Off Balance: A Memoir Hardcover – Jun 12 2012
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“A rousing, intimate memoir… relentlessly candid.” (Vogue.com) --This text refers to the Paperback edition.
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Dominique Moceanu is the youngest American gymnast to win an Olympic gold medal, and the youngest to win a Senior National All-Around Title. She lives near Cleveland, Ohio. Visit Dominique-Moceanu.com.See all Product Description
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I found myself skimming through the lengthy narrative of Dominique's rise to fame, instead opting to search out bits of the story of the younger Moceanu who was given up because of a birth defect.
In conclusion, more Bricker less Moceanu.
Save your money for that book.
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As fans of celebrities we pick up on a person during or after their major achievements. In the case of Moceanu (for most) this would be 1996 when she and the U.S. Woman's team won a gold medal in the team competition for gymnastics. She was just 14 years old. I assumed it took a lot of hard work to get there, and that the path was not easy. I also assumed that it was a childhood lost and replaced with the hard work and determination of an adult. This book certainly confirms these theories. I feel I can write this without it being a real spoiler for anyone.
We (the public) see the glorious results and have some appreciation for how difficult it is to achieve the results, but no true understanding. This memoir humanizes Moceanu's achievements and it does it in an incredibly well thought out and touching way. For example, most fans knew her family was Romanian - but probably few considered what that truly meant. It meant that Moceanu is a first generation American who came from a poor family of immigrants... a family which had a financially unsteady situation. It may be hard enough to achieve greatness, but it is even harder living in a two-bedroom apartment with your parents, sister and grandparents. Most great gymnasts tend to be on the small side, but have any fans considered what it is like to be the smallest person in your class selected last to play a sport in gym class, have a funny sounding name and come to school with food that is unlike your classmates' food at lunch time? No one imagines the small tiny hardships that add up to a difficult life when they see a girl and a gold medal on a podium in front of the entire world. This memoir helps you to relate to Moceanu as a human - a young girl who faced kids in school as cruel as the ones you went to school with, but she faced them with much more adversity than most of us did in our own lives.
It is a poorly kept secret that elite child athletes often face abuse (which comes in multiple forms: physical, mental, emotional). Gymnastics seems to be particularly notorious for this. What I appreciate about this memoir is that it reads like someone trying to tell a story as a way of explaining their life... and not like someone who has an ax to grind. Many memoirs are "grinding axes" in disguise, but fortunately this does not come off as one of them in my opinion.
Moceanu does a great job reflecting on what was great in her childhood and what she appreciated about her life as well as noting things she has set out to change about her own children's childhood. It also brings an additional remarkable component about her lost sister and how the discovery altered everything she knew and perceived about her family which, frankly, was already enough for ten lifetimes!
If I had one criticism of the book it is the way in which the chronology was broken up to weave past and current together (i.e. the story of her lost sister). It was awkward to follow and I think the reader's feeling of being disjointed outweighed what Moceanu was probably going for by doing it. This is a small issue mentioned only because no product review should fail to mention "the negative".
The story is remarkable and inspiring, there is no question of that. It is told well and with great detail that takes a lot of courage to share with other human beings (let alone publish in a book). You do feel that you are a better person for having understood the path someone else experienced in life and the challenges they faced and the lessons they learned. You can not ask for more after reading a memoir. Highly recommended.
This book does a great job in telling the whole story from Dominique's point of view maybe for the first time ever. She's blunt honest, straight forward in telling the story of her own life, and for the first time we can really understand where she's coming from and what was happening in her life before, during and after Atlanta. The family feud, the loss of all her money, her escape from home at the age of seventeen, the freedom, the parties, the drugs and all the injuries that ultimately took their toll on her and forced her to retire prematurely. Not to mention her secret sister!
But one of the most interesting issues mentioned by her is the politics behind the US Women's Gymnastics program and how ugly and unfair it can be. I was shocked to hear about her life with the Karolyis, especially because, like many others, I believed the show they put on for the cameras! I can honestly say that I lost all the respect I had for them, and, no matter how many medals they have under their belt (and at the expense of how many gymnasts!), they will never be more than losers to me. It truly disgusted me!
But better than everything else was just discovering what an amazing, strong, beautiful (inside and out!) woman Dominique turned out to be after everything she's been through. She's been to hell and back in more ways than one, but somehow managed to stay true to herself and learn from her experiences. The last chapter brought tears to my eyes as she described the last days with her father and how they reconciled... All in all, it is a beautiful story worth of everybody's attention - gymnastics fan or not! - and I'm really proud to say I'm a fan of hers!
The book is easy to read. I also appreciate the robust and sophisticated presentation of chapters in the book. The format allowed two very diverse but extraordinary components to be presented as equal centerpieces in Dominique's dramatic story.
The most remarkable, amazing, and inspirational of all is how healthy and well grounded a woman Dominique has become. I salute Dominique as a loving woman, wife, mother, sister, and articulate advocate for the young gymnastic athletes of tomorrow. A fascinating read.
One person's review said they weren't sure of why she started with the chapter about her sister. I personally think it was a brilliant move. It draws you in and laid the ground work for describing who her parents were as people in the next chapter.
I was appalled by many of the things mentioned in the book about the world of gymnastics but I can't say that I'm surprised. Another review I read on here alluded that "official" book reviews/media sources were stating that "she can't back it up" or that "she was bitter." To this I would say that I remember hearing mumblings (I think it was after the 96 Olympics) about how "not nice" Bela Karolyi was.
I think that because it is shocking and appalling because people don't WANT to believe it. People most likely think that: Surely in this day and age this couldn't be taking place in a place like the US.
For me it doesn't take a stretch of the imagination to believe. When I was telling my mother about the book her first comment was: "Sounds very European to me."(Meaning reminiscent of the Soviet Union methods in years past). To illustrate I have two words: Elena Mukhina. A Soviet Woman gymnast that was pushed to do a tumbling pass that was beyond her capabilities and strength, as well as beyond her comfort. The result was that she broke her neck. Granted, she was a Soviet Woman and the Karoylis are Romanian but both places were communists countries at their height and, as such, had very similar views on their athletes. (Ironically the reason she was pushed to do this was because of entrance of one Nadia Com'neci to the gymnastic forum. And who was Nadia Com'neci's coach? Bela Karolyi.)
Bottom line is that it really what naysayers think. It is not so unreasonable to put legislation in to place to protect our youthful athletes. We protect our child stars: How many hours they can work, laws about their getting schooling, etc. California also has the Coogan law to help protect some of the earnings of child actors. Something like this should be considered for child athletes as well.
I do agree with the one reviewer that the writing was a little dry in a few spots and not necessarily written with a skill that one would expect of a published book but I found these things easy to overlook because the story is so enthralling. Don't get me wrong, this book is NOT poorly written. It's hard for me to articulate exactly what I mean. The best I can do is say I have read a lot of books, mostly fiction, (I own about 10,000 books) and it doesn't quite have the polish that a professional writer would have. But you know going in that writing is not her profession so I found it easy to overlook. In my opinion, you wouldn't expect an author to do a cartwheel with the polish and grace of a gymnast; you can't expect a gymnast to have the polish of a professional author.
Another person complained about how she goes on and on about her "perfect husband." I didn't find it that bad. Yes, to some degree I could agree with that reviewer but I found it more sweet. To me it was like she was trying to convey to the readers all her overwhelming love and admiration for this man into words and no words seemed adequate so she just kept adding more words.
Overall, it something everyone should read and hopefully some laws can be enacted to help protect all our young athletes.
Working within the press and having credentials to move around freely amidst the venues I enjoyed going to the press tent and seeing who would be interviewed during my break time. One day I saw this little tiny girl all alone, seated behind a table with all sorts of journalists, camera people and engineers looking at her, talking with her and adjusting equipment around her. She just looked blankly down at the table answering their questions but never making eye contact. "What a pretty, yet sad girl" I thought to myself. She sat there in her red white and blue USA jacket in a way that some would take as smug, it certainly wasn't a look of fear or anxiety...I took at loneliness. Where were the parents? Where were the coaches? The whole thing made me feel rather sad for this beautiful, talented and strong little girl-athlete to have to be there alone.
Later, I watched this little girl walk back to the Georgia Dome, this time walking with a huge mountain of a man, Bella Karoley. She looked even smaller standing up, if that's possible and I marveled at how much athleticism and confidence was contained in such a little package. I followed them from a distance into the Georgia Dome where the Magnificent 7 were having their first practice day in the arena. The air was electric and there was a huge crowd there just to watch these girls practice. I watched for awhile before I was shoed away.
Reading Dominique's book some 28 years later puts the whole scene I described in a whole different light. I, like most Americans were eager to believe the Karoley's myth and drink the Karoley Kool-Aid, but hearing the behind the scenes stories has certainly cast a cloud over their presumed reputation.
Dominique's story is one of strength, courage and victory. It is all a story of sadness, darkness and pain, but her story continues with triumphant, reconciliation and love. In many ways her life story is like many except Dominique had to do it all publicly under the scrutinizing and unforgiving lens of the media and TMZ public. Closing the book I wish it wasn't the end. I could have read another ten chapters.
Dominique's book is written clearly, calmly and thoroughly. Her honesty and manner of description and expression is refreshing and compelling. I found myself drawn into the emotional swings of her story, in a way, feeling her pain and then feeling her joy.
I would say this was one of the most enjoyable and most uplifting books I have read and I am a better and more understanding person because I have taken the time to learn and perhaps understand such a wonderful person and a talented, gifted and heroic athlete.
Thank You Dominique for telling us your story.
(attached is one of the photos I took at the 1996 Olympics. It is taken in the pressroom near the Georgia Dome)