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on March 2, 2017
Arrived quickly. Content was not exactly as I anticipated. It was interesting though.
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on August 10, 2015
This month for book club we are reading a non-fiction book called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain. I was very hesitant on picking this book up because I already have a few non-fiction books on the go. Adding another didn’t seem like a good idea. And it is, however I am enjoying it.

So these are this weeks questions
1. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? How/when did you discover this? Do the people in your life (friends, family, coworkers) understand this about you and what it means you need?
I am definitely an introvert. Though for many years I have played being an extrovert. I knew I was being drained and it was slowly making me sick and hate working. I quit my job on January 2 and since then have hidden away at home. I feel like I am slowly recharging. My family definitely doesn’t understand why I am not yet looking for work. They don’t understand that I am so overstimulated that I need this space at home.

2. It was interesting for me to learn that the rise of the Extrovert Ideal coincided with the increasing move into urban areas, working in factories and otherwise interacting with strangers. Do you think our culture will swing the other way now with more and more people working online exclusively, from home or with limited work contact with others in person?
I don’t think the extrovert ideal is going anywhere. But I do think it’s changing. With the online community and the shift to working at home, introverts can start to thrive more.

3. What is the difference between being extroverted and being a leader? Is there a difference? Do they always go hand in hand? (Do you think the quiet leaders detailed in the book ever had to fake being extroverted on their way to the top?)
Extroverts don’t listen, this is the major reason I just quit my job. My boss is very much like Tony Robbins first mentioned on page 34. She is absolutely the worst manager I have ever had. It was a great growing experience for me, to understand how I could not work with a person like that. Many of my previous managers are fake extroverts who have made their way to the top, and that is why a lot of them are still some of my favorite people.
I think that whether a leader is an extrovert or an introvert how they deal with things greatly comes from their life experiences. Some extroverts may handle things poorly. While others may have a good balance. Some like my old manager may hopefully grow into the role better as time moves on and they evolve.

The one thing I wish I could include on my blog is the Facebook conversation. It was so interesting reading people’s answer to the questions and seeing the different views. If you would like, join the NovelTea Book Club here.

Other Things:
Having only it made it through the Introduction and Chapters 1 & 2, there’s a lot of highlights I would like to share!

“Introverts living under the Extrovert Ideal are like women in a man’s world, discounted because of a trait that goes to the core of who they are.”

Introvert People that surprised me: Eleanor Roosevelt, Warren Buffett, Gandhi, Rosa Parks.

Email List called the Introvert Retreat

“It implies that every encounter is a high-stakes game in which we win or lose the other person’s favor” – this is how I felt about work. Every person I met was that “potential” customer and when I didn’t get them as a customer SHAME.

“Bus to Abelene” – very interesting anecdote

Chapter Two – Does God Love Introverts? An Evangelical’s Dilemma
I don’t do religion. When it’s in books I usually put it down and refuse to pick it up, unless I am doing it for a specific reason or for research. So when Chapter two dedicated a whole section to religion I was disappointed. But then I started reading. I underlined a lot of this section. Because it put into words what I use to feel when I did attend church.
“Events like this (as in big church services) don’t give me the sense of oneness others seem to enjoy, it’s always been private occasions that make me feel connected to the joys and sorrows of the world.”

” “Everything in the service involved communication,” he says with a gentle exasperation. “Greeting people, the lengthy sermon, the singing. There was no emphasis on quiet, liturgy, ritual, things that give you space for contemplation.”
And this one remembers me of On the fence Christians (ones who are Christians on Sundays and the worst during the rest of the week)
“If you don’t love Jesus out loud, then it must not be real love. It’s not enough to forge your own spiritual connection to the divine; it must be displayed publicly.”

Sarah Cain should write something called and about “Learning to Negotiate when you’re an Introvert” – I’d read it

Part Two
When I started reading, I identified myself as a True Introvert. In fact when I took the Jung Test (test number 1) and the 16 Personality Test (test number 2) my introversion was excessively high scoring.

Introvert 100% second test 86%
Intuitive 12% second test 28%
Feelings 12% second test 13%
Judging 56% second test 51%
second test 23% Turbulent

But the more I read into the book and reflect on my past, the more I think the test results are subject to how I am now feel. I have always been shy but until I worked for the bank I have always been up to anything and have always hated being home. 10 months of working at the bank I switch to a back office position where I was stuck in a cubicle all day. It was terrible, I hated every second of it until I was able to transfer out 10 months later into a role front customer facing. My role after that was even more, greet meet and direct, you had to be bubbly, out-going and able to multi-task events and clients. I loved almost every single minute of that job.

The next role is what almost killed me. It was a slow drain of energy with no ability of recharging after two and a half years, I quit. This role is what has made me really turn into myself and what has made me feel like an introvert. It’s going to take my body and mind a long time to recharge and that’s what brought me test results above.

I think I am more of a Ambivert – have introvert and extrovert traits, but in balance.

I also think that because of how run down I’ve become, due to only playing on the Extrovert side of my personality, the introvert side is taking over very heavily right now to compensate. Eventually I will balance out (hopefully). It’s an interesting time to read this book. I have been confused by what I’ve been feeling and this is really helping me understand and put it to terms. And so I am taking my time to read and understand. I want to retain what I read verses my normal reading pattern.

March 13 – Questions
1) What are the benefits of working alone versus working on a team (when you are working on a creative project)? Which do you prefer or find more useful? In what circumstances?
My one team experience was in a severe sales role. Where we depended on each other to run events but the sales numbers were your own. It was competitive and dysfunctional. I am not a competitive person so I was okay with not stealing sales, I also took longer with my clients and got a high rate of good clients verses my co-workers. However in the end it’s a numbers game and that’s all banks general care about. This was not the best environment for me to work with.
Now within my own personal projects where I am working with a team of people, we all work within our own homes and on our computers. Skyping when needed, we function as a team contributing equally but separately. It is my favorite way to work and I would love to find an actual paying job that allows me to do this.

2) How is your workspace set up and how does it affect your work? How does your online work and relationship differ from in-person?
As I am not working, my personal projects are slow but steadily growing. I am learning on to manage my time and learning how to become productive in this environment. It’s very different from every other environment I have ever worked within. I also have to remember to keep myself motivated. I read best when I am fresh from a trip out or late at night. So I have adjusted my schedule to accommodate for this.
In person I now come across as shy and quiet. When I was working I was rather bold and would direct approach. I am amazed at how much I have changed since January 2.

3) Nature vs Nurture — Have you observed one or the other in your own life?
This is such an interesting concept. My nature is Ambivert as mentioned above. But I nurtured myself into a very extroverted role. Now that I have been removed myself from that place I find I am very introverted. I think as I grow I will balance out more. I have definitely observed both within my life.

4) What is your sensory “sweet spot”? How much stimulation is optimal for you?
My sensory sweet spot is a phone call, skype date or coffee date with a gorgeous friend a few time a week. These keep me motivated and consistently able to produce good work. I find that if I don’t allow myself those meetings or arrangements I get way less done and start to depress which is never a good sign. I just have to remember not to hide from those amazing people.

5) How have you noticed your own sensitivity or empathy level? Are you more like Eleanor Roosevelt or FDR? How is your sensitivity different than your intro/extroversion?
I love Eleanor Roosevelt!! She is amazing, I never knew anything about her before. I definitely relate to her. Especially because I’ve done speeches and meetings, definitely not anywhere near her level. But she is amazing.
I have become very desensitized. One part of me is annoyed by this. I use to be so observant. I could notice a single change in a persons mood, expression, or clothing. It was a great skill. But I do think I have lost that skill – I’m gonna blame my last job 😉

I am really hoping I can finish the book by Wednesday, I figured out my “sweet spot” to reading it, be walking or at a coffee shop! So I plan to do that all for the rest of today, aka walking to a coffee shop. Though I am bringing Kevin, so not sure how much work will be done :)

Part Three
When reading fiction I can read 50 pages in a half hour. So a book that is 271 pages (in the case of Quiet), I should technically be able to devour it under 3 hours. However this hasn’t been the case. I read a page here or there wait a day or two and then end up rereading it. It’s a struggle.

I am glad for the learning experience of the book. It’s taught me allot about myself. But as of now I am only on page 166 and that’s 111 pages short of the end. I am choosing not to finish this book. But to one day come back. I want to save the questions from book club that I haven’t yet answered for that time as well.

March 20th Questions
1) What is your reward sensitivity? Do you find a correlation between high reward sensitivity and the extroverts in your life (or low reward sensitivity and introverts)?
I feel I am on the mid scale for sensitivity – I can be competitive (especially when playing PowerGrid) but overall I think I am on the lower end of the scale. I think this is true for a lot of the people I know, especially my university student friends

2) What do you think would be the best way for extroverts to slow down and be more thoughtful, or for introverts to embrace spontaneity/adventure?
Experience, it comes down to learning when you need to slow down and when you need to embrace spontaneity. But its variable for every person.

3) Soft power / quiet persistence — Do you have any introverts in your life who demonstrate this quality? Do you think they are leaders or influential? Do you notice any advantages or disadvantages to quiet persistence?
Yes, I know a few people. I believe they are both leaders but that neither have yet to find that niche. Quiet persistence reminds me of the tale of the Bunny and the Turtle – slow wins the race.

4) Does anyone in this group consider themselves an ambivert (both extro- and introvert fluid)?
I am definitely an ambivert as mentioned in the earlier. That was very enlightening for me. I am very curious how I will change over the next few years.

5) Do you pretend to be the opposite of your true nature when the situation warrants? If you’re an introvert, do you make an effort to be more outgoing? If you’re an extrovert, do you make an effort to be more circumspect and observing? Do you have any problem with people who act the part?
As an ambivert I do play to whatever side is needed at the time. Most times this doesn’t affect me negatively unless I play one side for too long :)
I don’t have a problem with people who act the part, as long as they are happy with themselves and stay true to who they are.
The unanswered questions for one day!
March 27th Questions
1) The communication gap — I felt like Chp 10 did well at illustrating the communication gap between introverts and extroverts, but not really how to overcome it. Thoughts? Recommendations? Have you experienced similar fights/discussions in your own life?

2) Susan Cain calls for a Quiet Revolution. Would you like to see this kind of movement take place and if so what is the #1 change you’d like to see happen?
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The introverts of Susan Cain's new book, 'Quiet,' don't experience their inwardness positively; rather, they see it as "somewhere between a disappointment and a pathology." Many even fake extroversion through ebullience, dominance, risk-taking and thoughtlessness with disastrous results. Thus, in a book that combines reporting and social science research, Cain argues that we must now establish a "greater balance of power" between those who rush to speak and do and those who sit back and think.

A long and ploddingly earnest book, "Quiet" is at its best on the subject of children. Cain's accounts of introverted kids misunderstood and mishandled by their parents sheds light on the perceived negative trait of shyness. Cain's insights into the stresses of nonstop socializing for some children are welcome; her advice that parents should choose to view their introverted offspring's social style with understanding rather than fear is well worth hearing.

Cain convinces less when she writes about adults. Her definition of introversion widens constantly and ultimately expands to include anyone who is 'reflective, cerebral, bookish, unassuming, sensitive, thoughtful, serious, contemplative, subtle, introspective, inner-directed, gentle, calm, modest, solitude-seeking, shy, risk-averse, thin-skinned.' The category thus becomes meaningless. Another problem with Cain's argument is her assumption that most introverts are actually suffering in their self-esteem. This may be true among business school attendees but a world of introverts does exist in which citizens are quite contented.

Bottom line for the extroverts out there: 'Remember, someone you know, respect and interact with every day is an introvert, and you are probably driving this person nuts.'
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on August 25, 2014
A good read for introverts. It might be somewhat off putting to extroverts. But wait! Perhaps they won't have time to read it!.
The first few chapters about successful people rang very "American". If you can stick it out to chapters 5 and beyond, it is informative.
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on June 2, 2014
I think it was interesting for the most part because I can relate to a lot of it but anyone can really. Lots of interesting examples of people or situations highlighting ways to acknowledge your personality type and adapt....Read it if you like this sort of introspective stuff.
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on May 25, 2016
Didn't convince me that I'm all that powerful because I'm an introvert but it was interesting. I wish extroverts could be convinced to value introverts more.
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on April 6, 2012
Quiet, by Susan Cain is okay: it's not a great book, and it's not a complete waste of time either. I watched a video online of the author speaking about her book on introversion at TED event and thought, 'that looks like an interesting read.' Unfortunately, most of the scientific evidence she relies upon is presented in that brief talk, and so are most of the lessons that can be gleaned from her study of introverts. The book is repetitive, anecdotal, and plodding. It would have made a fantastic long essay in a publication like Psychology Today or The Atlantic, but she didn't need 270 pages.
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on August 9, 2015
Would prefer if the research was presented in a factual way with no voice from the author - it only distracts.
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on October 26, 2016
I haven't finished this book but what I have read is very enlightening
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on January 5, 2013
The book starts off with a definition of introversion that is so wide it includes pretty much anyone who spends time thinking, which might have put me in a bad mood for the rest of the book. Then various famous successful people are collected who were purportedly introverts according to this broad definition. The collection includes such titans as Moses, Rosa Parks, Eleanor Roosevelt and Bill Gates. But all is not lost. Strewn amongst longwinded anecdotes about the author's own beliefs and her personal history are little nuggets of interesting research, and visits to interesting places like a conference for the highly sensitive. I agree with other reviewers who found the material could easily have been condensed into one good article or very short volume. As is, you really have to work to get to the insightful bits, like the ineffectiveness of group work and team brainstorming. These are presented along with non- insights such as this forehead slapper: Bill Gates will never be Bill Clinton and Bill Clinton will never be Bill Gates! I find when the book cover features awesome reviews mainly from other authors, you know you are in for a just okay book. And that's the case here.
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