The ideas in this book were life changing for me. The author of this book counselled my wife and I over 20 years ago and it transformed our marriage. I had no idea at the time that I was excercising power and control with my relationship with my wife in a very negative way. It helped me to own that and then to start to realize how much power I had in my relationship with my wife to bless and love her. My wife and I now lead a marriage ministry in a church and the ideas in this book I use on almost a daily basis.