- Paperback: 225 pages
- Publisher: Harvest House (Sept. 1 2007)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0736920005
- ISBN-13: 978-0736920001
- Product Dimensions: 14.6 x 1.9 x 21.6 cm
- Shipping Weight: 272 g
- Average Customer Review: 1 customer review
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #791,768 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
The Adoption Decision: 15 Things You Want To Know Before Adopting Paperback – Aug 1 2007
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About the Author
Laura Christianson, a writer, speaker, and adoptive mom, helps people think through adoption issues on her award-winning "Exploring Adoption" blog. She is also the author of The Adoption Decision and The Adoption Network and writes for numerous publications. She and her family live in Washington state.
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That said; I have a few issues with this book.
Probably my biggest issue is that throughout the book the author has a pretty negative view of people who don’t have experience with adoption (or know the right things to say in every situation). I understand how some of the scenarios she talks about could be aggravating as an adoptive parent but I feel like we need to be understanding of people’s inexperience and not criticize them or make jokes at their expense. The author could of offered helpful suggestions on how to educate people or handle these situations but she didn’t. Instead, she offered up suggestions like responding “no they’re fake” when questioned if all of your kids are your real kids. I think this is just rude… and since this book was written from a Christian perspective I would expect far less of these snide remarks and more examples of loving responses.
There’s another part in the book where the author recounts a few potential adoptions that were lost for one reason or another. She starts talking again, about all the negative things people said (people who I’m sure were just trying to be helpful and comforting). This is an excerpt:
“Some well-meaning friends, who equated adopting with buying a car, seemed convinced our current dealership was providing unreliable service….. [they] suggested we could get a bargain on a used model: “Why don’t you try adopting an older child?”
Now the words “used model” are the authors, not her friends and that comment really rubbed me the wrong way. Referring to an older child as a “used model” is just as ignorant, if not more so than any of the comments her friends were making. I’m sure this was just the author’s attempt at a humorous metaphor but I didn’t think it was appropriate.
Towards the end of the book the author writes a chapter on adopting older children, told mostly from the experience of a friend who preferred adopting older children so I thought that was nice. She also has chapters on adopting internationally, adopting children of a different race, and adopting kids with special needs (she addresses both physical, and learning differences along with emotional issues).
All in all, this book is relatively short and easy to read but because of the authors attitude in certain places it would probably prevent me from recommending this book wholeheartedly.
I appreciated the candor & honesty of the author who has adopted. She's been there, done that and comes across in a very loving manner to encourage you.
I will definitely be re-reading this book. My husband also enjoyed reading this book.