Rose's Story Paperback – May 2003
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It is impressive that during this book Ms. Bibb retains a positive attitude when ever she can and never seems to show ill will to those who have wronged her unless completely necessary where as many people in the same situation would be unable to do the same.
All Rose’s life, she has been a victim of abuse. Starting back with when she was 4, she was a victim of abuse by her sister Julia. Julia played the roll of a bully pretty much anytime these two were involved with each other. Julia, also a pawn of the “system”, used deception and stealing to get her way, since having a relationship was of no value to her. An example was when Rose was in first grade, and Julia lied to welfare officials that abuse was occurring at the foster home they were staying at. This of course wasn’t true, however the sisters were removed and placed in the Children’s Receiving Center.
Rose’s attempts to form relationships were almost always met with either resistance or was short lived and was uprooted again. Nearly every person in Rose’s story has failed Rose in some way or another. It’s a wonder she was even mentally healthy enough to even write this letter and express her feelings and share her experiences. Rose’s had relationships with the following people, with the listed outcome on how they failed Rose:
1) Julia repeated bullying, physical/emotional abuse
2) Bascum Family physical/emotional abuse
3) Dad and Stepmom deception, physical/emotional abuse
4) Fisher family sexual abuse
5) Girl’s boarding school physical/emotional abuse
6) Miss Ely social worker failed in any role
7) Mrs. South & Wendall sexual, physical/emotional abuse
8) Greta emotional abuse
9) Elton emotional abuse, abandonment
10) Gene decided to marry someone else
11) Walter drinking, emotional abuse
12) Debra emotional abuse, deception
The social workers and CPS staff played an incredible role in making Rose’s life very difficult. None of the defined roles as we know them today were exhibited by any of the staff. Phil, a welfare worker, broke confidence and used his relationship with his girlfriend Doris. Doris was counseling Rose, and wasn’t aware of the conflict of interest until after she confided in Doris. Phil played Doris to get to Rose and her children. Ruth, another social worker, insisted on placing controls on Rose to limit what she does and where she goes and whom she sees. This was something Ruth thought no one prior to her has done yet. This action goes against the concept of self-determination. Throughout the 40 years of state involvement in Rose’s life, all she knew was others telling her what to do or ultimatums and threats to coerce her to sign over rights. In fact in one instance, someone in CPS control forged a paper giving away custody. Rose refused to sign and a year later it was discovered in her file with her signature on it, or at least a signature on it purporting to be hers.
There are so many examples of what not to do, with respect to social worker values and ethics. It’s amazing that this 80-page story has as many disturbing violations as it does. Deception to gain compliance should never be tolerated. Self-determination is a pillar in social work ethics. True recovery is only as good as the weakest component of the effort. In other words, if deception and trickery is used to gain compliance, then is it really compliance if it was done under false pretenses? Another example is stability of the placement. There comes a point when the natural parents with their best efforts and support, are not going to be able to care for and raise their children. That point needs to be addressed sooner than the examples in this story. You have now multi-generational CPS involvement with the CPS workers, using trickery and deception to find a means to achieve their own agenda. All that really did, was make it easier for Cynthia the legal aid attorney to get rulings and judgments in favor of Rose. Had CPS just allowed Rose to make her own decisions with the assistance of resources in the community, then the true and undefensive Rose would come out and parent naturally. If then a need for services arose, including placement, then that would be truly in the children’s best interest and a court could back it up. If placement was necessary and within a determinant amount of time, Rose couldn’t rehabilitate, then permanency should be considered. It is my feeling that 2-3 years should be the guideline in deciding when the best interest of the children outweigh the desire to reunify in homes where factors are unsupportive.
This story was incredibly eye opening for my career choice and me. I originally was considering Addiction counseling and substance abuse. However, this story has me really thinking about social work and the legal system. The impact this revelation should be a wakeup call to remind everyone in the social services profession, that lives are on the balance and social workers are needed to guide and educate and advocate, counsel and mediate. Not to undermine the clients and deceiving them. There will be no faith or confidence in social services if this were to continue. Families won’t know who to trust or where to turn for help without feeling or scared that their children will be forever removed from their homes. Its stories like this from the past that has made having such an aggressive and transparent ethics review and sanctions.
Hopefully Rose will continue to publish the progress of her family and her been making!