Trust Rules: How to Tell the Good Guys from the Bad Guys in Work and Life Paperback – Nov 15 2009
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"Stroh (business, Loyola Univ., Chicago) has written a very interesting book about how to determine the trustworthiness of colleagues in the workplace, as well as personal acquaintances. Trustworthiness is an important component of successful business relationships today, and this book considers a key component of organizational behavior in a unique, effective manner. The author addresses the common problems of trusting the wrong people and suffering the consequences. She also discusses how to determine who is trustworthy and what to do with people who are not, as well as how to assess relationships to see how they have evolved over time. The book includes a Trust Rules Questionnaire that serves as an evaluation tool for determining the trustworthiness of confidants. Stroh suggests that people periodically reassess their relationships with those they trust, to assess current situations. She includes important information from a variety of successful business practitioners regarding their wisdom and evaluation of what it means to be trustworthy in the business world. Her methodology includes surveys and personal interviews with hundreds of business practitioners, and her outcomes are useful for evaluative purposes. Recommended. General readers; students, upper-division undergraduate and up; and practitioners." - Choice
"Having interviewed 300-plus people on the topic of trust, Stroh….[h]ere compiles guidelines and tools to develop more accurate perceptions. She offers definitions of and rules for assessing trustworthiness as well as examples of trustworthy people in the dating, business, and everyday spheres. She also presents chapters on betrayal, second chances, reconciliation, and coping mechanisms. Interestingly, she includes a chapter on trusting oneself (e.g., to diet, be more patient, quit an affair). For a topic so integral to everyday life, trust is rarely so thoroughly explored as it is here. Recommended for all libraries." - Library Journal
"Stroh (business, Loyola University) argues that trust is a prerequisite for effective management, and that it contributes directly to personal success. To find out how to tell the 'good guys' from the 'bad guys,' she interviewed about 300 people, resulting in a compendium of lively stories, lessons learned in the trenches, principles, and practical tools. Integrating insights from management and psychology, she shows how to pay attention to red flags in relationships and develop a network of trustworthy people who will help readers succeed in business and in their personal lives." - Reference and Research Book News
"Stroh, a business professor at Loyola University in Chicago, offers a primer on trust in the workplace, based on interviews with more than 300 peoplefrom manufacturing-line workers to the CEOs of major multinationals from Mattel to Gillettewho give their views on whom you can trust at work, whom you can't, and why. One suggestion: Don't use your gut when evaluating people. Rather, Stroh recommends using a multipoint mental checklist such as taking note when someone tactfully tells you that you've made a big mistake. You can't trust sycophants." - U.S.News & World Report --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
"This book is a practical, straightforward discussion of THE most important topic in business today." (Robert A. Eckert, Chairman of the Board and CEO, Mattel Inc.)
"Linda has successfully captured the essence of good vs. bad in both our professional and personal lives. There's an example here, or more important, a way to think about our future, that's completely relevant to us all. This book will shine a bright light on your inner circle--how to identify it, shape it, and be the better on account of it." (Richard H. Lenny, Chairman of the Board, President, and CEO, Hershey Company)
"Stroh challenges us to look at the hard evidence in determining on which side of the Good Guy/Bad Guy ledger those with whom we have close social or business relationships fall. Doing so is critical in our lives--and Trust Rules gives us outstanding guidelines and tools for developing more accurate perceptions." (Dave Weiner, Author and Founder and CEO, Marketing Support)
"Linda Stroh brings systematic thought to an issue that is at the center of all human relationships. Her view is both analytical and personal. The many stories that enrich the text are easy to relate to. Linda has derived from these stories principals that we can all use in our work and everyday lives. This book is very engaging, practical, and thought-provoking." (Dr. Anna Lieblich, Ph.D, MSW, Clinical Faculty, The Family Institute at Northwestern University) --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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common sense, but it packs a wallop. Our highly mobile society means
that we are constantly meeting strangers whose true lives we cannot
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It becomes clear that trust is a foundational basis for all of our interactions, and Stroh helps to evolve the concept of trust from an enigmatic 'subjective' concept to something that we can measure and make conscious decisions on whom to trust (and whom to not trust... and the results might be suprising to each reader). It is clear that each of our lives can be improved by taking a methodical approach to trust in the workplace and, most importantly, in our personal lives -- something that is too frequently lacking. Stroh provides wonderful case studies from business leaders and people from diverse backgrounds as points of reference on how trust decisions can improve our relationships. Most importantly, she provides a framework to help us all improve the 'trust' decisions in our own lives.
I loved this book and I loved the thoughful and academic approach to trust in our lives.
Building upon knowledge learned in previous chapters, Dr. Stroh then moves you on into your own interpersonal relationships. Is there any difference between the trust you have for work peers versus your own friends or family, for example? Can you trust too much? Finally, and very gently, Dr. Stroh leads you into a self-examination of yourself. Worksheets help you figure out just how "good a guy" you are to other people. How much do you trust a person right-off the bat? And in the end, where does this leave you as a human being.
Insightful, thought-provoking yet entertaining, I don't know why it has taken so long for an author to write on a subject like this. I recommend it as one of those "Course Level 101" books on the basics we all need for human life skills.
It was a good lesson to check up on oneself as well as wondering about the other guy all the time. Her thoughtful progression and list of characteristics of "good guys" was interesting and helpful. I found her actual examples reassuring to know that others have experienced the same betrayals at times that I had.
Her husband's assessment that if you feel you can introduce the person to your family hit the mark.
I enjoyed the book and I know that Dr. Stroh is one of the "good guys". Jacqueline McGuire, Lowville, N.Y.
It asks the simple yet loaded question: "Who can and can't you trust?" The book proceeds to break down the qualities of honest, trustworthy people through the eyes of successful folk from all walks of life and explores the qualities of those whom are untrustworthy. Scattered throughout are vivid accounts of the many blessings reaped from healthy trusting relationships as well as painful recollections of the betrayal, hurt, and anger that stem from misplaced trust. Through a path of self-examination, we are made aware of our own propensity to trust and if we ourselves are untrustworthy. I especially liked how Stroh compared and contrasted the differences between trust in our professional and personal lives and how oftentimes our `gut-feeling' is prone to error. Instead, Trust Rules challenges us to proactively choose whom we confide in and to what degree we make ourselves vulnerable to others. Stroh advocates for an objective assessment of `trustworthiness' through the use of her trust rules tool kit and provides a framework for one to ultimately forgive and (if we choose to!) reconcile with those who have harmed us.
It is a thoughtful and entertaining read that provides simple life lessons that have large and meaningful impacts. Admittedly, her techniques have vastly improved the quality of relationships in my life and I would highly recommend Trust Rules!