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  • Paperback: 352 pages
  • Publisher: Harper Perennial (Jan. 17 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 9780062064486
  • ISBN-13: 978-0062064486
  • ASIN: 0062064487
  • Product Dimensions: 13.5 x 2 x 20.3 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 272 g
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars 1 customer review
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“Absorbing. . . . A testament to Parssinen’s literary talent, this woven narrative moves seamlessly, chapter by chapter, as the suspenseful story escalates.” (Boston Globe)

“Keija Parssinen vividly evokes daily reality in the Kingdom. . . . While she portrays the physical and social landscapes with the precision of an impassioned expat, Parssinen also limns-with a wisdom that belies her age-the culture-transcending contours of the human heart.” (National Geographic Traveler)

“Keija Parssinen was a third-generation expat in oil-rich Saudi Arabia, and she summons its atmosphere of fraught privilege in her debut novel, The Ruins of Us.” (T: The New York Times Style Magazine)

“A compelling debut.” (Marie Claire (UK))

“An intelligent, complex story of interfaith marriage. . . . That balances nail-biting tension with lyrical intent.” (The Guardian)

“Having been brought up in Saudi Arabia, [Parssinen] knows the background and writes boldly and unsentimentally of a family’s predicament at the edge of cultural fault lines.” (Sunday Times (London))

“Extraordinarily polished, supremely mature.” (St. Louis Post-Dispatch)

“[Parssinen] digs deep in this narrative, and what she unearths is exquisitely wrought.” (Columbia Daily Tribune)

The Ruins of Us is a stunning debut novel--a love story that spans continents. Parssinen teaches us that while cultural differences run deep, when it comes to matters of the heart, we are all the same. I was dazzled by this book.” (Amanda Eyre Ward, author of Close Your Eyes)

“Parssinen convincingly inhabits the shifting moods of her characters. . . . Throughout, her prose is artful without being showy, forced, or melodramatic, and her knowledge of Saudi culture informs the story. . . . A fine debut.” (Kirkus Reviews)

“Parssinen’s gripping, well-crafted debut tracks the awakening of a Saudi Arabian family to the dangers that lurk within. . . . Parssinen deftly illuminates Saudi Arabian life through a family locked in a battle over morality and cultural chasms.” (Publishers Weekly)

“THE RUINS OF US tells a gripping story about Saudi Arabian princes and bureaucrats, wives and extra-wives, sons and daughters, fanatics and exiles. . . . [Keija Parssinen] directs the human and historical traffic with a maestro’s sense of pace, and a true storyteller’s sense of consequence.” (Scott Spencer, author of Man in the Woods)

“THE RUINS OF US is an arresting story of family and country. Parssinen’s characters are richly conceived and her evocative petrol universe of wealth, privilege, and intrigue is unforgettable. Powerful storytelling that is refreshing and entertaining.” (Anthony Swofford, author of Jarhead)

“A big, brave novel, Keija Parssinen’s THE RUINS OF US takes us behind the compound walls of Saudi Arabia and into the secret passions that threaten to tear one family apart. Step into Parssinen’s sensual prose and be transported.” (Anna Solomon, author of The Little Bride)

“Parssinen carries the reader . . . in the grip of a story that is both entertaining and wise. . . . The debut of an enormously talented writer who is unafraid to lead us on the greatest adventure of all--into the wilds of the human heart.” (Lise Saffran, author of Juno's Daughters)

“[An] accomplished debut novel . . . clearly the work of a gifted storyteller.” (The National)

“This stunning novel explores some emotionally explosive territory--what happens when a Muslim man takes a second wife after many years of marriage to his first one. Parssinen handles it with grace, intelligence, and gorgeous prose--a transporting and beautiful book.” (Zoë Ferraris, author of Kingdom of Strangers)

From the Back Cover

More than two decades after moving to Saudi Arabia and marrying powerful Abdullah Baylani, American-born Rosalie learns that her husband has taken a second wife. That discovery plunges their family into chaos as Rosalie grapples with leaving Saudi Arabia, her life, and her family behind. Meanwhile, Abdullah and Rosalie’s consuming personal entanglements blind them to the crisis approaching their sixteen-year-old son, Faisal, whose deepening resentment toward their lifestyle has led to his involvement with a controversial sheikh. When Faisal makes a choice that could destroy everything his embattled family holds dear, all must confront difficult truths as they fight to preserve what remains of their world.

The Ruins of Us is a timely story about intolerance, family, and the injustices we endure for love that heralds the arrival of an extraordinary new voice in contemporary fiction.

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Having Saudi relatives and having visited the country this book took me back to that time and place and the people. One day the country will hopefully move forward. The story was all too true.
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48 of 50 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0xa3140054) out of 5 stars The Ruins of Us, Keija, Parssinen July 5 2012
By thewanderingjew - Published on
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This is a magnetic narrative which is wrapped around the love of an expat, Rosalie, and her Saudi husband, Abdullah. They meet as students, at a Texas University, and after they marry, Abdullah convinces Rosalie to return to his native country. She had been raised there, because her father had worked for an oil company, and needs little persuasion. The pull of the country was drawing her back and she was eager to go. Forgetting her hippy past and disregarding the lack of freedom for women, she reentered the Kingdom, making a valiant effort to live there and raise her family.
The author was also raised in Saudi Arabia, for the first 12 years of life, and she deftly shines a light on the culture, the beauty, the excesses of the royals, the oppression and the fanaticism of a government ruled dually by religion and the oil fields. It illumines the hatred for the infidels, fueled by not only the religion, but also by the extreme poverty and arrogance of the Americans, who treat them like second class citizens in their own country. The royals and those associated with the government are privileged while everyone else is in an underclass. The story shows how the ways of the old world mesh with the new, sometimes not very smoothly, sometimes causing irreparable tears in the fabric of relationships.
She exposes the threads of discontent in the poor and even the rich, the insecurities that live within the young boys that can turn them into terrorists, not even realizing the consequences of their reckless behavior. Lost and confused, they turn to the radical approach to Islam, worship their Imams and are too immature to realize the frightening implications of their behavior or the devastating consequences. They think no further than the moment and are simply not able to make rational decisions. These young rebels often observe the behavior of others, interpreting with the eye of the religious zealot, creating explanations that are misleading and overblown, which then leads them to radical retributive behavior that is not grounded in reality. Their solutions are often barbaric.
The book illustrates how the culture might encourage a misunderstood young man to commit heinous acts, in the name of his religion. It shines a light on both the privileged and underprivileged, offering explanations for how both are led down the path of radicalism by home life, greed, the political environment, deprivation, emotional neediness, and a need for structure and direction.
There were moments when the story seemed a trifle contrived and the events serendipitous, but despite this, the story is very engaging. About two thirds of the way through the book, the tension builds to a crescendo and the reader will feel real fear because the scene depicted is too close to the reality of today. We are all only too aware of the cruelty of which extremists are capable. She demonstrates how Bin Ladens might be born out of innocence and immaturity, encouraged by radical Imams who prey upon unsuspecting victims, unaware of the cost of what they might be called upon to do.
The characters are clearly defined and the author's style is inviting. You know immediately that you will enjoy the book. Parssinen wisely uses her words to demonstrate the workings of the two worlds, the Saudi and the American, as they come into conflict with each other.
It is a wonderful book for a book club. The discussions on marriage, fidelity, women's rights, counter cultures, religious freedom, democracy, family life, monogamy and freedom, to name a few, should be very entertaining and enlightening.
22 of 22 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0xa31400a8) out of 5 stars Loved this book! Jan. 18 2012
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This is a stunning, stunning debut novel. The writing in this book is just absolutely GORGEOUS. And I couldn't put it down. The plotline of an American woman whose Saudi husband has taken a second wife is totally original, and yet exposes real situations that foreign-born women are exposed to in the Middle East. The descriptions of Saudi Arabia are so incredibly detailed, I felt as if I had just traveled there when I finished the book. I LOVED this novel and am recommending it to all my friends!
15 of 15 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0xa3140384) out of 5 stars Captivating Read: The Ruins of Us Jan. 26 2012
By Alexandra Rosas - Published on
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As I finally closed the cover to Keija's debut novel, after staying up two nights needing to finish it, my thoughts were, "A movie. This has to be a movie." Keija's gift, to place us right in the center of each character's hearts and souls, made this a heart pounding exhilaration of a book. We never knew what choices would be made, there was no reason for so many of the events that took place: this made The Ruins of Us so perfectly possible, and so much like real life.

Apart from the dreamlike descriptions of Saudi Arabia that were so clear that I could feel the heat simmering around my face, I found myself unable to favor one character's actions over another. I turned page after page, telling myself "just a bit more and then I'll get to bed" but the lamp on my nightstand stayed on. There are unanticipated situations, one dire, in which I understand the why behind each character's decisions.

Ms. Parssinen accomplished so much more than just captivate and stun with this novel; she brought me into a world where I now see why some acts are chosen. In the adrenaline surging last chapter, what happens between Rosalie and her teen aged son is something I have quickly passed judgment on before. Though I won't ever accept his choice, I see the lifetime before him that put him in this place - where his decisions are not his to decide anymore.

A breathtaking exotic ride through a very real, very possible world.
9 of 9 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0xa31408a0) out of 5 stars Revealing and fresh Nov. 6 2013
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There are several powerful themes explored through the splendid characterizations of the Baylani family and the their homelands. Rosalie and Abdullah Baylani meet in America when Rosalie is a free-spirited young girl singing in a night club. Rosalie had lived in Saudi Arabia when she was a child and her relationship with Abdullah takes her back to a nostalgic longing for the country of her youth. Their strong love compels Abdullah to marry her against traditions of his own family and he and Rosalie make their home in Saudi Arabia. Rosalie gives her heart to the country and we see the history, topography, climate and culture of this country through her adoring eyes. She also gives her heart to her husband and the family unit that they create, so much so, that "she dreamed in Arabic". And they lived happily ever after. Not quite.
Through this one family and an American friend of the family, Dan Coleman, the author explores changes in the family caused by both internal and external forces, including the insidious force of secrets. "Secrets need shadows to thrive, and she would shine a spotlight on the onyx pendant and what lived beneath it." Artfully explored by the author is the birthing process of religious fervor and extremism in some young men, the ties to tradition (Abdullah taking a 2nd wife), forces within a culture that push for change (Miriam, Abdullah and Rosalie's daughter, who creates a blog that seeks readers that, like herself, want changes that allow more freedom for women), and the boundaries of friendship and love. When the book ends, the ties that bind family members to one another have been redefined in heart-rending ways. "Let this be a lesson in love - that you do not always get what you want. That sometimes, you must watch your love across a murmuring sea...."
This book is a fresh, revelatory love story and a story of perceived betrayal. At times it is a mystery and at other times a thriller, but above all else it is a story of a family in transition, personally and culturally. It is also painful to read at times, and one scene is particularly nerve-wracking, but the motivations of each character are so well-developed that I felt a genuine understanding of the motivations of all of them. I felt like I knew the characters in the first few pages and now that I've finished the book, I"ll think of them many times over.
10 of 12 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0xa3140168) out of 5 stars Original, illuminating, lyrical, deep May 4 2014
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"Ruins of Us" is a wise, compelling novel with a gripping story that springs organically from the setting. By exploring universal themes of love, loss, marriage, exile, authenticity and redemption in Saudi Arabia, a region that has witnessed sweeping historical changes and shaped the trajectory of major recent world events, the author is able to offer fresh and surprising insights. The novel reflects a deep understanding of the culture, history and politics in the region, the complex interplay among them and the subtle and profound pressures they exert on highly personal predicaments.

Rosalie, a spirited, gutsy Texan and Abdullah Baylani, a wealthy, sociable and dynamic Saudi, meet and fall in love in Austin, while they are college students. After they marry, they move to Saudi Arabia. Rosalie had lived in Saudi Arabia as a child and feels a passionate connection to the land. When the novel opens, the Baylanis have been married for twenty-seven years. They live comfortably in a refined, elegant world full of warm, convivial family gatherings, laughter and hospitality. Rosalie, who speaks fluent Arabic and even dreams in the language, has adapted gracefully to the culture. But things are not as rosy as they seem. Rosalie soon discovers that two years before, Abdullah had secretly, though lawfully, married another woman, a young, educated Palestinian widow.

The novel follows the fallout from this discovery. Rosalie is stunned and consumed by the betrayal. Abdullah is by turns guilty, defiant, defensive and vexed, and tries to calm the tumult in his personal life so that he can juggle his business interests and finesse his relations with the princes who award contracts. As the parents get sucked into the maelstrom, they fail to attend to the needs of their children. Miriam, their lively, optimistic fourteen-year-old, is resilient and tries to emulate her heroes--journalists who test received ideas. But the sixteen-year-old son, Faisal, suffers. He searches for identity and meaning in a post-9/11 world where he becomes acutely conscious of his mixed heritage, his “difference.” Faisal is susceptible to the teachings of charismatic preachers, who conjure up romantic visions of warriors fighting for glory in the name of their faith.

While Rosalie broods over the deception—sifting through her memories, reflecting on the nature of love, wondering how someone with whom she has had almost telepathic communication could also be so unknowable--she also weighs her practical options. Should she stay in the marriage or leave? If she chose to go, could she do so without her husband’s permission? Should she send her children away? Even if they could leave, would they want to?

There is a lot to love in this novel: There are gorgeous lyrical descriptions that capture the timelessness of the desert, the wide expanses of sea and sky, and make the reader feel, viscerally, what it like to live, breathe and move in the desert and near the Gulf waters. The story is riveting and skillfully paced. The author, who lived in Saudi Arabia as a child, understands the culture and history of the region, the sweeping generational changes and the fallout from 9/11. She deftly explores how shifting political winds and changing cultural norms exert pressure on individuals as they go about their daily lives and grapple with personal dilemmas.

The characterization is expert: the characters are rounded and complex and we have access to the full range of their thoughts and feelings. The author shows how memories are subtly altered as they are recollected through the lens of present joys or present griefs. She shows how we continue our internal debates with people from whom we have been separated for many years and by great distances; how the people we love sometimes appears to us to be semblances of their “real” selves. She reflects on love: how it has an “edge of fear,” is made up of “peculiar memories,” and contains the “lonely aches of former loves.” And she shows, in an immediate and sensory way, what it is like to experience tragedy: how curiosity, heightened awareness and detachment often accompany it and how, in the midst of it, we can register differences between the actual experience and the newspaper accounts of such experiences.

Faisal, the sixteen-year-old son is deftly and skillfully drawn. His nuanced portrayal offers a piece of the puzzle for readers searching for answers in the aftermath of 9/11. The novel shows how a potent mix of factors can propel a sensitive, uncertain boy towards actions that have serious consequences. Faisal’s natural temperament, adolescent longings for affirmation and identity, turbulent home life, anxiety in the face of rapid shifts in attitudes towards the West, romantic feelings for a mythic past, and his infatuation with charismatic men who bemoan the loss of tradition and uphold narrow notions of piety and manhood, all come together to set off a chain of fateful events.

Faisal is not some inflexible, hardened, narrow religious extremist. Rather, he is an obedient, soulful boy and longs for the purity, naturalness and decisiveness that existed in his grandfather’s time. He has been humiliated in his expensive Swiss school and when he returns home struggles to understand what it means to be a man. His father is too preoccupied by his business and love life, is not especially spiritual and is unapologetic about his love of modernity and wealth. His mother’s difference makes him feel different in a society where difference can suddenly become problematic. Because he often feels soft, obedient, ineffectual and too reverential, Faisal tries to compensate by assuming the role of a calculating, tight-lipped, stoic man who won’t hesitate to throw his weight and treat his parents like unruly children. He is aware of inequalities and feels the weight of secrets—his parents’ and the kingdom’s—and is susceptible to the influences of confident, enigmatic men.

The author deftly shows how an adolescent who is constantly struggling to invent himself, who panics at the thought of losing respect from others, who lacks his sister’s trusting heart, facility with words, clear mind and self-assurance, confuses manhood with physical actions and role-plays his way into radicalism. A crisis forces him to re-examine absolutist ideologies and turn away from extremism. The author carefully charts his growth and his acceptance of authenticity and responsibility.

"Ruins" raises thoughtful and probing questions for Muslims and non-Muslims alike. How do you live in a place and flourish to your potential? How do you develop resilience when faced with rapid change? How do you hang on to a trusting heart in places steeped in secrets? When is it appropriate to defer to authority and when to defy it? How do you voice concerns about injustice and hypocrisy without tipping into absolutism and muddled thinking? How do you respond to the power and beauty of prayers without succumbing to charismatic leaders who might preach prejudice? Why should words and touch be considered emasculating? How could faith be equated with glory and battle scars rather than compassion, understanding, serenity and sensitivity to suffering?

"Ruins of Us" is a wise, important novel with an exotic setting and a compelling, well-paced story. It is lyrically written and has many perceptive observations and profound insights about our interior lives. It is ideal for book clubs, and ideal for campus reading lists.

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