This is where The Sex Formula: How to Calculate Sexual Compatibility comes to the rescue. If you had known the formula before moving in together or committing to the relationship, you could have avoided the pain and frustration of being with someone with whom you are not sexually compatible. Sex may not be everything, but relationships are hard enough even when you are sexually compatible. If this part of the relationship is out of whack, it just makes life a lot tougher.
If you are already in a relationship, using The Sex Formula can help you understand what are your sexual needs, what are hers and discover if there is any common ground. How is this done? It is a very simple process and it begins with identifying three variables, making one calculation, repeating for your partner and then comparing the results. Yes, an actual mathematical computation is carried out and that is why the book is call The Sex Formula.
If you are not in a relationship but considering someone, using The Sex Formula to calculate sexual compatibility can be fun and informative. It may help you decide if the relationship is worth pursuing or not (at least in the sexual arena).
Sex, sensuality and love are three terms that are often poorly defined in our minds. Sex is the act, sensuality is a quality or way of being, and love is a feeling of caring for another. Typically, women’s experience of sex is different than ours which makes sense given the differences in biology, culture, and lived experience.
Unfortunately, there exists a major difference in response time between most men and women and we are travelling in opposite directions over the years regarding our libidos. Hers is increasing and ours is decreasing over time. Also, men like to have sex to become intimate and women want intimacy to have sex. Just another cosmic joke on Homo sapiens.
Since the sexual revolution and feminism, women have taken more responsibility for their sexual enjoyment and this has opened the door for more communication on the topic of sex between men and women. However, for many men and women this is surprisingly difficult given our history with sex, power, and communication between the sexes.
Honesty and the ability to determine what stops us from communicating are critical to learning how to navigate these uncharted waters. Sexual intensity changes over time and being able to communicate our hopes, dreams and even fantasies leads to improved intimacy and understanding of what each partner is going through as the relationship evolves.
The Bottom Line Sexual Needs Formula was created to help you assess your needs with regard to the quantity of sex that you need to have a successful relationship – or at least the sexual part. If you know these numbers before you get into a relationship and then find out your perspective partner’s Bottom Line and Sexual Fantasy you can determine through a Compatibility Comparison whether or not you are sexually compatible.
Guessing what women want sexually and does not work. Find out as quickly as possible by communicating with your body and with words before, during, and after the act. Clarity in this area will improve sex and enhance the overa