This book is great, it was the first book I read on BDSM and I couldn't put it down. It revealed a world I'm curious in very well. It was easy to understand and fun to read. Jay gives you new leads to head to after reading the book. I felt a good understanding after reading it and my friend was amazed on well I could use terms after reading. This is book you should have if just learning and even as reference. I know I'll be consulting this book for notes as well as leads and contact info.