It Will Never Happen to Me!: Growing up with Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults Mass Market Paperback – Sep 12 1987
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This "little green book," as it has come to be known to hundreds of thousands of C.O.A.'s and A.C.O.A.'s, is meant to help the reader understand the roles children in alcoholic families adopt, the problems they face in adulthood as a result, and what they can do to break the pattern of destruction.
About the Author
Black is a worldwide lecturer and trainer in the field of children of alcoholics. Dr. Black has a master's degree in social work and a doctorate in social psychology and is the founder and president of Claudja, Inc., a consulting firm in South Laguna.
Black Artemis is a hip hop activist, writer, and speaker in New York City. She holds a master's degree from Columbia University and has worked with many social justice organizations throughout the country. Artemis is also a screenwriter who has won recognition for her work. She still lives in the Bronx where she was born and raised and enjoys working with youth to find their voice through art and politics.
Top Customer Reviews
A central theme of the book is an exploration of the roles that ACOA adopt as a means of coping with the events around them - the responsible one, the adjuster, the placater and so on. Often in childhood these roles are appropriate in that they enable the child to cope with their often traumatic experiences. However, in adulthood the over-dependency on these roles can lead to obsessions, neurosis, mental health problems amongst other issues. Furthermore, in a family where alcohol is used in an unhealthy manner the child learns to 'don't talk, don't trust and don't feel'. Claudia Black gives the reader an insight in to the possibilities that exist for the adult child to break away from the scripts that have been set for them by others. The message is 'it doesn't have to be this way'.
I was the responsible child, the hero of my family. I did well at school, was good at sports, succeeded in almost all areas. I went on the University, gained a good degree, a counselling qualification and then a Masters - as an adult I was fulfilling my script to be responsible, to achieve, to be the hero. I was also in a succession of relationships where I took on the role of carer, replicating the role that had developed in my family.Read more ›
It helped me to step back and begin the long, often painful process of working through my memories and relationships. I am a much healthier person for it. Thanks Claudia!
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Excellent value for the content. Remains a valuable tool in recovery.Published 10 months ago by Maureen O'Shea
This is an excellent book for any one who has lived in an alcoholic and emotionally abusive home. It explained the mysteries of my childhood.It Will Never Happen to Me! Read morePublished on April 23 2012 by LN Bayne
I read it like a month ago and it changed the way I look into my life. I recommend it to all the ones who say 'It will never happen to me'.Published on April 16 2004
Highly recomend even if you just know somone who grew up with alcohol in the family.Published on April 13 2002 by E. Sankey
It Will Never Happen to Me is a book about the children of alcoholics. This book was not hard to read in terms of language, but instead subject matter. Read morePublished on March 17 2001 by Melissa L. Hutchins
As an adult child of an alcoholic this book woke me up. I had never participated in Al-Anon meetings and this book was a great first start. Read morePublished on March 1 2001 by TAMMY L HARRISON
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