She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman Paperback – Illustrated, Jan. 5 2010
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- Publisher : William Morrow Paperbacks; New title edition (Jan. 5 2010)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 240 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0060538260
- ISBN-13 : 978-0060538262
- Item Weight : 272 g
- Dimensions : 13.97 x 1.35 x 20.96 cm
- Best Sellers Rank: #1,814 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- Customer Reviews:
“Required reading for all men who are dating and all women who are wondering why they’re not satisfied.” -- Cindy Chupack, writer/executive producer of Sex and the City
“Take note, guys. This book is your secret weapon.” -- Jauretsi Saizarbitoria, Jane Magazine
“Here comes a book that puts men in their places - smack dab in between women’s legs!” -- Cake
From the Back Cover
As women everywhere will attest, men are "ill-cliterate." Most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. But in the world of She Comes First, the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to sex therapist (and evangelist of the female orgasm) Ian Kerner, oral sex isn't just foreplay, it's coreplay: simply the best way to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again. Can you say "viva la vulva"?
Fun and informative, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and ensuring that sexual fulfillment is mutual.
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Some eyebrow raising sections in a good way and some areas where you get a good belly laugh so it really is one you DON'T want your kids to read early on, but as an adult, it does provide some valuable insights.
The old saying..."happy wife, happy life" could not be more true after reading this!
Having tried just about every thing this book describes , and with drawings too, I can't say enough good things about it .
Kerner succeeds at giving his audience the important resources and facts to know and doesn't rush in building up to the techniques and the action. He guides us through (and the 18 parts of the clitoris, that's right 18! Most of which you can't see). I suspect that even if you are a self-proclaimed expert you will learn from She Comes First and if you're a beginner this book will be of great help. Kerner talks about the clitoris as more than a love button and describes society as "Ill-cliterate". One of the best parts was the sings to recognize she is having an orgasm, often men can't tell the difference if she's a good screamer but the complete list that is given here is convincing and now I'm positive I can tell if a woman faked it with me. Some of the signs are obvious and some of them are not. There can also be times when you think she had or is about to orgasm but in reality you're scratching the surface and more time is needed. Kerner stresses a few times that the goal should be pleasure-oriented and not necessarily orgasm-oriented. A woman may not always orgasm but she will find it to be a pleasurable experience and want it more. The truth is there is a good percentage of women who can't get off simply on intercourse and oral is more pleasurable to them which is the entire premise of this work. The author stresses there are 3 parts to making love: foreplay, coreplay and moreplay, because if you're a male and you're done, chances are she's not. None of those should be overlooked, especially foreplay which unfortunately tends to be skipped by some men. There are three "acts" if you will, to She Comes First that combined make an excellent guide to oral sex and female orgasm and a fantastic read. That's probably the best part, the information is given in a manner that makes it captivating and interesting which some facts, statistics and cultural history thrown in. The book is NEVER a bore. One of my favorite parts is the following :"Hope is a fair maiden who slips through your hand. Recollection is a beautiful old woman of no use at the moment. Repetition is a beloved wife of whom one never tires of".
On a side note the only thing this book could improve upon is the diagrams of the genitals, I would have liked there be one that shows the aroused vulva as the author describes it (although he gives a fine detailed description). More diagrams, especially in different states of arousal would have been a nice touch but what's here is fine. I liked the diagrams that showed how to perform some of the techniques. They're drawn very well, obviously they're not pictures of the real thing but the depiction goes well with the overall vibe of She Comes First.
So ladies buy this book for your man, flip through it yourself and then "forget" it somewhere he will see it. Gents, you be well equipped to have this book in your possession... and read it. It's devoted entirely to her pleasure and you know she'll love it. Just remember it's about HER and not your EGO, take your time and make sure what's done really is done before you pat yourself on the back (if someone should do that it's her). The least She Comes First will do is make you realize that cunnilingus is often necessary for a female to orgasm, is pleasurable for both the male and female and give you techniques and tell you on specific areas to concentrate on. Excellent read, very recommended 5/5.
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So, I read it and I have to say... I learned things from Kerner about my OWN BODY that I didn’t even know! He really knows his stuff, and he has obviously done his... homework. 😉
A special note to women who have partners who could get by with a little less pride and ego... My partner wasn’t excited at all to get the book. Actually, he was pissed. I had been tried to drop sex hints and to let him know what I did or didn’t like countless times in countless (thought in more subtle and less direct) ways. I bring this up because any woman wanting to give this to her man needs to be aware that she could be opening one ugly can of worms. Knowing my partner, I knew deep-down that he would react this way because he likes to believe he’s amazing at everything and never go questioned (he’s now my ex). However, I chose to ignore that knowing that tried to arise. So, heed your intuition as to how you should go about getting this book. And if you discover that getting it would cause an explosive situation between you and your partner, then either you’re overdue in (1) leaving him, or (2) giving yourself permission to have needs and to have them met. Good luck ladies and gents!
Your other half will be very grateful, which will intern give nice paybacks for you.