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The Mommy Myth: The Idealization of Motherhood and How It Has Undermined All Women Hardcover – Feb 3 2004

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  • Hardcover: 400 pages
  • Publisher: Free Press (Feb. 3 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0743259998
  • ISBN-13: 978-0743259996
  • Product Dimensions: 16.4 x 3.1 x 23.4 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 386 g
  • Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars 33 customer reviews
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #639,222 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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In the idealized myth, mothers and babies spend their days discovering the wonders of life, reading, playing and laughing. Mom wears her baby in a sling, never raises her voice and of course has unlimited time and patience. Baby grows up safe, happy and respectful. In real life, however, it's a different story. Douglas (Where the Girls Are) and Smith College philosophy professor Michaels, "mothers with an attitude problem," blow the lid off "new momism," "a set of ideals... that seem on the surface to celebrate motherhood, but which in reality promulgate standards of perfection that are beyond [a mother's] reach." The authors examine the past 30 years of television, radio, movies, magazines and advertising to show that the bar has been increasingly raised for "the standards of good motherhood while singling out and condemning those we were supposed to see as dreadful mothers" (notably harried working mothers). Using ample humor (e.g., buy the wrong toys and your child will "end up a semiliterate counter girl in Dunkin' Donuts for life"), abundant examples and an approachable style, Douglas and Michaels incriminate not just Republican administrations and Dr. Laura, but also celebrity mothers, Drs. Spock and the evening news. While the authors are occasionally repetitive and sometimes condescend to moms who stay at home, their thought-provoking, accessible foray critiquing new momism will be of interest to liberal mothers-and possibly fathers-helping them to judge the media's images of motherhood with a more critical eye.
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Douglas and Michaels have fashioned an absolutely fascinating expose of the media- generated motherhood frenzy that they dub the "new momism." Fed up with the trumped-up myth of maternity promulgated by TV shows, movies, advertising, women's magazines, and the news since 1970, they analyze, in scathing detail, how and why motherhood has become the number-one media obsession during the last three decades. Explaining, in convincing detail, how these idealized images have actually harmed childless women, working mothers, and stay-at-home moms, they link the current emphasis on "intensive mothering" to a powerful conservative subculture determined to "re-domesticate the women of America through motherhood." Although hampered, at times, by a somewhat strident tone, this eye-opening report contains a wealth of valuable insight into the never-ending, and ultimately self-defeating, quest for the maternal perfection glorified by contemporary American society. Margaret Flanagan
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I began reading this book fully prepared to end up hurling it out of a window in anger and disgust. You see, I am one of those women who idealizes motherhood. I practice attachment parenting, believe strongly in child-led weaning, co-sleep even with the human equivalent of a hand-mixer, and relish every moment of the precious time I have with my daughter. However, as I progressed further and further into the book, I realized I had yet to feel any wrath directed toward the authors. In fact, with the only exceptions being ones I found mildly annoying, I agreed with almost everything they said.
The title is a bit misleading because after reading the book, I do not have the impression that the authors feel that motherhood, or even the idealization of it is what undermines women. It is much more complex that that. They rail against the politicians who voted to subsidize daycare, the media who sensationalizes every abduction and every crime committed by a caregiver, and against those who strive to pit mothers against other mothers. They explain feminism and detail how feminists are friends to the stay at home mothers and housewives as opposed to a foe like some in the media would lead us to believe.
They also talk about the "celebrity mom." You know, the one who appears on the cover of the women's' magazines at the checkout line in the grocery store at her prepregnancy weight gushing over an angelic three month old. These mothers talk about how motherhood is so much better than any movie role. However, many of these mothers have full time nannies and housekeepers allowing them to be fun mothers while pushing the stressful jobs off on someone else. Some of these mothers, whom the media portrays as so 'devoted' even have nannies to do the nighttime feedings for them!
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Format: Hardcover
A straight-talking critique of the Cult of the Perfect Mom, told with a healthy dollop of exasperation. The authors deconstruct this image -- peddled relentlessly by our media -- and assert that it's OK if you don't love parenting every minute. This is *not* an argument against having kids or loving them! The authors are simply trying to let the millions of guilt-ridden moms in this country off the hook, because being a parent isn't easy and it's so much harder when the media suggests otherwise. How this message can be perceived as "anti-child," as a number of reviewers here seem to suggest, is beyond me. So many mothers blame themselves if they aren't euphoric over every dirty diaper and spilled sippy cup. We believe the problem is within *us* and that if we only tried harder, we'd fit those media images. Why aren't we looking at the ways society fails to support mothers -- and fathers? Corporate America and the government get off scott-free, when in reality these institutions could be doing so much more to truly support families. "The Mommy Myth" shines a light on these unasked questions, and encourages mothers to stop blaming themselves and demand more from the institutions that benefit from our efforts to raise responsible, productive future workers and citizens.
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This book does a fantastic job of painting a very clear picture of the political, socio-economic, and hypocritical media forces that continue to punish women and pit us against one another. Instead of spending our precious time and energy sniping at one another about the merits of breastfeeding, babywearing, and co-sleeping, and the evils of television, non-organic food and yelling at our kids once in awhile, we should be rising up to demand subsidized daycare, decent maternity leave, healthcare for ALL children and their mothers, and the chance for all of us as women to make the choices that are right for us, be it working or staying at home. Feminism should be about each and every one of us being able to make a choice about what type of mother we want to be (working, staying at home, or both) without being judged and punished by other women!! Until we stop constantly competing with one another over who does the best job as a parent, until we stop wasting our time second-guessing every single decision we make in terms of our children, until we stop lying to ourselves and everyone around us about the all-encompassing, transforming and magical power of being a MOM, the women and children of this country will continue to be victimized, undermined and forgotten. Bravo Douglas and Michaels, thank you for this HONEST look at motherhood in the United States. (Written by Janelle Ivry)
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In the early months following the birth of my son, and even now, I have found myself wondering whether I am enjoying motherhood the way I'm supposed to--the way others mothers do. The right all-loving, all sacrificing way. This book illustrates for me that this "perfect" way is likely a carefully crafted illusion.
However, after I got this message, established in the opening chapters of the book, the mocking tone that the authors are fond of using began to grate and I feel that they take their hypothesis too far.
I appreciate the section regarding welfare mothers and the illuminating contrasts of media representations of moms. I like being reminded that I don't have to love and adore parenting every single moment in order to be a good parent. (Though the authors seem to believe that the only way to combat not loving every moment is to get away to your real job and make sure the kids are in a comprehensive system of government sponsored child care.)
However, the authors seem to clearly feel like there is a right way to mother--and that is to reject the cozy media images of motherhood that tell you the right way to mother (ironic, eh?). They do not seem to believe that there are mothers out there who truly believe in homeschooling, homebirthing, babywearing, extended breastfeeding, etc. and who enjoy their lives with their children (not all aspects, granted, but do enjoy it). Or, if they do recognize that some mothers are committed to these concepts, they seem to feel that those mothers have stupidly bought into a vast conspiracy to undermine women (not that they might hold these ideals because they actually make sense!).
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