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Mostly feel-good fluff
on July 2, 2003
One wishes for a thorough and effective treatment of worry, probably based on CBT. For instance, Basco's book "Never Good Enough" on perfectionism. Unfortunately, this isn't that.
In the interests of motivating and directing improvement, I will don the critic's cap.
The book begins with an effective practice, which is reframing expectations as "wonder". So instead of obsessing over hopes and fears, adopt a sense of "wondering" what will happen. Rewrite your messages to yourself from "I hope things work out like so" to "I wonder how things will work out."
One wonders, indeed, how the passivity from this verbal tranquilizer would play out across society, with people not whipping themselves into improvement. Obviously there would be plenty of happier more peaceful people, but perhaps all would wonder when the trains would arrive, if ever.
With that auspicious start one wonders through the rest of the book if anything else of applicability will be presented, but it devolves into a slightly new-age, feel-good fluff fest with a somewhat feminine targeting. The only scraps worth keeping come from a handful of recycled quotes of others, like Feynman's satisfaction with ignorance, Ziglar's postulate that "every obnoxious act is a cry for help," and a poet's observation that we enjoy games because they "make things hard for the fun of it."