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men are don juans women are prey
June 15, 2003
What did I get from reading the book? A feeling that Gray
fanatically believes men are the hunters and sex is a
male domain,and woman are the prey and merely the sexless
toys of men.
Gray overemphasizes the importance of the woman's appearance
and de emphasizes her sexual needs and also blow torch
reaction to sex as opposed to his crock pot example of
He gives pointers to men on the subject of 'getting her into
bed' with words,flowers,gifts and candy.Never does he
realize that if the woman is not attracted to the man,she
will be a bee-line out the door.
His pointers to women has nothing to do with her as an
individual,but how to overcome her innate sexual shyness
and slow arrousal time.He works with old myths,especially
the one where women are believed to be as blind as batts
and turned on by even the ugliest man if he gives her the
right words and chocolates.
In the real world,men and women could be reversed.Men
needing more arousal time and women ready to go for it
at the drop of a hat.But of course in Gray's world this
is very rare.
Gray gives me the feeling he thinks women are lacking in
sexuality,or that it is some vague defused sexuality,
only stimulated by words of love.In short,women don't
have eyes or sex drive,and it has to be guided by the
man into some kind of romantic fog in order for the woman
On the other hand,Gray believes men are the only visual
creatures who have to hold back these animal sex drives
which are only tamed by honorable gentlemenly controlls.
This is where we get "he was a gentlemen,he didn't try
anything" how many times have you heard that?Countless
Men have to channel their powerful sex drive into romance
and women have to channel their romantic needs into
pleasing the males animal need for sex.Well this is what
the book says loud and clear.Basically men want sex and
women want love,this is the "fact" Gray is trying to
pound into the reader.
He's working off of myths and recycling them back into
society as "scientific fact"
What I find appauling is how he gives men and women very
different attributes.How he boxes people into sterotypes
of male don juan and female the prey.