The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life Paperback – Mar 1 2000
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About the Author
Susan Anderson, CSW, is a psychotherapist who has specialized in helping clients deal with heartbreak, loss and abandonment for more than 25 years. She has led workshops on abandonment recovery, conducts seminars and lectures, and has appeared on radio and television speaking on the related issues of addiction, parenting and abandonment.
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Top Customer Reviews
This book clearly articulates what I struggled to put into words about the abandonment symptoms I was experiencing. Abandonment is defined as an involuntary separation. Some symptoms include loss of control of the situation, separation anxiety and yearning for the lost love, hoping for the possibility of the lost love's return and the desparation caused by this desire.
The book also covers in great detail the physiology behind emotional withdrawal symptoms of abandonment, including the loss of opioids (hormones) which is similar to heroin withdrawal; the significance of extreme changes in appetite patterns; Post Traumatic Stress Disorder; memory loss; the desire to self-medicate to endure the loss; and how society acknowledges those grieving over a death but not over a lost love.
Finally, Dr. Anderson gives some effective exercises in overcoming the crippling symptoms of abandonment. The exercises are not "pat" answers as found in some mainstream books and magazines. These are extensive, healing exercises requiring vulnerable, self-introspection.
I hope this helps someone else out there, too. It sure saved my sanity and all for the modest price of a book -- not an expensive block of therapy sessions!
I have read many books over the last year to heal my emotional wounds. This book picks up where all the others left off. The material is helpful, eye opening and the awareness level of the reader is blown wide open.
My reaction was "WOW!" she is speaking to me.
If you've tried bravery, common-sense, and straight-out endurance, try reading this book instead - because incredibly, Susan Anderson managed to not only help you understand what you're going through -- she also comes up with five amazingly original exercises that can actually HELP you endure the unendurable. I know. I've been using them. I cannot say enough about this book.
Anderson doesn't ever water down the agony -- twenty-five years of work with heartbroken patients has made her very aware of the intricacies of abandonment grief. But despite this realistic knowledge of the pain, she offers hope -- not the glib, "You'll recover eventually!" hope of most breakup-recovery books, but a nuanced, particular hope specific to each grief stage, and always attentive to the suffering you are undergoing at each moment. An incredible, generous and loving book.
Most recent customer reviews
Some of the chapters were dead on for my situation.........definitely a recommended read for someone who has been abandoned by a husband of over 35 years ........ Read morePublished on June 8 2014 by Agnes Waiwood
This book helped me in a lot of ways. It explained what your body and mind go through after a break up from someone you loved. Read morePublished on Sept. 12 2013 by Kelly
At the time when I found this book Susan Anderson was the only person I came across who wrote exclusively about abandonment and how to recover from it. Read morePublished on Jan. 11 2013 by N. Tischler
I have been experiencing the deepest grief in my life for the past two years over the failure of my marriage of 27 years. Read morePublished on Aug. 3 2007 by Jeanne Mulloy
It really does hurt, antidepressants do help, but somehow the pain is always there. You might need to read this wonderful book to understand why you are hurting. Read morePublished on April 18 2003 by Gary S. Hodges
I wanted to take the time out to write a review of this book as I have benefitted from it from two points of view. Read morePublished on Oct. 24 2002 by Donna Carson
I had a breakup that left me such a basket case for so long that I knew I needed help, so I ordered this book.
This book explained every single thing I was going through.... Read more