. Which is "Self-Change". This entire 7-step program is laid upon the first step or foundation and builds from there. This is the first step of "Extreme Self-Care". Cheryl almost calls it selfishness, but she qualifies it strongly. Her view is that you simply CAN'T help others unless you help yourself first. I called a counselor at my church, Self-Realization Fellowship (Yogananda). He stated that this was true. That when you give to yourself, you are giving to others. So I went ahead. All clear. I usually, well, almost always give too much of myself. About 10% to myself and 90% to others. A Tibetan lama, Tarthang Tulku, recommends giving 75% to yourself at first and then decreasing. The renowned psychologist, Albert Ellis, recommends 60/40. 60% to yourself always. Well, Cheryl, as my "personal coach", asked me in the book to read the entire program. That is, the whole book. I did so but it was like being in a plane crash. I increased my self-consideration to 20%. That felt s-o-o-o-o good. 30% felt even better. 50% was great and I highly recommend it. But this cutting off of relationships is simply not healthy. You see, I am very intolerant. So I cut off just about all my friends for being "toxic" and draining. This is a very bad area you can get into! I began to say "no" to too many people including my family. I even cut off my partner in the program! I felt stiff and isolated. I was at 80% now and going into a tailspin! Wouldn't it have been better to have dealt with my intolerance than labeling all my relationships "draining"? I have to recommend buying this book, though. I did not return Cheryl's book or her 4 tapes. Why? I'm at about 30% of "extreme self-care" right now. A bit low. I want to push it up to about 50%. But for those of you who may have problems with this program, please watch out for those "higher altitudes". You may come crashing down. Good luck.