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She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman Paperback – Illustrated, Jan. 5 2010

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As women everywhere will attest, men are "ill-cliterate." Most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. But in the world of She Comes First, the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to sex therapist (and evangelist of the female orgasm) Ian Kerner, oral sex isn't just foreplay, it's coreplay: simply the best way to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again. Can you say "viva la vulva"?

Fun and informative, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and ensuring that sexual fulfillment is mutual.

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Publisher : William Morrow Paperbacks; New title edition (Jan. 5 2010)
Language : English
Paperback : 240 pages
ISBN-10 : 0060538260
ISBN-13 : 978-0060538262
Item Weight : 272 g
Dimensions : 13.97 x 1.35 x 20.96 cm

Best Sellers Rank: #1,814 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #1 in Human Sexuality
- #4 in Sex Instruction (Books)
- #20 in Women's Health (Books)

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“An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!” -- Playgirl

“Required reading for all men who are dating and all women who are wondering why they’re not satisfied.” -- Cindy Chupack, writer/executive producer of Sex and the City

“Take note, guys. This book is your secret weapon.” -- Jauretsi Saizarbitoria, Jane Magazine

“Here comes a book that puts men in their places - smack dab in between women’s legs!” -- Cake

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As women everywhere will attest, men are "ill-cliterate." Most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. But in the world of She Comes First, the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to sex therapist (and evangelist of the female orgasm) Ian Kerner, oral sex isn't just foreplay, it's coreplay: simply the best way to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again. Can you say "viva la vulva"?

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Kaitlyn Mini

Educational for both men and women

Reviewed in Canada on August 2, 2019

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I enjoyed this book tremendously. The descriptive words and the pictures helping to understand everything were great. I liked to think that I knew all I could know about my own vulva and vagina but I truly did not. This was an eye opener and I was just trying to understand how I could give pointers to my boyfriend. I know he’s not going to read it because he simply hates reading but just going through it myself highlighting all the great tongue tips and understanding the processes of female orgasms is incredible. I always thought there was something wrong when I couldn’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation because of what we learn from porn but I’m glad I read this book. I flew through it in less than a day and it’s not over informing. Im sure I will be using this book to refer back to for the rest of my sexual life lol. Thank you!

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Well, a home run with my wife! This is one for the ages IMHO

Reviewed in Canada on September 30, 2020

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Our journey has led us here to this book and while initially I was skeptical, I'm glad, nay scratch that, happy to be reading this aloud with my wife!
Some eyebrow raising sections in a good way and some areas where you get a good belly laugh so it really is one you DON'T want your kids to read early on, but as an adult, it does provide some valuable insights.
The old saying..."happy wife, happy life" could not be more true after reading this!

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Neil

A muff divers guide to maritial bliss

Reviewed in Canada on June 22, 2018

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This is a definite guide to you being the best muff diver your lady, ( or ladies) will ever encounter.
Having tried just about every thing this book describes , and with drawings too, I can't say enough good things about it .

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T. Skylar

Can you say "Viva la vulva"?

Reviewed in Canada on March 15, 2012

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I was looking for a book that would help me be kinkier and hopefully teach me something about the female anatomy and the ways they experience pleasure. I read all the great reviews and praises and it seemed ideal and highly readable so I decided to give She Comes First a chance over a multitude of books on this fascinating and delicious subject. I was worried it would be one of those sex books who have a lot of words but don't say or teach us much. The reason She Comes First works is because the author Ian Kerner (a sex therapist with a PhD) makes those uncomfortable guys comfortable with the idea of cunnilingus and tells us why and how we should go down. I find his approach to this book to be refreshing because he really thinks of it as making love, and has a pleasure-oriented approach and has no problem making his points and ideas come across and comes off as a respectful well-mannered and educated gentleman and not as a sex-obsessed pig. He doesn't see women as objects and his objective with this book is basically to help men enjoy and appreciate the vulva in a different way and teach us a few things. The author genuinely seems to be of help to men and women around the world and I thank him for this.

Kerner succeeds at giving his audience the important resources and facts to know and doesn't rush in building up to the techniques and the action. He guides us through (and the 18 parts of the clitoris, that's right 18! Most of which you can't see). I suspect that even if you are a self-proclaimed expert you will learn from She Comes First and if you're a beginner this book will be of great help. Kerner talks about the clitoris as more than a love button and describes society as "Ill-cliterate". One of the best parts was the sings to recognize she is having an orgasm, often men can't tell the difference if she's a good screamer but the complete list that is given here is convincing and now I'm positive I can tell if a woman faked it with me. Some of the signs are obvious and some of them are not. There can also be times when you think she had or is about to orgasm but in reality you're scratching the surface and more time is needed. Kerner stresses a few times that the goal should be pleasure-oriented and not necessarily orgasm-oriented. A woman may not always orgasm but she will find it to be a pleasurable experience and want it more. The truth is there is a good percentage of women who can't get off simply on intercourse and oral is more pleasurable to them which is the entire premise of this work. The author stresses there are 3 parts to making love: foreplay, coreplay and moreplay, because if you're a male and you're done, chances are she's not. None of those should be overlooked, especially foreplay which unfortunately tends to be skipped by some men. There are three "acts" if you will, to She Comes First that combined make an excellent guide to oral sex and female orgasm and a fantastic read. That's probably the best part, the information is given in a manner that makes it captivating and interesting which some facts, statistics and cultural history thrown in. The book is NEVER a bore. One of my favorite parts is the following :"Hope is a fair maiden who slips through your hand. Recollection is a beautiful old woman of no use at the moment. Repetition is a beloved wife of whom one never tires of".

On a side note the only thing this book could improve upon is the diagrams of the genitals, I would have liked there be one that shows the aroused vulva as the author describes it (although he gives a fine detailed description). More diagrams, especially in different states of arousal would have been a nice touch but what's here is fine. I liked the diagrams that showed how to perform some of the techniques. They're drawn very well, obviously they're not pictures of the real thing but the depiction goes well with the overall vibe of She Comes First.

So ladies buy this book for your man, flip through it yourself and then "forget" it somewhere he will see it. Gents, you be well equipped to have this book in your possession... and read it. It's devoted entirely to her pleasure and you know she'll love it. Just remember it's about HER and not your EGO, take your time and make sure what's done really is done before you pat yourself on the back (if someone should do that it's her). The least She Comes First will do is make you realize that cunnilingus is often necessary for a female to orgasm, is pleasurable for both the male and female and give you techniques and tell you on specific areas to concentrate on. Excellent read, very recommended 5/5.

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Deliska

très instruitif

Reviewed in Canada on September 4, 2018

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Cet homme montre comment satisfaire une femme. Moi, personnellement, je serais fatigué si je faisais l'amour avec lui. Et pourtant j'aime faire l'amour.

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JanOttawa

Excellent for both men and women.

Reviewed in Canada on December 7, 2017

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This is a very educational book that reads like a good novel, full of wonderful detail and how to steps. It is written with grand humour. I laughed out loud several times when reading it. The author has style and sensitivity for for the subject matter. So happy I read this.

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I recommend

Reviewed in Canada on May 8, 2019

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Alright alright alright. You wanna learn about your anatomie and the way to understand yourself . Women !! Its a must . 3/4 of book help me so much as a woman .

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Benjamin Diplock

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade

Reviewed in Canada on January 5, 2013

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I picked up this novel with the intention of learning something new about a pretty important, yet hush-hushed, aspect of life. The novels structure helped me to follow along and build up knowledge without getting too swamped with information to continue. What I learned was extremely interesting and applicable to real life - plain and simple. I have learned since, through applying my knowledge, that the steps to success are not necessarily universal (one technique does not get it done for every woman - due to mental, physiological or emotional factors not considered in the novel) in their order. Keeping in mind the 3 principles he provides, sometimes switching the method within the bounds of the readings is necessary to produce success. Though this does not take away from the fact that the information Ian Kerner provides results in a better informed reader and more caring and compassionate lover and friend. You are given the information - the lemons - it is you choice and foresight that will determine how you manipulate or turn this raw info into lemonade!

Enjoy!

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Doc Man

Mixed

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on July 27, 2017

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some good content but very American style with labouring a point and loads of repetition. Irritating to read but some good techniques.

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Martin

She comes first

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 13, 2018

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A detailed analysis of the art of cunnilingus which deserves a second reading to absorb the techniques. Even at my age I still need to improve my style

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Gloria Ackah

A great read for women too!

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on May 10, 2020

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Great book even for women to read. I learnt so much from reading this book about my sexual organ. A must read indeed!

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I Learned Things About My Body FROM A MAN?!

Reviewed in the United States on December 26, 2018

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I got this book hoping my partner would be open to reading it, but before giving it to him, I read it for myself. Because I had SERIOUS doubts that a man could know the woman body. Especially intimately and sexually! 😂

So, I read it and I have to say... I learned things from Kerner about my OWN BODY that I didn’t even know! He really knows his stuff, and he has obviously done his... homework. 😉

A special note to women who have partners who could get by with a little less pride and ego... My partner wasn’t excited at all to get the book. Actually, he was pissed. I had been tried to drop sex hints and to let him know what I did or didn’t like countless times in countless (thought in more subtle and less direct) ways. I bring this up because any woman wanting to give this to her man needs to be aware that she could be opening one ugly can of worms. Knowing my partner, I knew deep-down that he would react this way because he likes to believe he’s amazing at everything and never go questioned (he’s now my ex). However, I chose to ignore that knowing that tried to arise. So, heed your intuition as to how you should go about getting this book. And if you discover that getting it would cause an explosive situation between you and your partner, then either you’re overdue in (1) leaving him, or (2) giving yourself permission to have needs and to have them met. Good luck ladies and gents!

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Dylan

It works!

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on November 5, 2016

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Trust me, buy this book it works put the effort in, don't rush and - she will - every time!
Your other half will be very grateful, which will intern give nice paybacks for you.

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